What way do I turn?

[Hazel90]

Back in early July of this year I had abnormal discharge, it was watery and there was lots of it. I visited the doctor and was told it was hormonal changes. I thought nothing of it until the next morning when I came on my period. I always get period pains the first day but this was something else. It was also a sharp, stabbing pain that was spreading through my whole right side. The only way I felt comfortable was lying on my back with my legs bent. After 6 hours in agony, taking 3 types of painkillers and passing out, I decided to call for help.

To cut a long story short the doctors believed it was my appendix and removed that in surgery however, whilst they were operating they found the source of my agony. I had a large abscess in my right fallopian tube. They kept me in hospital for 5 days where I was given a cocktail of antibiotics. They were convicted it was caused by an STI however, I was checked 4 weeks previously and was clear. I have been with the same partner. I have no previous history of any STI's.

After the demoralising experience in hospital I spent the next 3 weeks taking antibiotics and visiting the hospital for scans.

Today, 3 months later, I met the consultant to discuss the scans. I went there thinking that it couldn't be something too bad as I wouldn't have been made to wait so long to get my results. I was wrong.

I had pelvic inflammatory disease, which I was told in hospital, however, the abscess has not shrunk so therefore they want to remove my tube. They also said that my other one is covered in adhesions which would mean conception would be difficult.

I have been told that surgery is elective but because there is still infection there I could well be back to square one again in a few months time.

I am 25 years old and my partner and I have been trying for a baby almost since I was discharged from hospital. Nothing has happened and I have now been told that it would be too dangerous for me to conceive because of the risk of ectopic pregnancy which could result in me losing my only tube.

I am gutted, distraught and do not know how to control my mind from focusing on anything other than not having the one thing I have wanted most in life.

Has anybody had a similar experience and conceived either naturally or through other means after? My partner is also gutted and I don't want him getting down also.

Thank you so much for reading this (essay!)

 

[TexasRider]

Aww honey im so sorry. I've never been in this type of position but don't let it stop you from exploring other options.
Could you do IVF since they would put the fertilized embryo in your uterus and not your tube? Or maybe adoption or foster care?

 

[LoveCakes]

My experience is different but at one point I was facing a hysterectomy at 28. I had severly abnormal (pre cancerous) cells in my womb and had a 1/5 chance of loosing my womb. This was for 9 months while I had treatment and remembering that period of my life still makes me feel a bit sick. Even if all worked out worked out well we had to start the fertility treatment emotional roller coaster. I can't give advice on coping I didn't cope well I ended up cutting friends with kids out of my life (though 4 friends got pregnant and had kids within that time). Having distractions like work or holidays helped a bit.

2 years on and I have my LO and are ttc for a sibling.

I don't know enough to comment on your case but I wanted to share that even when I thought there was only a tiny bit of hope it was enough.

The best thing would be go back to your dr or get referred to a specialist and find out all the facts. Once you know what is possible and what the risks are you can decide how to move on.

I'm so sorry for all you've been through.