WARNING: Frank Sex Talk Ahead

[Dtswife]

Ok, so if the idea of BDSM / Kink squicks you, turn back now. Not getting graphic, but discussing some aspects.

So my DH and I are somewhat kinky. I'm a switch, he's a sub (who switches because he loves me ).

We're not super hardcore, but we do sometimes incorporate flogging, spanking and other sensation play into our intimate time. I've read a fair bit of literature on kink and safe play, and ideas for play etc. One thing that I've picked up from doing fun things with DH and from reading is the concept of "intense sensation." This is the thought that a particular act, while it may cross the line from purely pleasurable into something else, is not necessarily painful. A more accurate description would be an intense sensation, one that requires your focus and can be overwhelming, but doesn't really hurt. It may evolve into pain as the play continues, but it may not; it may just be intense.

I think this concept can be applied to labor delivery. I wonder if me already knowing how to accept and surrender to other kinds of physically intense sensations will give me an edge in contractions?

 

[bella21]

hmmm great way to think about it. I think you might be onto something here!! I don't know what else to really say but I think its awesome!(the BDSM thing lol). The flogging just reminded me of fifty shades of grey...please tell me you've read it???

 

[Blackrain90]

Being able to accept and go with the "intense sensations", I would think absolutely would benefit you during labour! I'm a wuss with pain, in the bedroom or otherwise. Me and my OH have done some, I guess kinkier things, depending on my mood, but I usually don't let it get too intense. But good for you, I have heard being able to accept the contractions and work with them makes your labour much easier. Good luck!

 

[Blackrain90]

And Bella, I loved the 50 Shades tril Been a while since I've read them, was thinking I would reread this weekend but got too busy.

 

[Glitter_berry]

And Bella, I loved the 50 Shades tril Been a while since I've read them, was thinking I would reread this weekend but got too busy.

Was the last time you read them roughly 15 weeks ago xx

 

[Glitter_berry]

Ok, so if the idea of BDSM / Kink squicks you, turn back now. Not getting graphic, but discussing some aspects.

So my DH and I are somewhat kinky. I'm a switch, he's a sub (who switches because he loves me ).

We're not super hardcore, but we do sometimes incorporate flogging, spanking and other sensation play into our intimate time. I've read a fair bit of literature on kink and safe play, and ideas for play etc. One thing that I've picked up from doing fun things with DH and from reading is the concept of "intense sensation." This is the thought that a particular act, while it may cross the line from purely pleasurable into something else, is not necessarily painful. A more accurate description would be an intense sensation, one that requires your focus and can be overwhelming, but doesn't really hurt. It may evolve into pain as the play continues, but it may not; it may just be intense.

I think this concept can be applied to labor delivery. I wonder if me already knowing how to accept and surrender to other kinds of physically intense sensations will give me an edge in contractions?

What a wonderful way of thinking. Hopefully it works for you and you will get the biggest reward at the end

 

[bella21]

And Bella, I loved the 50 Shades tril Been a while since I've read them, was thinking I would reread this weekend but got too busy.

Was the last time you read them roughly 15 weeks ago xx

 

[Blackrain90]

Hahahahahaha, actually no, last summer (around when we started trying lol) but reading 50 Shades did lead me to now own a rather large collection of "romance novels" hahaha

 

[sweetavenue]

Without going into specifics, my husband and I are also into BDSM and I definitely think that being so in touch with your body will help greatly during labor.

 

[Cherry Bow]

This is actually part of my birthing plan as I'm pretty good with focusing on my body. I remember getting my feet tattooed and everyone telling me how much it would hurt... Nope! xx

 

[lewood88]

i may seem abit dum but whats bdsm???

 

[angel2010]

I think it would absolutely help and sounds like a great idea!

 

[SteffyRae]

BSDM= https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

 

[lewood88]

ooo ok i get it lol

 

[Dtswife]

Haven't read Fifty Shades, but do have several erotica anthologies that are super fun!

 

[bella21]

ohhh you have to read it! it is fiction but its a great book!

 

[mummybuns]

As we are being frank and all that...my boyf and I are into light spanking but don't indulge in much else. As for the prenancy sex drive...I am finding myself being turned on quite a lot lately and sometimes by kinky stuff which has made me feel pretty weird about myself! Perhaps it's just me!

 

[m4nc3r]

We (unfortunately) don't do anything kinky in the bedroom... I'm really sub... but so is my partner so it kinda cuts that idea out haha

However, I had microdermals in my chest and when they started to grow out I happily took a scalpel to them. I don't feel pain when I can focus on it and have a pretty high tolerance... but... well child birth was a bit of another matter!!

Ultimately, the "pain" wasn't that bad... it was the emotions after straining and pushing. I don't have "that" kind of focus to keep calm after 3 days of discomfort and no sleep - I was having a silent labour with no contractions but I couldn't sleep and that made me worse I think.

You'll need to keep practicing your focus and if you can try to stay rested then I'm sure your theory will pay off!!

 

[MrsTurner2012]

Interesting concept!

I wonder if there's anything on the net about it!!?

We're kinky. Last night I squeezed into some sexy undies put my bright red lippy on & we made a video.

I like being the 'pain' part of sex now & again so can maybe channel it but I think I'm a wimp when it's not a sexual pain if you get me.

Cannot stand hubby touching my nipples when I'm not aroused as it hurts so bar atm but as soon as we're playing its fine... I like it!!

 

[9jawife]

Can I just say that I'm jealous of all you ladies whose husbands will do BDSM? Mine has zero interest...sigh