Samsfan We were told the same thing by RE because every minute counts. I think you should try IVF. Did they say if husbandsanalysis was good? In our case it wasnt so that is why they recommeded IVF asap. You will have a better success rate if you try soon rather than wait another year. I did my ivf's at 40 and 41 but had I known sooner there was a problem we would have done it sooner.
They said my husband was normal. He wants me to come in and discuss when we should start IVF. It's a difficult decision, because I know time is of the essence...however, I wish I could just try naturally. The infertility is unexplained. We have been married 3 years and never used birth control.
I'm very sorry for your miscarriage. I'm praying for you.
It is very hard. I put my career first and wanted to meet the right person and now it seems time is my enemy. I'm very nervous of the effects of IVF. I understand it is not easy on the body and I'm also nervous about the entire idea. I also feel I'm not even close to my ideal weight, but I know every month counts. The doctor gave me the speech.
I can't say I've taken my basal body temp in trying. Just used the charts and pee sticks.
Hi Samsfan, I feel where you are coming from. I sometimes feel like I "wasted" my fertile years with building a career, though I know that is not really true. I met my husband at 31 and now, three years later, we have not gotten pregnant. I just started Clomid. Like the other ladies on here, I wonder why your doctor went straight to IVF. It seems like he would want to try less invasive, cheaper options first, but I don't know. I hope that whatever you choose works out for you!
alicatt Yes bedrest sucks but you it is only for a short while. Hang in thereGetting lots of rest is the best thing for implantation
Are you officially on vacation tomorrow?
Coy- How are you? Am I understanding correctly that you are temping to not get pregnant? BBT is not a reliable way to predict that.
I'm working all next weekand Christmas Eve, then I have until Jan 3rd off! I'll work from home on the 24th and the 4th so it will be a full 2 weeks at home! So I just need to get through next week! YAY!
I'm not feeling much of anything down there, just mild cramping. I'm so hopeful but also so scared that it won't work. EEK!
I have to work all next week including Christmas Eve too. Bah humbug! Stay positive babe and think nothing but positive thoughts and visualize a bfp, healthy ultrasounds and being in labor and holding your 2 babies!!! Get restful sleep and relax. It will happen. Those blastos are hi quality. What were the gradings last time? I'm glad you have family around you this time.
Afm, I vaginally temp, I think my temps were very erratic from the HSG and it threw everything off. By ewcm and cramping I think I ovu on cd 14 or earlier. I guess I will just wait and see. Does anyone know how they do the IUI? Do I have to take meds?
Hi Babywhisperer!
IUI is a good starting point for those with unexplained infertility and it seems to work well when the DH's sperm are low or compromised in some way.
When we went in, the procedure was fairly straightforward... I could have chosen to do the IUI without any medication, but because I was 40 at the time (41 now!) I wanted to give it the best chance possible (not waste anymore time!) and we decided to do a round of Clomid with the IUI attempt.
So.... I did the clomid from day 5-9 - I didn't like how I felt on it... I was really moody and felt uncomfortable in my skin... but I would do it again in a heartbeat because it may have helped me get my bfp! So on CD 12 or CD 13 I got a very strong positive OPK (I like the ones with the smiley face!) and the next day we went in for the IUI procedure. DH made his contribution in the morning and they take that, and do what I refer to as the 'scrub and shine'... they clean it up and concentrate it so you end up with the Best of the Best.... We went for lunch and came back in the afternoon for the procedure. It was a few minutes with the Nurse- she fed a catheter up into the uterus (not a problem for me- I don't even remember it being uncomfortable) and injected the Best of the Best of DH's
Then we were in the TWW and 10 days later I got my first, really faint, BFP!
I've never done the IVF but I think, given the chance, I would always start with the IUI.... IVF sounds rough to me and the IUI is a walk in the park in comparison.... anyway, that's my 2 cents worth!!
Good Morning everyone!! I hope all of you are doing fantastic! I am still praying for all of you, hoping that those BFPs come really soon. I graduated this weekend and I promised to post pictures for y'all.
every other day until 2 days after your OPK. Then you know for sure that you have hit the window!!
Samsfan - if you have 50K worth of ART health insurane? I wasted 3 months on IUI, but Phil got pregnant on her first IUI! I think it really depends on your fertility issues. The Dr will do a day 3 blood test to look at your hormone levels, he will do the femvue and he will do a SA (sperm count) on your DH. Once you get the results of this, you'll have a better idea of what your issues are. Also consider things like diet, alcohol, caffeine, allergies, nicotine, being over weight or under weight can cause you to have fertility issues.
We have also had some success with different supplements:
tapioca, royal jelly, maca root, CoQ10, for example. You might want to look into supplements for you and for your DH that aid in fertility. Make sure you fly these supplements by your FS before taking them.
Also a little known fact that I didn't even realize until just recently. You are actually fertile for the 4 days before your OPK and 1 day after. So just having sex on the day or 2 where you get your OPK is a good start, but it might not be enough? I would suggest pinpointing when you usually have your surge, and then next month starting 6-5 days before then and
were not good for IVF, then maybe.... MAYBE.... that's why your IUI's didn't work??? anyways, just a thought.... is the thing to try??
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
how is that possible when the embryos died between day 3 and 5? Oh well.. if this time I'm successful, then it will all be worth it!
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
hmmm, well, I got my first super faint BFP at 10DPO .... your embies were 5 days old when they transferred them, yes? So I would say start testing at 5-7 days past Embie transfer??
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
hmmm, well, I got my first super faint BFP at 10DPO .... your embies were 5 days old when they transferred them, yes? So I would say start testing at 5-7 days past Embie transfer??
I was thinking Saturday, which is 7dp5dt, but you think as soon as 5dp5dt? That would be Thursday! OOHHHHHH!
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
See I was thinking it might have been the donor ESPECIALLY since you've done so well this time around.... the downside to IUI with the donor is that they can't see how the embies are doing when they are already inside you.... I don't know... it's just a thought... and as far as quality goes.... just because he met the 'standards' doesn't mean his swimmers are stellar.... right??
I'm super glad smiley guy seems to be doing so well!! If you do get your BFP then does that mean an August baby? (or Babies??) My birthday is in August!! Go Leos!!
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
hmmm, well, I got my first super faint BFP at 10DPO .... your embies were 5 days old when they transferred them, yes? So I would say start testing at 5-7 days past Embie transfer??
I was thinking Saturday, which is 7dp5dt, but you think as soon as 5dp5dt? That would be Thursday! OOHHHHHH!
I am guilty of being a POAS addict!!!
I started testing at 7DPO even though I knew it would be highly unlikely to get any result before the 10-12DPO mark.... and then I kept testing occasionally until I could feel the baby move! Yup, I was definitely addicted!!
You know, Ali, I was thinking about your IUI attempts.... and maybe it wasn't you? if your guy's
I have a good feeling about this month for you, but if not, then perhaps another try with IUI with stellar
And maybe, too, do you think the fresh vs frozen has something to do with it too?? Just wondering....
You know I have thought that too. But how could 7 vials be bad? Or could it just be an incompatibility between me and the donor? IDK. Thing is that you can see by my much improved showing this time around, that I did much better with the smiley guy than I did with the pro golfer! 3 times better! It makes me mad that the sperm bank wouldn't give me a credit on any of it either. They said that it met their quality standards..
When do you think I should start testing?
hmmm, well, I got my first super faint BFP at 10DPO .... your embies were 5 days old when they transferred them, yes? So I would say start testing at 5-7 days past Embie transfer??
I was thinking Saturday, which is 7dp5dt, but you think as soon as 5dp5dt? That would be Thursday! OOHHHHHH!
I am guilty of being a POAS addict!!!
I started testing at 7DPO even though I knew it would be highly unlikely to get any result before the 10-12DPO mark.... and then I kept testing occasionally until I could feel the baby move! Yup, I was definitely addicted!!
Right now I'm having some pretty severe cramping, like AF cramps, but centered in the lower part of where I imagine my uterus to be. With some sharp pains too. Who knows.. I really need to just ignore my body for the next 5 days or until I get a BFP! I'm going to drive myself insane!
Samsfan - if you have 50K worth of ART health insurane? I wasted 3 months on IUI, but Phil got pregnant on her first IUI! I think it really depends on your fertility issues. The Dr will do a day 3 blood test to look at your hormone levels, he will do the femvue and he will do a SA (sperm count) on your DH. Once you get the results of this, you'll have a better idea of what your issues are. Also consider things like diet, alcohol, caffeine, allergies, nicotine, being over weight or under weight can cause you to have fertility issues.
We have also had some success with different supplements:
tapioca, royal jelly, maca root, CoQ10, for example. You might want to look into supplements for you and for your DH that aid in fertility. Make sure you fly these supplements by your FS before taking them.
Also a little known fact that I didn't even realize until just recently. You are actually fertile for the 4 days before your OPK and 1 day after. So just having sex on the day or 2 where you get your OPK is a good start, but it might not be enough? I would suggest pinpointing when you usually have your surge, and then next month starting 6-5 days before then and
