What a f***ing NOB

[Laura--x]

I hate Maisies dad so much i want to kill him!!!

Hes being such an arse. He tries to tell me what will happen with our daughter. He tries to tell me he will have her however many times a week, then his mum will also come and get her during the week when she feels like it.

are you fucking crazy?!

Now hes making up fucking excuses with his money. He has to give me £32 a week for her. Hes had trouble with his wages at work, been working for 4 weeks and hasnt got paid untill this week. They were meant to give him £800 odd but he only got £192. He owes her £150 but told me he wouldnt be able to pay that, so i told him to just give me this weeks money for her. Now hes saying he doesnt have to give her any money so he wont, he will buy her things when he wants. I told him he has too and he said no he doesnt because im on benefits so he wont. WTF!!!

Ok, the money he gives me goes out of my benefits but doesnt take them all away! Now hes refusing to give me any money for her. I told him i NEED money for her because i had to pay out loads for her modelling so now i have none, and hes refusing and now telling me he owed it all out so now has none left.

Hes not brought a single thing for his daughter since i was 8 weeks pregnant! Im so fucking angry with him hes being a right twat!

Hes coming to get her today and i swear i want to tell him where to go. He doesnt deserve to be a father to her, hes never ever been a proper dad with her and always been too fking interested in his ps3 or laptop. Shes better off not even knowing him but i know i cant do that.

URGH im so fucking angry !!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry for the rant.

 

[FEDup1981]

I wouldnt let him have her. Or send her witha huge list of things she needs, and tell him you want them when he brings her back.

xx

 

[Laura--x]

Hes told me he hasnt got a penny! Its a loadof bullshit i know. I swear im so angry im shaking and want to hit him !!!!!!!!!!!!!

I cant stop him from seeing her all together can i?? hes a waste of fking space!

 

[FEDup1981]

I would. If he cant pay for her then sod him. Tell him to either pay up or take u to court for access.

 

[Kirstin]

Tell him to pay or you'll go to the csa then go to the courts to arrange a proper access arrangements.

 

[FierceAngel]

Tell him to pay or you'll go to the csa then go to the courts to arrange a proper access arrangements.

tht would be my stance too hun x

do you know what his mum has to say about it all? asking cos you mentioned before about him wanting her to have maisie too.. and cos his young and lives with mum.. like does she think iits ok for her son to jerk his responsibilities?

 

[FierceAngel]

too add hun..

you being on benefits has f all to with it! if anything he should be providing even more so! why should the tax payer pay out in full for maisie wen he is working? (pls dont see tht as a dig at you being on benefits thts not my intention! )

if you was working earning 30k a year he would still have an obligation to provide!

 

[Laura--x]

too add hun..

you being on benefits has f all to with it! if anything he should be providing even more so! why should the tax payer pay out in full for maisie wen he is working? (pls dont see tht as a dig at you being on benefits thts not my intention! )

if you was working earning 30k a year he would still have an obligation to provide!

Exactly !! Ive told him i will inform the social about the money anyway so he cant use that at all!

His family are ripping off benefits them selves so if anything i could do them in! so tempted.

 

[Rach276]

Agree with all of the above. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Laura--x]

Hes took her now, he normally has her till 5 and i told him to bring her back no later than 4.

Ive also told him hes not seeing her at all untill he pays his money. He owes her £150. He told me he would buy her stuff then give me the rest, so i told him hes buying her a highchair and the cosey toes for her pram. That comes up to £90 then hes giving me £60.

He isnt seeing her untill i get BOTH money and highchair and cosey toes.

 

[SweetNothings]

Hes took her now, he normally has her till 5 and i told him to bring her back no later than 4.

Ive also told him hes not seeing her at all untill he pays his money. He owes her £150. He told me he would buy her stuff then give me the rest, so i told him hes buying her a highchair and the cosey toes for her pram. That comes up to £90 then hes giving me £60.

He isnt seeing her untill i get BOTH money and highchair and cosey toes.

There's no way to negotiate or compromise with people like him. You might have to go to court to get what you RIGHTFULLY deserve ...the court will stand in your favour whenever the mom has primary custody the father MUST pay or his wages can be garnished automatically and it goes to you automatically so that he cant get his hands on the money (at least in canada that is how it works)

 

[babybaillie]

Come to a compromise with him. Tell him u want £20 in cash a week, and the other £12 in nappies or sumthing. Then he cant say anything about u being on benefits.

 

[Laura--x]

Omg!

Hes just told me hes briinging her back at 5. I told him to bring her back at 4 so i want her home by 4, and hes now just told me he has a driving lesson at 3.30 for an hour.

WTF?!?!?! The one day he gets to spend a good time with his daughter and he has a driving lesson! I know he cant have them during the week with work but hes always had them on a snday before but has now said hes changed thme to saturday! WTF?!?!?

So now his mother is getting the pleasure of having her!

 

[suzanne108]

Someone else said a similar thing about their FOB not giving money and saying he would save it up in a bank account for the LO instead.

Now this realllllly pisses me off! Because the child maintenance money is to feed, clothe and put a roof over your babies head. Not to buy treats etc. In my opinion if he wants to buy things for Maisie then he should give you the maintenance AND buy her stuff. I mean, fair enough if you need a highchair and other bits, well done for telling him!

When/if I'm getting maintenance from FOB I'll be using it to put towards rent and bills and food shopping mainly.

Argh it really annoys me!!!!! £32 a week is nothing compared to what you probably pay out. Sorry, it just really annoys me that FOBs say stupid things like this.

Anyway, its half 4 so he should have her back by now? Did he buy the stuff you needed?

xxx

 

[suzanne108]

Sorry, didn't read the whole thread!! Make sure he has her back by 5 otherwise I'd be seriously mad with him.

And you should try going through the CSA for the money if he isn't paying xxx

 

[Laura--x]

When he brings her back im telling him hes not seeing her again untill i get her money!

When i told him i still needed money off him, and he could buy her stuff out of his own money he said ' oh ok ill just give it to you then!'

A REAL father would want to spend their last pennys on their children surely?!?! Its not on!

 

[suzanne108]

I agree.

£32 is really not that much for him if he has a full time job. So for him to give you that for bills etc then spend another £10-£20 on toys or treats....it wouldn't be too much to ask. BUT he'd have to do it outta the kindness of his heart...and a lot of the FOBs on here don't seem to have a heart!!!

 

[Laura--x]

No he doesnt!!

I would ask for more if i could but with what hes earning thats what the 'government' says he should pay weekly!

 

[suzanne108]

£32 is quite good really considering the governments guidelines!

I think I'm only entitled to about £20-£25 a week according to the CSA calculator....shitty

 

[purpledahlia]

I would stick to your guns and dont let him see her.. ring CSA and let him take you to court for proper access... he will have to fork out a lot for that!!! he sounds like a Kn*b xx