Firstly let me say how sorry I am for all the heartbreaking losses you ladies have mentioned here. We have all lost something very precious to us.
I find this whole subject really hard. I work in a job which entails having conversations with women I barely know on a daily basis. People seem to think that the subject of pregnancy or whether or not you have or want to have children is public property. It really bugged me after my loss when women would ask if I had children, if I wanted children, even if I was trying for a baby. I didn't really know these people so I didn't want to unload the story of my loss onto them but it broke my heart not to mention my little man and honour his memory. I make it a rule of mine never to ask about family until someone mentions one... you just don't know what pain and loss others have gone through.
Now, even though my bump is getting more obvious, I try not to tell anyone I am pregnant if I don't know them very well. I just can't bear the conversation. Luckily I am at the inbetween stage where i look like i might just have been enjoying the cakes so no-one asks me yet!
I'm thinking of being very mischeivious when I'm a bit bigger and looking hurt and shocked when people ask me when the baby is due!
Friends family and colleagues (even my DH) seem relieved that I am pregnant again. Like I can't be grieving my little lost one any more. OK so it's helping me move on but it's so important to me that this bub is not replacing my first little man. This bub is a brother or sister to him. I am still sad that I never got to meet my little man.
Sorry for the vent here... just realised how long this post was!!
Much love to you mums-to-angels.
K.x