Want to just tell you all "It Will be Fine"

[edinsam]

All

Every day I come in here and see everyone going through hell at a) being abandoned by someone they thought was their world b) scared to continue being pregnant and c) stressing about how they will cope with being a single parent.

I just want to tell everyone that it will be absolutely fine, seriously absolutely fine. You can all do it, really think of what worse things in the world could happen to you? We have our health, we are bringing another life into this world who will mean the absolute world to us and thats something to cheer about. The men who have come and gone, were in reality never "there" in the first place - if they were they woujld never have gone! It is them that will trully miss out on they joys this new life will bring and it will be them sitting wondering day, week, month, year in what the hell is happening to this human being that they created? would they know them in the street? would they walk past them? etc etc. It will be hell for them. For us we will wake up every single day and be filled by love by what we created and what we brought into this world.

Yes we didnt chose to do this on our own, yes it would be great to have someone there but do you know what I take a massive pride thinking "bloody hell I did this - I did this alone" and this is the one measurement of sheer achievement that no one can ever take away from me/us!

It will be hard yes, there will be times when we need a rest and we need help - hopefully we have people somewhere that can do this for us, but you know what seeing that baby look at you filled with limitless love will make those tough times melt away

I have been through hell and back in the last 5 months and oh boy has it made me who I am. I have done this on my own - as each and every one of you will and omg what a sense of achievement as a woman that is.

So stand up everyone in rejoicing in doing it alone and more importantly doing it brilliantly!

xxxxx

 

[lauren-kate]

This is a lovely post! I agree, even though I'm not technically a single parent now. There are definately times when it has been beyond difficult, but the good times more than make up for them.

 

[Mummy&bump]

awww how lovely was that of u. and u kno what ur 100% right, i think alot will agree that emtionally the hardest part is the pregnancy alone, once u have ur gorgeous baby it all fades away.

i think now i have that consent smugg grin knowing everythn hes missin out on.
you end up being the one that can walk with ur head held high.

but thanks for posting that, uv brought alot of things 2 life

xxx

 

[DizzyMoo]

You know hun i wish i could hug you, I'm embarrassed to say that your post has just brought a tear to my eye, You couldn't of put it better. Every word is true, You being so strong & with the things you have said to me before defo makes me smile & that little bit stronger everyday.
Together with help & words from people like you i can smile inside, I can begin to see things in a positive way now, clearly & with a light at the end of that dismal tunnel ... that light being bump
Big mega hugs to all us single ladies, We can do it & we WILL do it xxxxxxx

 

[Welshcob]

Edinsam, I felt the same as Dizzy when I read your post. What a fantastic post. I am sure like you and others, not one day passes that I regret my bubs being here. I often cry because FOB not there and does not want to share it. I cry sometimes because I cannot beleive how easily and without a seconds thought or guilt he can turn his back and walk. But I know one day - one day he is going to wonder exactly what you said. Where is my boy or girl?

 

[christine790]

thanks. i really, really needed to hear that.