My trick was to say stray easy going comments only now and again. Like, "I like the name Paula for a girl, what about you?"(Without saying for our future baby or anything, that helps so they don't take their imagination astray). Or maybe "Oh look at those baby shoes, aren't they cute..." With comments like that it started clicking to him I want a baby soon but without saying so, just as a comment you just think of in the spur of the moment kind of thing. I must admit DH has never been against having a baby but we had never talked about it seriously until I started my "subtle bombarding". He now says he likes Paula for a girl (maybe by now he's heard it and grown to like it) as before he didn't like it because his boss is called Pauly... I think saying it enough times in an "unannoying" way for them their mind slowly makes it's way around the idea until they get used to it and then accept it. Once that happens then you can try and get him to pick a date, although in my case I picked the date acording to our future events. Good luck girls and try and make it happen before giving up on something good (that is baby or OH).xxx