lalitas charm
Mummy to Bethan & Piplet
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Hi there,
I'm having the worst dilema and it is really upsetting me. It may seem silly to some people but I am a really private person about some things and this is making me feel like I have had all my choices and privacy taken away from me, it is a violation of my privacy.
As you all know you get a whole host of tests done including HIV, syphillis and Hepititus. Well, I declined these on my first MW appointment as my mum works in the Lab where the tests are done and I know the person who actually carries out the tests. I feel like it is a breach of my privacy, I asked them couldn't they send them with only my hospital number and not my name but they said no they couldn't. I'm not worried about them coming back positive but there is always that teeny tiny risk and as such I want it to be done anonymously
I wanted to go to the local GUM clinic to do it but although they say they do a walk in clinic the procedure is really that you have to go there at 8:30 and then they will give you an appointment time for later in the week when you have to go back again so that isn't going to work either as I am already going out to appointments all the time.
Today I get a letter from the antenatal screening coordinator going on about how essential it is that I have these tests and how I MUST have them done at my next appointment. there is no effort to meet me half way or understand the upset or stress it is causing me.
I am having my 12 weeks scan (at 11+1) tomorrow and I dont want to go now. I am upset and not looking forward to it at all. I just feel so lost.
Has anyone any more ideas how I can get around this? I'm happy to have the tests done, I just want it to be done privately and to allow me some dignity. It is really upsetting me. Thanks.
Jx
I'm having the worst dilema and it is really upsetting me. It may seem silly to some people but I am a really private person about some things and this is making me feel like I have had all my choices and privacy taken away from me, it is a violation of my privacy.
As you all know you get a whole host of tests done including HIV, syphillis and Hepititus. Well, I declined these on my first MW appointment as my mum works in the Lab where the tests are done and I know the person who actually carries out the tests. I feel like it is a breach of my privacy, I asked them couldn't they send them with only my hospital number and not my name but they said no they couldn't. I'm not worried about them coming back positive but there is always that teeny tiny risk and as such I want it to be done anonymously
I wanted to go to the local GUM clinic to do it but although they say they do a walk in clinic the procedure is really that you have to go there at 8:30 and then they will give you an appointment time for later in the week when you have to go back again so that isn't going to work either as I am already going out to appointments all the time.
Today I get a letter from the antenatal screening coordinator going on about how essential it is that I have these tests and how I MUST have them done at my next appointment. there is no effort to meet me half way or understand the upset or stress it is causing me.
I am having my 12 weeks scan (at 11+1) tomorrow and I dont want to go now. I am upset and not looking forward to it at all. I just feel so lost.
Has anyone any more ideas how I can get around this? I'm happy to have the tests done, I just want it to be done privately and to allow me some dignity. It is really upsetting me. Thanks.
Jx