what do you do?

[captain-ally]

I don't think many of us ever thought we'd be single moms, but that's how it goes. You sound like a strong, realistic person - you'll be fine on your own (and by the sounds of it, he'll help out?)

I wouldn't say anything to your landlord unless you've got proof you can afford the rent on your own. Mine wasn't too impressed when I told her what happened, but I had signed papers (an original copy for her as well) stating that my ex was paying the rent until december. I think the documentation was the only reason she didn't evict me on the spot.

 

[isil]

thanks Ally. My OH decided to ring the landlord but thankfully, she is fine with it she says she doesn't care who lives here as long as the rent is paid! lol. I'm really relieved about that.

I think I just need my OH to move out so that we can kind of get on with things. He is moving back to his parents at the end of March. That's about 4 hrs away so I have no idea how often he is going to see Alasdair I do have my parents nearby though so I'm grateful for that.

 

[Becky]

You should get help with your rent from Housing Benefit so call your council about that also notify them your on your own there and you council tax will go down.

I know its not the ideal situation but I just try to make the best of it he is going to loved just as much and its better this way than seeing you two arguing.

Also a point that helped me which I understand is easier said than done but try not to bottle things up talk to people I bottled everything up and then spent a whole week basically in tears now I know I have friends that dont mind if I call them any time of the day to off load

big hugs xx

 

[AppleBlossom]

I get help with rent hun. Sorry to hear its definately over. I don't think any of us thought we'd be single mums but we just have to get on with it and be strong for our LO's

 

[leeanne]

I am sorry honey.

 

[clairebear]

Im so sorry to hear this sheona x

If you ever need to talk im here for you

 

[Foxxy]

Wish u be strong enough for the sake of ur LO!

 

[Sovereign]

Oh hun I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out and that it's definately over. It will be best for everyone all round though if you were arguing all the time. If I were you I would go into the job centre and ask them what benefits you are entitled to, they will be able to help you. Hope you're okay hun. x

 

[bluebell]

Only just seen this. Hope you're OK

xx

 

[isil]

thanks everyone, Ally and I are fine. Just getting on with it!

 

[vegan_mama]

I think I just need my OH to move out so that we can kind of get on with things. He is moving back to his parents at the end of March. That's about 4 hrs away so I have no idea how often he is going to see Alasdair I do have my parents nearby though so I'm grateful for that.

i'm sure he'll manage to see Alasdair still, when i was a child my dad left when i was 7 and moved 6 hours away, but he got the coach up once every 3 months to spend a week with each other, and he still does it to see my younger siblings now.

you could also get a webcam with a mic. so they could see and talk to each other when alasdair is older.

sorry your going through this

 

[dollygirlie]

sounds like you are coping well, sometimes its good to have clear endings, better than arguments, around children, and you have your family close by, which is a godsend, like the lady above said internet communication is good to keep in touch, I have the same problem with my other half too, I just wished things were clear. But it sounds like you are positive and will get on with things, even when he does leave, I think you will do ok