What a complete £*%&$^

[hancake100]

I am sick of having to deal with fob when he isnt even that interested in his own daughter

I have given him so many chances to do the right thing and be there for Ellie. He is so nasty and everything is all about him him him, he doesnt see anything from my point of view which is really annoying

Even after all he has said and done to me, he is Ellies dad and I did want him in her life.

He didnt see her for 10weeks after we split even though I asked him so many times to come round. Then we decided on every Thursday after he finished work (so he doesnt get here till 7pm which is bang on Ellie bed time) He says hi etc..... to Ellie when he comes in then he sits there and watched TV and just isnt interested in her it makes me so sad. The last time he came I made him tea and he couldnt even take care of Ellie for 5mins while I was making tea but instead kept asking how long it was going to be

He couldnt put aside 1hour on fathers day to come and see her. He said sunday isnt a good day for him as he goes out every saturday night and will be hungover

When he got really nast awhile back I told him to get a solicitor and if he wanted to see her it will be in a contact centre. He didnt like that idea, sweet talked me so we didnt do it. He is now saying he wants to do it in a contact centre. I have told him to get a solicitor and he said he doesnt need to get one. He has sent me some really nasty stuff today and he said he is who he is and he wont change and if he wants to come around and watch tv then he will

He throws the dummy right out of the pram when he doesnt get his own way.
I am sick of giving him chance after chance......................

I have blocked him from every way possible so he can no longer contact me..... He can only ring my house phone (which he wont do) I shouldnt have to put up with his attitude anylonger and I dont want Ellie to be apart of this anymore. I want to move on and he is dragging me down with every message.

 

[Marlarky]

I wish I had the balls to cut off FOB!
Good luck with everything hun xx

 

[AbbynChloe]

i'm sorry hun - FOB's are a rare and special breed of men we were unfortunate to find.

You have given him every opportunity to be involved in his daughters life - there is nothing more you can do. if he can't even be bothered to make it to a contact centre, he really should be kept well away from your daughter.

i'm sorry for all the stress he is causing you - some here and rant away, we'll look after you xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[bobblebot]

stick to your guns....tell him to contact you via a solicitor or f**k right off!
He sounds like a slefish immature pri*k u and your daughter can live without.

 

[TiredNurse27]

what a wanker, I don't know if the 2 of you used to live together but after that "if he wants to come around and watch tv then he will" comment I would officially never EVER let him set foot in my home EVER EVER again.

I would take the baby to the park or McDonalds and let him see her there, if he's too lazy or bored to see her there he may just give up altogether.

 

[sophxx]

Stick to your guns hun you and Ellie don't deserve it! Is he on the birth certificate If he is I'd think about getting a residency order placed so you have full parental rights and he looses his then he can't just turn up in and out Of ellie s life x x remember im only a text away if you need to rant x

 

[hancake100]

Thankyou for all the replies girls

Well he is still blocked and hasnt tried to get intouch in any other way and it has been sooooooo nice not having to deal with any messages from him etc......

But, I got a text off his crazy mother today asking if she could come round and talk to me I really dont know what to do??? After all this family have said and done I really dont see they should have a place in Ellies life but can I really make this choice for her?? what do you think? I WISH THEY WOULD ALL F**K OFF and leave me alone to be honest and then I would be like this --->

 

[elsmogro]

You did the right thing, ive just cut all contact with the fob. Got sick of him bragging about wasting his money on games, take away n booze without buying. Thing for baby and when i commented on where his priorities are he said "if your gonna start being a dick ill delete u"
Basically told him exactly what i thought pf him and then woopah!! Out of our lives for good. I can so see my ex's attitude in your ex's behaviour, rare breed indeed lol i just think they havent evolved properly or something lol

Youv done the best thing, stick to your guns!!! As for the mother hmmm just decide what YOU want to do, dont feel pressured into anything because ellie is your daughter and only u know whats right xxx

 

[hancake100]

Blocking him from contacting me has been the best thing I ever done, it brought me down everytime I logged onto facebook or my emails to find a shitty message of him and is something we really dont need, is it!!!!

We all do a much better job without them around.

About his mother....... I have just been talking to my SIL on the phone and she said no matter what this woman is always going to me Ellie's Grandma and she seems to be trying to make a move by wanting to talk etc, so she thinks I should have her to come around to talk without Ellie being here and get everything out in the open. I want to ask her so many questions about what she has said and done (think I am going to be needing a bottle of wine before she gets here,haha) So I have arranged for her to coma around after work on Monday and my mum is going to look after Ellie for me so she isnt here. If things work out between me and the ex mil then I will maybe ask my mum to bring Ellie up so she can see her before she goes home then try and work something out for her coming round on a reglur basis for the sake of Ellie.

I feel like keeping Ellie away from her other grandma isnt my choice and one day if I made the wrong choice it would affect mine and Ellies relationship and I wouldnt want that to happen.