What are my rights??

[Sophie1205]

FOB walked out on us 4 weeks ago. He left to be with the girl he was cheating on me with.
I don't care at all, I'm over him and would never get back with him. I am so much happier without him. I don't care who he is withor what he was doing while he was with me. I have no feelings for him what so ever!
what I do care about is our son! now the other week when FOB had Leo for the weekend Leo came home saying he had been to "Candy's house". I immediately felt sick because I knew who he meant. Leo had never even heard the word Candy before, let alone said it. Of course FOB denied taking Leo to this girls house.
He kept saying that he should be able to have this girl around Leo. Now I'm saying NO! Its only been 4 weeks since we spilt up and Leo is confused enough already!! This girl doesn't deserve to meet my son... she's a home wrecker for a start! And it's too soon, I don't know this girl, and neither does FOB really........
So I spoke to his mum about it and she agreed with me on it. I think I'm being reasonable and its in the best interests for Leo. Im not being jealous or bitter because I couldnt care less who is he with. But I dont think its right to have Leo meeting some random girlfriend of his when its so soon and for all I know they could split up in a month and confuse Leo even more!
I have said though, say in 12 - 18 months time they are still together, then fair enough she can meet Leo. But right now I really need him to respect my wishes and keep him away from her!
His Mum had a word with him and he seemed to agree and get on with it.....Until today.....hes going on about it again....saying hes going to see "family advice" ( i have never even heard of family advice).

So what are my rights??? I really dont want this girl around my son. Not yet anyway. What can I do??? Please help, this is really worrying me and stressing me out. Its my 21st on thursday and FOB has got Leo all weekend..how am I supposed to enjoy my weekend when I will be worrying that he's gonna take Leo to this girls house.

 

[kirst1805]

no advice hun sorry, I agree with you though.. Its way too soon for your son to meet some random girl.

xx

 

[Heather9603]

Unless she has done something to hurt your son, I don't think there is much you can do. But can you maybe meat him halfway, you can say that she can never be with your son alone (Picking him up from school, taking him to the park, watching him while FOB goes to the store) etc. Also, can you talk to FOB about your son NOT going to HER house since you havn't seen it, you have no idea if its kiddy proof.

Also, it would kill me to do this, but I'd do it for the sake of my kids. But would it ease your mind more to meet her? Explain to her why you are saying these things, and that you are just not comfortable with your son being around strangers because thats honestly what she is.

 

[LoraLoo]

I agree with you, but legal, I dont think you have any rights to say where he can take your son, or who he can see, unless he is putting LO in danger

 

[Sophie1205]

Thing is that weekend Leo went to this girls house he came home with a black eye this is whats worrying me even more. I dont think I could meet her, think I'd wanna punch her lol

 

[Heather9603]

Then just stand firm and compromise that LO isn't allowed over there. If your ex wants to see this woman, they need to meet in public or at his place.

I mean she probably didn't hurt him, but whose to say that maybe her house isn't kiddie proof and he ran into something?

 

[Sophie1205]

Yeah exactly. and I dont know her or her family! what if her dad's a (god forbid) paedophile?! Ughhh. Just winds me up he thinks its ok for this to happen x