What a f***ing NOB

[having#4]

I don't know how this would work for you, but when my daughter was born her "father" and I had already split up. I didn't put him on the BC and we had a verbal agreement that he would pay me $200 a month and visit her every other weekend and Monday and Wednesday evenings. I never recieved a payment from him and he only showed up for one visit. I never called him to make sure he was coming over, I never asked him for the money, when he called a few months later to ask about her, I told him that he would get answers for that once I recieved the back pay and he started visiting. He has never come around since. I just don't have time to fight with people over things that they SHOULD be doing. I mean, him not showing up and paying sure put me in a tight spot, but didn't hurt my feelings, it gave me more time with my daughter, and the satisfaction of knowing what he was missing out on. I guess what I am trying to say is don't push it. Definatly make sure that he is paying her, or cut off his visits. Remember that you have control. YOU hold all the cards here, he doesn't really have anything to use against you and you can so easily turn that around on him. ex. he doesn't pay, he doesn't see her. It's that simple. Good Luck, he sounds like a jack a**