Weight loss and TTC

[Rrounsevelle]

This is the first time I have been on one of these things but I figured its time for some support and the husband just doesn't always understand. Its been a year since I have been TTC with my husband and in that year I have only had 6 periods. As I am still younger I waited to see a doctor about it and of course the only thing they told me was to try to lose the weight before coming back for any medications. I get that I am overweight and it would be healthy to lose some beforehand but im not morbidly obese. Anyways I have been trying and its so hard because when you feel like a failure from not being able to be a mother when its all you ever wanted to be, where is your motivation. It gets to a point where you finally think your ovulating but you think whats the point its not going to happen so you eat some more junk. Then your period comes and you think see I told you there was no point, and you miss your exercise for a week. All the while everyone around you is getting pregnant or has a baby and they just don't understand why you get so sad. I know this isn't a happy post but sometimes you just need to vent with others who might know what your going through. Any tips on how to get out of this funk and actually on the right track?

 

[abennion]

Hi there,

I don't think your doctor should have told you to try losing weight before going on medications. Maybe try looking for a new doctor? I can understand your frustrations. We were lucky enough to get a sweet old man 6 months ago during our walk-in clinic visit who had no problem sending us for testing. If he hadn't, we wouldn't be looking at seeing a fertility clinic for another 6 months. Keep pushing, don't just give in to them!

 

[2ducks]

Hi there! I am so sorry that you are going through this. I have been ttc #1 for a year now as well and it has been very rough. Since I started ttc my best friend got pregnant and gave birth to a boy and I haven't even ovulated once. There are days when I am ok, and days when I see a baby in the grocery store and get depressed. There were a couple months where I would not even walk past the baby section in Target because I would feel so sad. How I deal with everything is taking charge of the things I can. I have PCOS so I take lots of supplements (prenatal, calcium/mag/zinc, vitamin D, vitamin E, B complex, CoQ10, Omega 3, folic acid), I eat very healthy and I try to exercise regularly, although I have been in a little bit of a slump the past week. I am a complete sugar addict and follow the PCOS diet (no sugar, refined carbs, or gluten) which has helped stop my sugar addiction. I go to yoga classes whenever I can. While I am not pregnant right now I am using this time to prepare to be the best mom I can be and to prepare my body for pregnancy. I also started to do work in the bedroom that will eventually be the baby room. I also have read some books on pregnancy and parenting to help pass the time.

Posting on BnB has helped me a lot. Getting support from others and giving support back is very therapeutic. I hope that you stick around and become a member of the community!