very discouraged.....

Discussion in 'Long Term Trying To Conceive' started by wntourbby, Nov 12, 2011.

  1. wntourbby

    wntourbby Member

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    I have been taking clomid since july 2011 and I still haven't gotten pregnant. I have pcos and am begining to think that this will never happen for us and it is really getting to me! I can't think about it without crying! When my cycle starts it makes me so sad! i really hate this and want to do something so that we can finally have our little one! Even my husband gets sad for me when I get my period, it makes me feel like I cant give him what we want like im not a real woman. If anyone has any tips on what could help us or give me any advice please do so! Thank you! :nope:
     
  2. wanting2010

    wanting2010 Finally a Mommy!

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    I don't really have any tips but just wanted to say you're not alone. I definitely know how you feel. TTC is such a frustrating and heartbreaking process, especially when you're getting treatment and it doesn't seem to work. If you're ovulating, that's at least a step in the right direction! Keep your chin up!! Good luck! :hugs:
     
  3. wntourbby

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    thank you for reading my post and responding! I am trying to keep my head up but it is hard. The first doctor I went to misdiagnosed my pcos and told me I was too young (I'm 22) to worry about getting pregnant! Needless to say i changed my obgyn. My new doc prescribed the clomid in July and I have an appointment next Thursday and I hope my doc gives me something new to try! It is good to hear that others have been through this and can give advice but it is so hard to be around others who are pregnant.
     
  4. wanting2010

    wanting2010 Finally a Mommy!

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    Wow, I would have definitely changed doctors too. It's not their business to give their opinion about whether you're too young to TTC! Ugh. Luckily I've had super understanding doctors who haven't discounted my TTC issues because of my age - I'm 24 now, had just turned 23 when I started TTC.

    How has the Clomid been treating you? I did 5 rounds of Clomid and absolutely hated it - all the side effects and all that were terrible for me. I tried Femara after the Clomid and liked it a lot better, but unfortunately I never ovulated with that. A lot of doctors prefer Femara to Clomid and have more success with it, too, since it doesn't have the negative effects on lining and CM that Clomid can have! Might be something to ask your doctor about if you'd like to try something different from Clomid!

    I know what you mean about it being hard to be around others who are pregnant. I hate the jealousy, but it's hard not to be jealous when someone has something that you want so badly. :cry:
     
  5. wntourbby

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    I had a feeling that i had pcos and the cysts on my ovaries to show but she told me i didn't and I didn't find out for sure for another year when I switched docs! My new doc is very helpful and thorough and I think he will help me but honestly I think I will have to go to a fertility doc! Thats something I really dont want to do! I just dont understand how it can be SO EXTREMELY hard for us yet there are millions of SUPER FERTILE people who dont even take care of their kids! Its not fair!

    sorrry about venting!:cry:

    I never show my jealousy to people but those close to me know it! My best friend just told me she was pregnant and to be honest she is the only person in a very long time that as soon as I heard the news I wasnt sayin something mean in my head!
     
  6. wntourbby

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    Sorry about the venting I just did!

    About the clomid, honestly, I haven't had any side effects except my period went from every 35-37 days to exactly every 28! And that is something that I ahev never had in my life!!!

    My cycles have always fluctuated! I had my first one when I was 12 and then didn't have another one for a year! And from then on they were every few months! I was never even semi "regular" until I was 19 or 20!
     
  7. wanting2010

    wanting2010 Finally a Mommy!

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    No need to apologize for venting!! BnB is a great place to get all that stuff off your chest, haha. I totally understand what you're saying, in fact, I'm sure I've said the same exact things before! It doesn't seem fair that people who don't want kids or who treat their kids badly can get pregnant at the drop of a hat, yet some people who really, really want kids struggle with it! I don't understand it at all. I had a really rough time earlier this year because my 14 year old cousin got pregnant, and I just couldn't understand WHY her and not me, ya know? It crushed me. Sometimes it seems like EVERYONE is pregnant, and it's hard to put on a happy face when you find out that someone else is pregnant. There have been many times when I've congratulated someone on their pregnancy and then went and hid in a bathroom or something and cried my eyes out. I hate that bitterness and jealousy but I just don't know how to get rid of it.

    That's great that you have a good doctor now. I loved my OB/GYN, and I love my RE. Having a good doctor makes all the difference in the world. I was really scared when I first went from seeing an OB/GYN to seeing my fertility specialist, but I'm so glad that I made that move because my RE is wonderful and so knowledgable.

    You're definitely one of the lucky ones who don't have problems with Clomid!! When I was on 50 mg it wasn't too terrible, but on 150 mg it was just awful. I was so depressed and had major mood swings and hot flashes and all that.

    I've always been really irregular ever since my first period. My longest cycle (that I counted) was close to 200 days, and that's when I went to my OB/GYN and was diagnosed with PCOS. I don't ovulate on my own at all. I've been taking Provera to bring on AF ever since starting to TTC.
     
  8. Damita

    Damita Mummy of 2 <3

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    :hugs: :hugs: I am on clomid too - not pregnant yet, hoep your doctor can give you some help hun
     
  9. Irish_eyes

    Irish_eyes ~hoping for a miracle~

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    I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone pet and BnB is a place to come to vent and get support. xxx

    I also wanted to let you know that I know a few people who have PCOS and have falling pregnant with out any medical help. My next door neighbour has two boys and she has PCOS and one of my BnB friends has PCOS and one ovary and she has a lovely wee girl and boy. So it can still happen for you.

    I also have read somewhere that a low GI diet is really good for PCOS. If you got to Amazon and search for diet for PCOS you will see some books on it or just do a google search.

    xxx
     
  10. mrshay

    mrshay Just pregnant with first

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    Hey darl,

    I so know what you mean. It's been nearly 2.5 years trying for us and everyone just says not to worry because I'm still young (23), but to me that makes no difference, the pain and the desire for a baby is just as real for us.

    I just saw a new doctor and she suggested Metformin & Clomid together. I'm also going to try Preseed and maybe softcups. We're doing Metformin for a few months before Clomid, hubby dpesnt want the risk of multiples.

    So try the Metformin & Clomid together.

    Let me know how you get on.

    x
     
  11. manchester1

    manchester1 One gorgeous baby girl

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    hiya
    im 23 with pcos, and ive taken i think 8 cycles of clomid. currently in my 2ww of my 8th cycle.

    but we are going ahead with IVF at the end of the month, as weve been ttc for over 3 yrs and is getting a bit much now :(
     
  12. nevernormal

    nevernormal Mom to precious Levi

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    I also started clomid in July 2011. After my 3rd cycle I decided to just take a break from it, and we've dropped down to NTNP at least until the spring (originally until January, but we are moving so I'll have to get new doctors and everything... and we have to find jobs before that). Take a break if you need one hun.
     
  13. fiiminglee

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    I was never even semi "regular" until I was 19 or 20!
     
  14. wntourbby

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    Thank you to everyone for the kind words and encouragement! i really appreciate it! I actually forgot to mention that I already am taking the metformin (glucophage) i dont really like taking it because irt gives me a (yukkkk) yeast infection when i begin taking it and if i stop it gives me one too GROSS!!!! I hope that God will bless us soon but untill then hopefully I can keep my emotions under controll and keep praying!!!!

    Oh and also, does anyone know of any special things i can include in my diet to help the process?

    Thank you!!!!
     
  15. Damita

    Damita Mummy of 2 <3

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    Try the low gi diet if you have PCOS, has done amazing stuff for me :)
     
  16. MariaF

    MariaF A new Mummy!

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    Hiya, sorry for butting in as I am extremely lucky to be pg now....But as you can see from my signature I had 8 failed Clomid cycles. And I ovulated on 6 of them - yet it still didn't happen :shrug::nope:

    Are you being monitored on Clomid? As in do you know for sure you are ovulating? Have you been doing OPKs?

    And how's DH's SA?

    So from personal experience Clomid didn't help us - but did give me some nasty side effects especially at the beginning.
     
  17. StorkStalker

    StorkStalker Well-Known Member

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    Hi wntourbby..

    I hope you are feeling better now.. I don´t have answers, just wanted to say I completely understand how you are feeling and you are not alone.. I think it is a great thing that we have this community to come and vent otherwise we would feel worse and alienated from the world..

    Wish you and everyone the best of luck... I know we will get there somehow!!
    Big Big Hug,
     

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