Very scared!

[DaisyDuke]

Firstly if this offends anyone please can the mods take it straight off, as the last thing i want to do is upset anyone.

The reason for my worry is i'm not LTTC but we have problems, i know some ladys have been understandable upset by TTC girls posting.

We have only bee TTC for about 5 months but i have a LPD LP of 8 days, and we have just got DH SA results, and it's bad news.

Normal

Volume 2-5ml
Motility >50%
Morphology >50%

DH

Volume 1.9
Motility 36%
Morphology 20% Normal so 80% dead

He is in a real mood, i'm so scared and upset, i know he will feel he has let me down, this is my worst nightmare, i'm scared he won't want to fight for this.

I have told him we will get thro this together and the good news is there are some so we should be able to have our own baby. DH suffers from low self estem as it is and i'm scared he isn't strong enough to get thro this. I'm scared this is the beginning of the end of my marriage, i genuinly feel sick.

Just hoping some one could tell me what are options are.

If this does cause offence, please could the mods take it straight off, i know i shouldn't really be posting here, but i don't think many TTCers will be able to help me.

XXX

 

[bird24]

Oh hun i'm sorry about the results but they can be back just from being put in that situation and feeling uncomfortable about it all doesnt help the amount that comes out

Also there is so many ways to higher the amount its a lot easier to sort this problem that any others i think

have a read on google about all the things that can boost sperm

does he smoke or drink alot? he may need to cut down or stop if he can

tomato soup once a week is supposed to do wonders, taking a multi vitamin daily too


just talk to him about it and try and get him to open up as it cant be easy for him, we know the problems are with me and not OH and he already has a LO to prove that too so sometimes i feel like a disappointment to him as he really wants this for us and i cant make it happen but he's very supportive to me and that helps a lot xx

 

[DaisyDuke]

Thank you so much for your post. He stopped drinking in June, but yes he did drink heavily. He doesn't smoke and stopped taking is multi vits as he rekons they gave him spots. XXX

 

[trickytrouble]

Hey daisy,

My OH was similar, he refused to discuss things without getting shirty and my thoughts were that if he wanted a child as much as I do then we would get through it and he totally surprised me. He has stopped drinking most of the time (has one drink a week), has cut down on the smoking, is taking his multi-vitamins (lots of zinc!!) and even had no problem doing his stuff in the pot to be taken for yet more analysis in addition to still BD-ing on the same day as it appeared that I was finally ovulating. It took a while to get there but lots of talking to him helped and also the fact that we both want a baby soooo much (also our age is a factor too, me being 32 and him being 35).

Give your OH some time to get to grips with what is going on. Sometimes we dont realise just how fragile our OH's are and that the TTC journey takes its toll on them just as much as it does us. You may be pleasantly surprised at how well your OH will handle things. Granted, it took my OH over 2 years to finally get serious given that we have still not fallen pregnant but keep the faith... if he loves you, and I mean truly loves you, you will pull through this

Best of luck..

TTx

 

[FEDup1981]

hi, i dont know much about it, so it would be an idea to research it first but i heard that zinc is supposed to help with sperm. There was someone who posted on here that her OH sperm improved after taking zinc. I will try and find that post for you xxx

 

[FEDup1981]

Hi - again - ive searched all over and i think it was aflight84's post about MACA i was thinking of. Which i saw that you know already about. I have heard that zinc helps too so have a read up on them both. I hope you get some good news soon, and stay strong xxx

 

[JASMAK]

Is this his first SA? I have heard that it is wise to repeat as it can change??? Anyone else hear that? Does he take hot showers? I have read that hot showers can lower a man's sperm considerably. (hugs)

 

[DaisyDuke]

Thanks everyone for ur support.

JASMAK, he says he will turn the shower a little cooler.

I have got him some zinc and vit c today and maca is on order.

I'm going to book him an appointment tomorrow, and hopefully they will re test.

XXX

 

[vickie83]

DaisyDuke - its a LTTTC and assisted conception forum so because of the problems with you both and the fact that TTC for you may not be as simple as lying back and thinking of England you posting here is not likely to cause offence!
I'm sorry your DH's SA results aren't great, hopefully it will improve next time. Definitely do look into zinc supplements and MACA though.

 

[DaisyDuke]

Thanks Vickie he has just popped his zinc and vit c and were waiting for the maca to be delivered. I just showed him the vits and he took them straight away, which is a good sign. He seems to be dealing with it a lor better than i was giving him credit for, i'm so very proud of him right now, and have told him so. I think we will be ok, and our baby when it does come, will be all the more special. Everyone's support means so much to me

 

[CareBear]

I'm glad you OH is feeling a little better now. I have heard that folic acid can help sperm production too! Maybe there hasn't been enough time for your OH's sperm to recover from the effects of drinking and smoking so I will keep my fingers crossed that his next SA will be better

 

[DaisyDuke]

Thanks, right i'm gonna go and get my folic acid for him to he has never smoked but did drink heavily till June. Thanks.

 

[miel]

you post is fine here hon

 

[DaisyDuke]

Got him my folic acid which he happily took. So he is now on vit c, zinc, folic acid and maca, but he prefers to call it by it's pet name horny goat weed

 

[waiting4u]

Wow, it sounds like he is going to give this 100% as he is already taking loads of supplements even before his second SA tests, that is great news! Whilst my DH does not have any issues ( I am the one with all the problems!) my friends husband had very low mobility and they did sperm washing with IUI and she fell pregnant. This meant that they scanned her, determined when she was ovulating, she took an injection and then 36 hours later they inseminated the best of his sperm after he produced a sample. That is my understanding of the procedure anyway.

Best of luck in your journey, look after each other! x

 

[DaisyDuke]

That sounds wonderful, i would love that and to get pregnant, wow. Do you know how long she had to wait for that? XXX

 

[FEDup1981]

Sorry...just had a lil chuckle at all the things your hubby is taking....sounds like you could give him anything and he'd take it lol, bless him!! Wishing you all the luck in the world, and glad your a bit more positive now. Stick together and keep talking and your marriage will stay strong xxx

 

[DaisyDuke]

I think i was being mega harsh earlier, now i think this will make us much stronger and better parents for beautiful baby, when he or she finally decides it's the right time. All the best things u have to fight for. XXX

 

[loopylew]

good luck hun, looks like you lpd is doing ok, your 10dpo!

 

[pixielou]

Hi daisy Duke,

sorry to hear that your DH feels low, a husband of one of my friends had this and then he basically cut out alcohol, smoking, changed his diet and took supplements and it got much better. So it can happen with a few changes, if you google this ubject you will find lots of info on it. Also the best thing is to give your DH lots of support and gentle encouragement.

Hope it goes well!