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My 17-month-old is prone to lengthy inconsolable tantrums. This morning for example I gently told him he couldn't have cake for breakfast (he'd spotted the cake tin) but that we did have yoghurt, banana, pancakes etc if he wanted. That was all it took to trigger a monster outburst that lasted 55 minutes.
So far I've been using empathy and a really calm approach to just ride it out. I usually sit silently as he bellows because any words or touching make him a lot worse. If I try this he kicks or hits me. The screams are so loud I get a raging headache. Once he's calmed a little I say something like 'wow you got really upset, that must have felt horrible. You wanted cake but you're only allowed banana, pancakes etc' and give him a hug and a kiss.
Today's was nasty though because he stated throwing things. He flung the cat's food bowl across the room and was hitting the cupboards hard
Has anyone else experienced this? Is it within the realms of 'normal'? And what on earth do I do?
In this instance I just took the cat bowl away and cleaned up the mess. I couldn't say anything to him because the screams were so loud I'd have to shout.
WWYD? I have ADHD and had a history of being hot-tempered when I was younger so I can't help wondering if he's just more prone to this kind of thing. He certainly has never seen that behaviour from anyone around him.
So far I've been using empathy and a really calm approach to just ride it out. I usually sit silently as he bellows because any words or touching make him a lot worse. If I try this he kicks or hits me. The screams are so loud I get a raging headache. Once he's calmed a little I say something like 'wow you got really upset, that must have felt horrible. You wanted cake but you're only allowed banana, pancakes etc' and give him a hug and a kiss.
Today's was nasty though because he stated throwing things. He flung the cat's food bowl across the room and was hitting the cupboards hard
Has anyone else experienced this? Is it within the realms of 'normal'? And what on earth do I do?
In this instance I just took the cat bowl away and cleaned up the mess. I couldn't say anything to him because the screams were so loud I'd have to shout.
WWYD? I have ADHD and had a history of being hot-tempered when I was younger so I can't help wondering if he's just more prone to this kind of thing. He certainly has never seen that behaviour from anyone around him.