Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[Grey Eyes]

K, I just found this site:
https://www.peeonastick.com/hpts.html

and they have reviews on the dif tests. FRERs get a pretty great reading and actually clock in at 12.5 mIU! They write 25 on the box just to CYA but it is actually 12.5 so awesoe And the blue dyes...I've so much good and bad I'm not sure. Id say test fmu with frer and see what happens. And as always- time will tell but we'll all be with you!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- just wanted to say- don't let us ladies (ok, me ) drive you crazy with our enthusiasm! We are all rooting for your bfp and very excited as I think this is def your month But if I ever get on your nerves just block me or something I am being a cheer leader but don't want you to feel pressured.

 

[alicatt]

Ali- just wanted to say- don't let us ladies (ok, me ) drive you crazy with our enthusiasm! We are all rooting for your bfp and very excited as I think this is def your month But if I ever get on your nerves just block me or something I am being a cheer leader but don't want you to feel pressured.

LOL! You guys are awesome! I wouldn't have gotten this far without you and the others in my corner! Don't be silly, I love the support I get from you and Jess and everyone else.. so not to worry, I'm very happy to have met you!

 

[Philomena]

Ali, I never had any luck with FRER, but I always did really well with Clearblue Easy (which is what it looks like you used in your pic?) .... my bfp at 9dpo and onwards was with clear blue.... I only caution you that even if the test says it's 12.5 miu it does not mean that every single test is absolutely rated that low.... it's all over the place and because a negative test can turn into a positive test (i.e.: women who test early would get a false neg) nobody ever takes the test in later to see if it was accurate... so there is limited reliability with some of the tests..... which, of course, is why I was a poas addict and only stopped, really, when I started to feel her move about! (I know, I'm crazy!)
My first pos tests were super duper light... like I couldn't get the camera to pick up what I was seeing light.... but after about 3 days they started getting darker, so don't give up hope yet!! I think you will be celebrating before you know it! then it's a whole 'nother world!!!

So today I went in for my 3D ultrasound. My Father in Law was able to login on his computer and watch what was on the monitor in real time! He's in another province, so it was a real treat for him to see what his next grandbaby looks like!
I tried to put a photo up on my avatar for you all to check out.... I think she's beautiful, but then I'm a little biased!!
It's a miracle, and one worth everything you ladies are going through.... I was where you are, and now I'm here.... super duper hoping everyone gets their own miracle baby and soon!!!
much love,
phil.

 

[alicatt]

Ali, I never had any luck with FRER, but I always did really well with Clearblue Easy (which is what it looks like you used in your pic?) .... my bfp at 9dpo and onwards was with clear blue.... I only caution you that even if the test says it's 12.5 miu it does not mean that every single test is absolutely rated that low.... it's all over the place and because a negative test can turn into a positive test (i.e.: women who test early would get a false neg) nobody ever takes the test in later to see if it was accurate... so there is limited reliability with some of the tests..... which, of course, is why I was a poas addict and only stopped, really, when I started to feel her move about! (I know, I'm crazy!)
My first pos tests were super duper light... like I couldn't get the camera to pick up what I was seeing light.... but after about 3 days they started getting darker, so don't give up hope yet!! I think you will be celebrating before you know it! then it's a whole 'nother world!!!

So today I went in for my 3D ultrasound. My Father in Law was able to login on his computer and watch what was on the monitor in real time! He's in another province, so it was a real treat for him to see what his next grandbaby looks like!
I tried to put a photo up on my avatar for you all to check out.... I think she's beautiful, but then I'm a little biased!!
It's a miracle, and one worth everything you ladies are going through.... I was where you are, and now I'm here.... super duper hoping everyone gets their own miracle baby and soon!!!
much love,
phil.

Great picture of your little girl! Beautiful!

 

[jm1355]

Phil...she is absolutely BEAUTIFUL!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil- what a gorgeous little face! Yes you are biased but she IS beautiful! That's amazing your FIL was able to view this in real time I had no clue they were able to do that! Amazing And she has such a sweet little face!

Re: tests...I think Ali used a store brand test in that photo from Target (Up & Up??) . The Clear Blue Easy probably IS the best brand as they are so expensive! I did get one CBE digital (like Ali mentioned) just for good measure when I knew for pretty-sure-certain We are all so excited for her

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jess- I am thinking of braving the water tonight I spoke to my doc and he actually recommended it and said it was old wives tale that water would get up in there?? I was pretty worried but he said it's fine and laboring moms soak tons...the relaxing soak may help relieve pain (which I'm not so worried about) but can also help labor start....my hips are killing tonight btw, I laid down with the dd's to get them to sleep and once they fell asleep and I got up I could barely move! I must be spreading...

 

[Grey Eyes]

Oh...dd fell in the toilet again tonight I got upset with her this time as I think she is doing it deliberately....the closer we get to labor and delivery the more these two dd's regress from "big girls" to "big babies" and I can't let THAT happen! Teagen is nearly 8 and asked me to help her put her clothes on the other day- which I staunchly refused to do and Kat...well, this is nonsense LOL! Another shower and change and cleaning the bathroom tonight Good lord, what'll happen once babes IS born? I hope they are so intrigued that they forget to be babies....

 

[twotogo]

Phil - your baby is beautiful! So amazing what can be done with ultrasounds.

 

[Babywhisperer]

babywhisperer- Thanks! And btw- I'd LOVE his job! And I would work and study hard to keep it...some people man. When I managed I worked like 90 hour weeks and had trouble getting even part-time employee to stay focused for a few hours! Some folks don't value what they have, or they take it for granted!

Glad you got to destress, I think I will try taking a long soak tonight, my doc gave me the and said it was recommended so.... He said the water cannot get in to my cervix and besides the ambiotic ac is pretty darn sealed!

BabyWhisperer - I hope the new job is what you want, and that there aren't and scary secret clauses in the contract! Course your wonderful DH will find them I've never had accupuncture, I just go for a massage every other week, but I didn't get to go last week because I was on bed rest and I'm not sure I will be able to go once I'm pregnant (at least not to the girl that I LOVE, as she isn't trained in how to do pregnant women, and the place she works requires them to have that certification to work on pregnant women). So I can keep having massages, I'll just have to find someone that has that certification. Accupuncture does sound interesting! Just glad it was relaxing for you

Coy - go have that bath! I am finally totally finished with work, and my play (research about my current dilemma pregnant or not) I'm going to go downstairs and watch some drama on TV and get into bed! I hope it relaxes you

I'll be checking in on my phone if there are updates I'll see them!

Acupuncture is all about balancing energy. When you are out of balance you are more prone to get sick. I have been either battling Lyme, the treatment for Lyme, or the after effects of both for such a long time so I know I need to cleanse my body and organs (my liver especially) and heal everything. It is also so relaxing that it takes the stress away and allows my energy to be focused on healing rather than fighting stress or whatever. She placed a lot of pins last night around my ovaries and my ankles...she said that's a great spot for the reproductive system. The best part is that she treats me for 45min for $80, in the city it's $120, and some Drs don't do more than 30min. They also place this heat lamp over your midsection and I swear it just makes me melt into the table.

So FF says I ovu on cd16, the day dh behaved badly. I am so upset, the most fertile day. If we had bd'd my chances would be high according to FF, but since we didn't it just says good.

 

[Babywhisperer]

babywhisperer- Thanks! And btw- I'd LOVE his job! And I would work and study hard to keep it...some people man. When I managed I worked like 90 hour weeks and had trouble getting even part-time employee to stay focused for a few hours! Some folks don't value what they have, or they take it for granted!

Glad you got to destress, I think I will try taking a long soak tonight, my doc gave me the and said it was recommended so.... He said the water cannot get in to my cervix and besides the ambiotic ac is pretty darn sealed!

BabyWhisperer - I hope the new job is what you want, and that there aren't and scary secret clauses in the contract! Course your wonderful DH will find them I've never had accupuncture, I just go for a massage every other week, but I didn't get to go last week because I was on bed rest and I'm not sure I will be able to go once I'm pregnant (at least not to the girl that I LOVE, as she isn't trained in how to do pregnant women, and the place she works requires them to have that certification to work on pregnant women). So I can keep having massages, I'll just have to find someone that has that certification. Accupuncture does sound interesting! Just glad it was relaxing for you

Coy - go have that bath! I am finally totally finished with work, and my play (research about my current dilemma pregnant or not) I'm going to go downstairs and watch some drama on TV and get into bed! I hope it relaxes you

I'll be checking in on my phone if there are updates I'll see them!

Thanks Ali, it is a great opportunity, but they usually look like that from the outside. I have to make sure there aren't egregiously restrictive clauses in there, and will likely have to add language that protects me. It will definitely be better than where I am working now. You know how they say a fish rots from the head down? Well, the head of this company has been rotten for a long time. I can do more at this other firm, and hopefully have a say in how our platform is built out.

Crossing fingers for many things these days. How are you feeling? Have you tested again?

 

[Babywhisperer]

Ali, I never had any luck with FRER, but I always did really well with Clearblue Easy (which is what it looks like you used in your pic?) .... my bfp at 9dpo and onwards was with clear blue.... I only caution you that even if the test says it's 12.5 miu it does not mean that every single test is absolutely rated that low.... it's all over the place and because a negative test can turn into a positive test (i.e.: women who test early would get a false neg) nobody ever takes the test in later to see if it was accurate... so there is limited reliability with some of the tests..... which, of course, is why I was a poas addict and only stopped, really, when I started to feel her move about! (I know, I'm crazy!)
My first pos tests were super duper light... like I couldn't get the camera to pick up what I was seeing light.... but after about 3 days they started getting darker, so don't give up hope yet!! I think you will be celebrating before you know it! then it's a whole 'nother world!!!

So today I went in for my 3D ultrasound. My Father in Law was able to login on his computer and watch what was on the monitor in real time! He's in another province, so it was a real treat for him to see what his next grandbaby looks like!
I tried to put a photo up on my avatar for you all to check out.... I think she's beautiful, but then I'm a little biased!!
It's a miracle, and one worth everything you ladies are going through.... I was where you are, and now I'm here.... super duper hoping everyone gets their own miracle baby and soon!!!
much love,
phil.

She is so precious! How amazing to be able to see such detail. Modern technology is so amazing...but now they should focus on hpt's being better!!

 

[alicatt]

Morning Ladies,

I'm in a total funk this morning, the idiotic HPTs are still looking pretty negative. The FRER is stark white and the Up & Up has a faint line, but maybe it is just evap? It looks about as dark as the Walmart one from yesterday. I'm getting really discouraged, I was searching the boards this morning, and most IVF patients have positives by 8dp5dt (13dpo). So I'm not feeling very confident.

I'm super nauseous this morning, the cramps have all but gone and my lower back pain is gone too. Instead I feel a fullness down there. Plus I'm exhausted, I just want to go back to bed, but I can't seem to get a good nights sleep, its as if I'm tossing and turning and just restless. Plus last night the doggies woke me up and scared the you know what out of me. We all heard a male voice outside at about 3:10am. I live in deep into the development of suburbia and so it is rare to hear noises, especially human ones at that hour. So hopefully whatever was going on, the doggies scared them off, but of course it took me a while to get back to sleep. Then I woke up around 5am, you know the drill, just not a good nights sleep!

Anyway, I think it is time I start facing the fact that this cycle didn't work and that I'm not destined to be a mom. This was my last chance and it doesn't look like it worked.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Morning Ladies,

I'm in a total funk this morning, the idiotic HPTs are still looking pretty negative. The FRER is stark white and the Up & Up has a faint line, but maybe it is just evap? It looks about as dark as the Walmart one from yesterday. I'm getting really discouraged, I was searching the boards this morning, and most IVF patients have positives by 8dp5dt (13dpo). So I'm not feeling very confident.

I'm super nauseous this morning, the cramps have all but gone and my lower back pain is gone too. Instead I feel a fullness down there. Plus I'm exhausted, I just want to go back to bed, but I can't seem to get a good nights sleep, its as if I'm tossing and turning and just restless. Plus last night the doggies woke me up and scared the you know what out of me. We all heard a male voice outside at about 3:10am. I live in deep into the development of suburbia and so it is rare to hear noises, especially human ones at that hour. So hopefully whatever was going on, the doggies scared them off, but of course it took me a while to get back to sleep. Then I woke up around 5am, you know the drill, just not a good nights sleep!

Anyway, I think it is time I start facing the fact that this cycle didn't work and that I'm not destined to be a mom. This was my last chance and it doesn't look like it worked.

Don't be a negative nelly, keep the faith. It is still early. You ARE destined to be a Mom. Just be patient and know it will develop soon. Some people don't get bfp's at 13dpo, some need to be a week late. You have far too many signs pointing to a bfp to ignore. I will say a prayer for you. I know how hard this must be, it's such a roller coaster of emotions and believe me I don't handle disappointment well. STAY POSITIVE TO BE POSITIVE TO SEE A BFP! from NY.

 

[alicatt]

Morning Ladies,

I'm in a total funk this morning, the idiotic HPTs are still looking pretty negative. The FRER is stark white and the Up & Up has a faint line, but maybe it is just evap? It looks about as dark as the Walmart one from yesterday. I'm getting really discouraged, I was searching the boards this morning, and most IVF patients have positives by 8dp5dt (13dpo). So I'm not feeling very confident.

I'm super nauseous this morning, the cramps have all but gone and my lower back pain is gone too. Instead I feel a fullness down there. Plus I'm exhausted, I just want to go back to bed, but I can't seem to get a good nights sleep, its as if I'm tossing and turning and just restless. Plus last night the doggies woke me up and scared the you know what out of me. We all heard a male voice outside at about 3:10am. I live in deep into the development of suburbia and so it is rare to hear noises, especially human ones at that hour. So hopefully whatever was going on, the doggies scared them off, but of course it took me a while to get back to sleep. Then I woke up around 5am, you know the drill, just not a good nights sleep!

Anyway, I think it is time I start facing the fact that this cycle didn't work and that I'm not destined to be a mom. This was my last chance and it doesn't look like it worked.

Don't be a negative nelly, keep the faith. It is still early. You ARE destined to be a Mom. Just be patient and know it will develop soon. Some people don't get bfp's at 13dpo, some need to be a week late. You have far too many signs pointing to a bfp to ignore. I will say a prayer for you. I know how hard this must be, it's such a roller coaster of emotions and believe me I don't handle disappointment well. STAY POSITIVE TO BE POSITIVE TO SEE A BFP! from NY.

Thanks BabyWhisperer, I keep hoping and each night I say a prayer to God, and every morning I am faced with another I'm wondering if I should just stop testing until my BETA? Maybe that would be easier? The thing I keep wondering is if all my symptoms are so classicly pregnancy, then why won't the hCG show up? I just don't understand. It is absolutely maddening! So that is why I think it didn't work, and all I'm feeling are the side effects from the progesterone and estrogen.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Morning Ladies,

I'm in a total funk this morning, the idiotic HPTs are still looking pretty negative. The FRER is stark white and the Up & Up has a faint line, but maybe it is just evap? It looks about as dark as the Walmart one from yesterday. I'm getting really discouraged, I was searching the boards this morning, and most IVF patients have positives by 8dp5dt (13dpo). So I'm not feeling very confident.

I'm super nauseous this morning, the cramps have all but gone and my lower back pain is gone too. Instead I feel a fullness down there. Plus I'm exhausted, I just want to go back to bed, but I can't seem to get a good nights sleep, its as if I'm tossing and turning and just restless. Plus last night the doggies woke me up and scared the you know what out of me. We all heard a male voice outside at about 3:10am. I live in deep into the development of suburbia and so it is rare to hear noises, especially human ones at that hour. So hopefully whatever was going on, the doggies scared them off, but of course it took me a while to get back to sleep. Then I woke up around 5am, you know the drill, just not a good nights sleep!

Anyway, I think it is time I start facing the fact that this cycle didn't work and that I'm not destined to be a mom. This was my last chance and it doesn't look like it worked.

Don't be a negative nelly, keep the faith. It is still early. You ARE destined to be a Mom. Just be patient and know it will develop soon. Some people don't get bfp's at 13dpo, some need to be a week late. You have far too many signs pointing to a bfp to ignore. I will say a prayer for you. I know how hard this must be, it's such a roller coaster of emotions and believe me I don't handle disappointment well. STAY POSITIVE TO BE POSITIVE TO SEE A BFP! from NY.

Thanks BabyWhisperer, I keep hoping and each night I say a prayer to God, and every morning I am faced with another I'm wondering if I should just stop testing until my BETA? Maybe that would be easier? The thing I keep wondering is if all my symptoms are so classicly pregnancy, then why won't the hCG show up? I just don't understand. It is absolutely maddening! So that is why I think it didn't work, and all I'm feeling are the side effects from the progesterone and estrogen.

I think not testing until the beta is a great idea, if you can resist the temptation. FF says I shouldn't test until the 13th and af is due the 5th to the 9th! Nothing is exact, so just hang tight and try to stay optimistic. Everything the Drs said was encouraging. What they implanted looked awesome. Take a deep breath and try not to drive yourself crazy. It's not a question of if, it's a question of when.

 

[alicatt]

Morning Ladies,

I'm in a total funk this morning, the idiotic HPTs are still looking pretty negative. The FRER is stark white and the Up & Up has a faint line, but maybe it is just evap? It looks about as dark as the Walmart one from yesterday. I'm getting really discouraged, I was searching the boards this morning, and most IVF patients have positives by 8dp5dt (13dpo). So I'm not feeling very confident.

I'm super nauseous this morning, the cramps have all but gone and my lower back pain is gone too. Instead I feel a fullness down there. Plus I'm exhausted, I just want to go back to bed, but I can't seem to get a good nights sleep, its as if I'm tossing and turning and just restless. Plus last night the doggies woke me up and scared the you know what out of me. We all heard a male voice outside at about 3:10am. I live in deep into the development of suburbia and so it is rare to hear noises, especially human ones at that hour. So hopefully whatever was going on, the doggies scared them off, but of course it took me a while to get back to sleep. Then I woke up around 5am, you know the drill, just not a good nights sleep!

Anyway, I think it is time I start facing the fact that this cycle didn't work and that I'm not destined to be a mom. This was my last chance and it doesn't look like it worked.

Don't be a negative nelly, keep the faith. It is still early. You ARE destined to be a Mom. Just be patient and know it will develop soon. Some people don't get bfp's at 13dpo, some need to be a week late. You have far too many signs pointing to a bfp to ignore. I will say a prayer for you. I know how hard this must be, it's such a roller coaster of emotions and believe me I don't handle disappointment well. STAY POSITIVE TO BE POSITIVE TO SEE A BFP! from NY.

Thanks BabyWhisperer, I keep hoping and each night I say a prayer to God, and every morning I am faced with another I'm wondering if I should just stop testing until my BETA? Maybe that would be easier? The thing I keep wondering is if all my symptoms are so classicly pregnancy, then why won't the hCG show up? I just don't understand. It is absolutely maddening! So that is why I think it didn't work, and all I'm feeling are the side effects from the progesterone and estrogen.

I think not testing until the beta is a great idea, if you can resist the temptation. FF says I shouldn't test until the 13th and af is due the 5th to the 9th! Nothing is exact, so just hang tight and try to stay optimistic. Everything the Drs said was encouraging. What they implanted looked awesome. Take a deep breath and try not to drive yourself crazy. It's not a question of if, it's a question of when.

FF says not to test for me until Oct 1st, which is the day of my BETA. I just wish I was one of those women that had hCG showing super early!

 

[jm1355]

Morning Ladies,

I'm in a total funk this morning, the idiotic HPTs are still looking pretty negative. The FRER is stark white and the Up & Up has a faint line, but maybe it is just evap? It looks about as dark as the Walmart one from yesterday. I'm getting really discouraged, I was searching the boards this morning, and most IVF patients have positives by 8dp5dt (13dpo). So I'm not feeling very confident.

I'm super nauseous this morning, the cramps have all but gone and my lower back pain is gone too. Instead I feel a fullness down there. Plus I'm exhausted, I just want to go back to bed, but I can't seem to get a good nights sleep, its as if I'm tossing and turning and just restless. Plus last night the doggies woke me up and scared the you know what out of me. We all heard a male voice outside at about 3:10am. I live in deep into the development of suburbia and so it is rare to hear noises, especially human ones at that hour. So hopefully whatever was going on, the doggies scared them off, but of course it took me a while to get back to sleep. Then I woke up around 5am, you know the drill, just not a good nights sleep!

Anyway, I think it is time I start facing the fact that this cycle didn't work and that I'm not destined to be a mom. This was my last chance and it doesn't look like it worked.

Don't be a negative nelly, keep the faith. It is still early. You ARE destined to be a Mom. Just be patient and know it will develop soon. Some people don't get bfp's at 13dpo, some need to be a week late. You have far too many signs pointing to a bfp to ignore. I will say a prayer for you. I know how hard this must be, it's such a roller coaster of emotions and believe me I don't handle disappointment well. STAY POSITIVE TO BE POSITIVE TO SEE A BFP! from NY.

Thanks BabyWhisperer, I keep hoping and each night I say a prayer to God, and every morning I am faced with another I'm wondering if I should just stop testing until my BETA? Maybe that would be easier? The thing I keep wondering is if all my symptoms are so classicly pregnancy, then why won't the hCG show up? I just don't understand. It is absolutely maddening! So that is why I think it didn't work, and all I'm feeling are the side effects from the progesterone and estrogen.

I think not testing until the beta is a great idea, if you can resist the temptation. FF says I shouldn't test until the 13th and af is due the 5th to the 9th! Nothing is exact, so just hang tight and try to stay optimistic. Everything the Drs said was encouraging. What they implanted looked awesome. Take a deep breath and try not to drive yourself crazy. It's not a question of if, it's a question of when.

FF says not to test for me until Oct 1st, which is the day of my BETA. I just wish I was one of those women that had hCG showing super early!

As difficult as it has been to get to this part of your journey, what made you think that you were going to have hCG show up early? Be patient and believe!! It WILL show up!! Don't stress yourself with doubt and discouragement...it's not good for the baby (or babies)...

 

[Philomena]

Yes, Ali, I agree with Babywhisperer and Jess, it's early days yet! If testing now is getting you discouraged, then I think you are right, stop testing until the beta.... I knew when I tested early I could get bfn's and I did for a few days.... but I wasn't getting down about it because I knew and early bfn could very easily turn into a bfp given time.... every woman is different, and it all depends on when you implanted, how your own particular body will react, how quickly the hcg turns over..... just because you know when they were put into the uterus, doesn't guarantee that you know exactly when they implanted... any information you look up just has averages so on average it might implant straight away, or in 1 day, but maybe your babies took 3 days to implant.... you just can't know definitively. Also, some women have high hcg turnover and others not so much. Think about it.... in women who gets pregnant naturally, some get their bfp's at 5dpo and some doen't get a bfp until 2 weeks past when their period is due. There is a really wide gap between early detection and late detection of pregnancies.... I imagine the Beta test is timed for optimal detection and that the fertility people know that most women will have it show pregnant by then if they are.... so you still have a little while.... don't give up hope yet! right now, things might still just be Normal for you.... maybe you aren't an early bfp person, but it doesn't mean you should count yourself out yet.... I haven't given up hope yet, and I know many of the ladies here are still pulling for you.... I know how heartbreaking and disappointing it can be when all you want to see are those lines and crosshairs.... but it could still happen this month, so hang onto that- and if testing is discouraging you, then stop testing until the beta test.... my understanding is that the beta test can detect small amounts, so is way more sensitive than hpt's, right?
Hang in there.... rest on our hopes for a little while.... we have plenty for you to curl up on....