Well we had a talk!

[Lara18]

As you may know from my previous post, I recently found out that my bumps Dad and fiancee had been cheating on me. Well Paul came over after he had finished work and my Mum just told me she would leave me 2 it but to give her a shout if i needed her.
We sat in my living room, he was very respectful asking how me and bump were doing and wat not. Didnt try to kiss me or get to close wich I appreciated. So I asked for all the details of what happened with the other women and why he had felt the need to do it. He said that he had just panicked when I got preggo, he said he felt like he was having to grow up so so quick, one minute hes a 19 year old without a care in the world the next he's going to be a Dad. He knows that his behaviour was unacceptable but he can change and if i give him the chance to he says he will.
Ive made the decsion to give him a second chance, of sorts. Ive told him that its not ever going to be exactly the same between us and its not going to be anything like for a very long time. We have put off moving in together, how long for I dont know at this stage. Ive said if anything happens again, even emailing or texting any of the gilrs then its over straight away, and if he has second thoughts about bump and leaves then I will not be taking him back. So yer he has a final chance, i dont know whether im making a very very silly mistake but timw will tell. As long as he realises what he wants before bump arrives then he can have his chance, I just hope he doesnt make a hash of it this time. xxxxxxx

 

[MsChrissy]

good job. it's hard to stay strong and listen to your heart through those hard times. i'm sure you made the right decision for your situation. good luck lady! best wishes.

 

[Suz]

I really hope it works out for you hun

 

[AquaDementia]

never give a cheater a second chance, that is my philosophy. but then again, there is a baby involved here, so good luck lara.

 

[PINKDIAMOND]

Good luck!. I think your'e gonna need it. Never forgive a cheat. Once a cheat, always a cheat. A lepard never changes it's spots and thats something worth remembering.
However it is your'e choice and just because your'e o/h is a big cheat doesnt mean that he wont be a good dad. A baby needs a mum and a dad in its life.
Good luck and i hope that everything works out just fine for you.

 

[jchaney85]

I really hope it works out for you. Good Luck girly!!!

 

[Always&4ever]

I hope it all wotks out for you and that your OH doesn't hurt you again

 

[lorrilou]

Hope everything works out for you huni.

 

[tinytoes]

good for you. Iut's far too easy to say "once a cheater alwaysa cheater" I think every case is different and what is right for one couple isnt right for another.
Good on you for doing things your way. As long as you're in control then you've got your self respect then you go girl!
Did he actually physically cheat? Gosh, sorry I shouldnt ask. maybe he should get checked out germs wise befroe coming near you and buba, but otehrwise here's wishing you the best of luck! Take things one day at a time and slowly, you ertainly sound to be on top of things.
Good for you.

 

[reallytinyamy]

I agree with Tinytoes. Its all to easy for people say don't do it without knowing the whole story, background and the people involved. If you're happy with the decision you've made then good luck to you. Sounds like you've got your head screwed on the right way.

Be happy

 

[poppy]

Best of luck Lara - I hope things work out for you.xxx