Wedding help, outfit and gift.

[Boomerslady]

I'm going to my second wedding ever in 2 weeks, although its a friend from my 'group' from school I haven't seen her in about 2 years. She lives in Chelsea with her OH and they're not really children people so have had no reason so see them. Anyway obviously the whole group of us is invited to the whole day.

I know there was a big thread a while back about how you shouldnt go to a wedding if you can't give a gift etc and how much was acceptable but to be frank I'm skint. Just the travel money to get there and back, and alcohol for the night is going to come out of my overdraft. Her invite said 'while a gift would be nice it's not expected, money towards our honeymoon in America would be great, or we have a gift list at John Lewis'. I've been thinking about it and would rather give a token gift than a small amount of cash (£10 seems so pathetic!) yet a nice 'wedding day' photo frame has a lot more sentiment. What do you think?

Also I'm struggling outfit wise. My only nice dress is black and more night out than wedding. I'd have to wear tights because of chub rub, so wouldn't be bare legged. Could anyone give any advice or find a nice dress? (For around £30, my mums getting it for Xmas for me).

I'm 5 11, size 22 with big boobies and a tummy so anything I wear can't be clingy around my belly area. I've seen the below dress which is gorgeous but I'm worried ill get too hot in it travelling up there on tubes and walking around London, then dancing all night. I found a version with short sleeves but its black, can u wear black to a wedding?? If I did I'd wear coloured tights if some sort.

Now quick one about shoes, having size 10 feet my collection is limited and I can't afford new. I have one pair if black heels which I love but they're too small and after 10 mins I'm in pain. Or I have a pair of black ankle boots with a slight heel which are sooooo comfy, is that ok for a wedding?

Sorry for all the questions, can you tell I'm anxious??! Lol.

Here's one dress I just found:

https://m.asos.com/mt/www.asos.com/...1465&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=50&sort=3&clr=Magenta

Here's my fav, in blue. I love the style and think the cut would work, but I'm a complete sweaty Betty and am worried if I get too hot ill regret it.

https://m.asos.com/mt/www.asos.com/...0=1465&sh=0&pge=1&pgesize=50&sort=3&clr=Black

ETA: this is the black version with no sleeves. I LOVE this tbh but worry about it being short (the models same height as me) and wearing black to a wedding. I'd prob wear burgundy tights and a chunky colourful necklace but I'm not sure it's appropriate.

https://m.asos.com/mt/www.asos.com/...0=1465&sh=0&pge=2&pgesize=50&sort=3&clr=Black

 

[lilyd]

Personally I am not keen on black for a wedding, but I know opinion can be very split on it. Out of the dresses you have added, the pink one is my fave.

What season is the wedding? Is is going to be a very formal wedding? Sorry for all the questions, but it may help get some more thoughts and ideas.

Saw this dress, slightly over budget, but thought it may be suitable
https://uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_17,mon_17.1/3533110822

If you aren't dead set on a dress, something like this top would look nice with a skirt/trousers that you may already have.
https://uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_16.7/3231115522

I am a bit useless with fashion advice, I'm sure somebody else will have some much better ideas!

With the gift, i'm sure they would much rather you attend than feel you shouldn't go if you can't take a gift. If there are a few of you in a similar situation, you could maybe club together to get a gift. If not, a personal token gift would be lovely.

https://www.notonthehighstreet.com/letterfestengraving/product/personalised-slate-tile

https://www.notonthehighstreet.com/joluckstedceramics/product/personalised-ceramic-pebble-with-heart

 

[sunshine114]

I wouldn't worry about wearing the black dress with no sleeves, especially with coloured tights and coloured accessories, I think that would be fine. Lots of people wear black to weddings, opinion on it can be split, but I really don't see the problem - as long as you aren't in a black veil as if you are mourning of course!

As for the gift, I totally understand your anxiety, I always get worried about gift etiquette,but I'm sure the couple have invited you because they want you there, not because thy want gifts. I think a token gift would be fine. Weddings shouldn't be about what you/others can spend, it's about celebrating love and commitment - just my thoughts anyway! If you fee, uncomfortable with a token gift then the idea of clubbing together is a good one.

Have a lovely time x

 

[Boomerslady]

Thanks for replying ladies. Lilyd thank you for those website links for a present, they're gorgeous and much better than what I was thinking. I will ask a few friends about clubbing in but they're all going with partners so I imagine they're buying 'couple' gifts iykwim. Ill be the only singleton!!

That dress is lovely but with such big boobs I can't get away with a high neckline! I think I'm going to buy the shirt black dress (they don't have it in my size, only next one up so I might have to return it anyway) and then get the pink one as a back up. I love the long sleeved one but I think ill get too hot.

The weddings on 14th September and its in Chelsea somewhere. I imagine its going to be very posh!!