pandaspot
Mum to zack
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Where do i start?
Well yesterday I rang my mum, she lives in Ireland I am in the uk, while on the phone she said "I haven't booked flights yet" I said for what. She said " to come over in June" she was originally on about staying with my bro at the end of June but that's fallen through, then she wanted him to go over but he made up excuses not to go and now by the looks she assumes she can stay at mine. I managed to put her off for 2 of the 4 days she wanted to stay.
Background on this might be helpful! We do not get on, or I should say I do not get on with her. She is rude, makes me extremely stressed, makes bitchy comments constantly, puts me down and basically makes me feel so low and depressed. Within 2 hours I feel like crying. But she can't see it, I have never said anything, just accepted that its all me, and I am at fault. Thanks to oh I know this is not the case. I am a good person, I know need to feel the anxiety etc she gives me.
So end of June I have her for 2 days. Then she is getting back from a holiday 10 th July and said "so I can be at yours on the 10th and don't have to leave till the 15th" I am due the 19th, last thing I need is the stress! And feeling like poo and depressed, as that's how I always feel when she is here.
I said well I don't really want anyone here, I would like to chill before the birth and not be stressed. She said" well I don't need entertaining etc" I said well I just want to relax, it's our first child. she will bring on labour with the stress.
I said" I don't want to be horrible but I need to relax again" she said " well you are being horrible" I said " well sorry you feel that way"
I suppose if she lived near then it wouldn't be so bad, she wouldn't have to stay and be here constantly. More background, she left my home when I was 17 and moved 3 hours away with her partner, I haven't actually lived with her since I was 16, I am now 33. I am an adult and about to start my own family.
To make matters worse as well, she is planning on moving back to the uk from Ireland to live near me. Our plans are to immigrate to oz in the next 5 years. She doesn't know this.
Am I being a total bitch? I seriously do not get on with her. I am so stessed over the conversation last night.
Well yesterday I rang my mum, she lives in Ireland I am in the uk, while on the phone she said "I haven't booked flights yet" I said for what. She said " to come over in June" she was originally on about staying with my bro at the end of June but that's fallen through, then she wanted him to go over but he made up excuses not to go and now by the looks she assumes she can stay at mine. I managed to put her off for 2 of the 4 days she wanted to stay.
Background on this might be helpful! We do not get on, or I should say I do not get on with her. She is rude, makes me extremely stressed, makes bitchy comments constantly, puts me down and basically makes me feel so low and depressed. Within 2 hours I feel like crying. But she can't see it, I have never said anything, just accepted that its all me, and I am at fault. Thanks to oh I know this is not the case. I am a good person, I know need to feel the anxiety etc she gives me.
So end of June I have her for 2 days. Then she is getting back from a holiday 10 th July and said "so I can be at yours on the 10th and don't have to leave till the 15th" I am due the 19th, last thing I need is the stress! And feeling like poo and depressed, as that's how I always feel when she is here.
I said well I don't really want anyone here, I would like to chill before the birth and not be stressed. She said" well I don't need entertaining etc" I said well I just want to relax, it's our first child. she will bring on labour with the stress.
I said" I don't want to be horrible but I need to relax again" she said " well you are being horrible" I said " well sorry you feel that way"
I suppose if she lived near then it wouldn't be so bad, she wouldn't have to stay and be here constantly. More background, she left my home when I was 17 and moved 3 hours away with her partner, I haven't actually lived with her since I was 16, I am now 33. I am an adult and about to start my own family.
To make matters worse as well, she is planning on moving back to the uk from Ireland to live near me. Our plans are to immigrate to oz in the next 5 years. She doesn't know this.
Am I being a total bitch? I seriously do not get on with her. I am so stessed over the conversation last night.