What would you do?

[Viking15]

Ok ladies. I need your advice on what you would do in my situation.
I am turning 37 next week. I have HPV. It has never been a serious problem until my last pap smear. I had a colposcopy done and it came back moderate to severe. My GYN wants me to see a specialist because I'm TTC. She gave me some options, but she wanted me to get a second opinion from an oncologist The soonest I could get an appt with the specialist is after my ovulation date this month. The options were 1) try to get pregnant and they will keep a close eye on my cervix as the cells grow slowly or 2) have a conical biopsy to remove the cells now, but that leads to a higher percentage of miscarriages due to weakening of the cervix ( we will also have to wait another month to TTC to let my cervix heal again)
So my question is, due to my job and my age it is hard to be home at the right time to BD and harder to to get pregnant. Should we try this month or should I wait for the specialist? I go back and forth on this. I want a winter or spring baby and this is the last month I can get pregnant and have a spring baby. I know I can't control everything but I want to be able to try at least.

 

[pdmcd17]

viking Im sorry to hear
unfortunately only you and your OH can decide what is best for you both
I would suggest writting the pros and cons to both options and see which one is the best for you both.
Good luck hon

 

[mara j]

I suppose the sensible option is to get yourself healthy and safe first, so you're in the best condition for pregnancy. BUT its not always the choice you would prefer in your heart. Before i made any firm decision, I would go see the oncologist and discuss all outcomes and probabilities first. You want the optimum conditions for the outcome you seek. So maybe it doesn't matter so much, at what time of year you conceive, or put off TTC for a couple of months, but that you do so healthy and happily for all concerned. x

 

[future_numan]

I have to agree with PDMC and say this is totally up to you and DH.
My worry would be if you do decide to wait for the conical biopsy something more serious can happen.. like cancer
I also was diag. with HPV five years ago. I had my biopsy within a month of HPV being found.. recovery was quick and even though I brought up the fact I had, had a conical biopsy after I got pregnant with Emily no one seemed that concerned about it..
I had another pap about six months after the biopsy and got a clean bill of health.. now I just go once a year.
I have the peace of mind that I will be around to raise Emily..

 

[NorthStar]

Hi Viking,

Hmm I know it's hard for you to find the window of opportunity for a BD at ov time (go Team Immaculate Conception!) so I think that might be influencing your decision a bit.

If that was taken out the equation would you go ahead and have the treatment first before TTC?

 

[Viking15]

Northstar, I do think I would just go ahead and have it if it wasn't so hard to be home for Oing. I'm torn. I guess I should be responsible and just wait. Maybe my body will hold out a couple more days so we can get the info before Oing? It's only 2 days after when I expect to O. My cycles are pretty irregular still, so maybe nature will work with me this time?

 

[NorthStar]

Hopefully the stress will work FOR you in this situation - FX.

I dosed myself with EPO from CD1-12 this month and I haven't actually O'd yet(Cd17), maybe you could give that a try (works differently for different people but worth a go).

Personally I say you have to look after yourself FIRST and like future numan says it wasn't a deal breaker for TTC by any means.

But get proper medical advice first so you know the options, and I'm sorry it's a shitty thing to happen to you.

 

[readyformore]

That's a tough decision.

All I can tell you about your entire original post, is that I have found you can never ever plan when to have a baby. They come when they want to come. And, I have also found that if I 'plan' for a certain time frame, I get even more disappointed and frustrated.

Good luck.

 

[dachsundmom]

I am sorry for your situation. The decision is one you need to come to on your own. But, I will tell you that the most important thing to your LO, aside from loving them, is that you are healthy.

Kids want their parents, they don't care about where their birthday falls.

 

[sarahincanada]

Ok ladies. I need your advice on what you would do in my situation.
I am turning 37 next week. I have HPV. It has never been a serious problem until my last pap smear. I had a colposcopy done and it came back moderate to severe. My GYN wants me to see a specialist because I'm TTC. She gave me some options, but she wanted me to get a second opinion from an oncologist The soonest I could get an appt with the specialist is after my ovulation date this month. The options were 1) try to get pregnant and they will keep a close eye on my cervix as the cells grow slowly or 2) have a conical biopsy to remove the cells now, but that leads to a higher percentage of miscarriages due to weakening of the cervix ( we will also have to wait another month to TTC to let my cervix heal again)
So my question is, due to my job and my age it is hard to be home at the right time to BD and harder to to get pregnant. Should we try this month or should I wait for the specialist? I go back and forth on this. I want a winter or spring baby and this is the last month I can get pregnant and have a spring baby. I know I can't control everything but I want to be able to try at least.

In my opinion you should get this fixed before trying, but I know thats hard. If you got pregnant what if the cells progressed and you needed to have a surgery that could compromise with the health of the baby? this is an important question to ask a specialist. If the surgery can compromise the cervix you dont want to have to be doing this say 4 months pregnant and risk an early birth. If the cells grow slowly and can be left alone for 9 months then its ok, but I dont know how they grow when moderate /severe.

I think you need to also forget the ideas of 'I want a spring baby'....why does that matter may I ask? I understand the frustration of timing and the feeling of running out of time though

 

[Viking15]

I want a winter or spring baby because I live in Florida. It feels like the face of the sun during summer. I don't want to be hugely pregnant in the summertime. I want to be able to enjoy walking with my baby outside after the birth to lose all that baby weight. It might be trivial but it matters to me.

 

[Indigo77]

I really think you should get yourself healthy first.
Besides, wouldn't not getting this taken care of first make you stress more?

 

[Viking15]

I guess I'm not that stressed about it because the gyno gave me the option of going ahead. She did recommend getting a second opinion. This is why I ask though. Cooler heads will prevail. I won't be home for the next six nights so there will be no BDing. It would be tempting to try when I get home though. I haven't actually asked my OH about it, because I'm afraid he wouldn't understand how I feel. This is why I wanted to ask you ladies because I knew you would understand where I am coming from.

 

[chubbin]

I had to have LLETZ surgery when I was ttc no 1. It was so frustrating, and tbh I didnt wait for 6 months after the surgery to start ttc again, but in any case it took longer than that to conceive anyway.
I would agree with the other ladies - have the surgery. Potentially you still have plenty of time to conceive after you have recovered, so dont let your body clock panic you.
I know your HPV may never develop into anything more serious if left, and I guess this is partly why you are given the choice to have surgery. But...it may, and for some ladies it does. Enough said on that And in terms of carrying a pregnancy after cone biopsy, you will be closely monitored, and a stitch will be put in if it is felt there is a risk of you not holding the baby. So this issue is fairly easily managed.
Good luck in what ever you decide xx

 

[purplelou]

Hi Viking, you might want to try Jo's trust - its a forum for all things cervix. there are lots of ladies over there that have have cones etc (end even more radical treatments)and have gone on to have healthy babies. and they are very knowlegable about the whole subject

hope that helps

and good luck xx

https://www.jostrust.org.uk/support/online-forum

 

[onmymind17]

I want a winter or spring baby because I live in Florida. It feels like the face of the sun during summer. I don't want to be hugely pregnant in the summertime. I want to be able to enjoy walking with my baby outside after the birth to lose all that baby weight. It might be trivial but it matters to me.

LOL its not trivial, i totaly understand, for me i live in IL and the thought of being hugely pg while trying to walk on snow and ice when its 25 below sucks, but after 3 years of trying now i dont care lol. I think you need to get the second opinion before you continue, i know its hard to wait, but what good will it do you to get pg, have a baby and then have something happen to you, the baby needs his/her momma first. I would get a second opinion and then go from there.

 

[Viking15]

Well, I have managed to make it to the appt date without and BDing. The appointment is in the next hour and a half, and I am nervous and scared. I already feel like crying, but that is mostly out of frustration. I am anxious to know what needs to be done and how that will effect me/us. My ovulation will probably happen today. It has held off for me according to opks. I believe I had my temp dip this morning though. I don't know if this is a good omen, or just my body trying to help me out. I think I would have been pretty upset, depressed, mad etc, if I had missed out on another opportunity without even having the info I need.
Fingers crossed for positive outcome. I will update after the appt.
Thanks for all the good advice ladies.

 

[onmymind17]

Well, I have managed to make it to the appt date without and BDing. The appointment is in the next hour and a half, and I am nervous and scared. I already feel like crying, but that is mostly out of frustration. I am anxious to know what needs to be done and how that will effect me/us. My ovulation will probably happen today. It has held off for me according to opks. I believe I had my temp dip this morning though. I don't know if this is a good omen, or just my body trying to help me out. I think I would have been pretty upset, depressed, mad etc, if I had missed out on another opportunity without even having the info I need.
Fingers crossed for positive outcome. I will update after the appt.
Thanks for all the good advice ladies.

Oh good luck, fingers are crossed and prayers are going up that all will be ok, and you can catch this eggie.

 

[Viking15]

Well ladies, the news was not good for immediate TTC. The specialist took a look and said the area he is concerned with is small, but since I have been getting abnormal papa smear results for about five years now he wants it removed. Apparently my body isn't able to fight off the virus. Therefore a LEEP will be done and I will have to WTT. It is unclear as to how long we will be on hold. I am very upset about it. I feel like I have already been waiting for too long.

 

[dachsundmom]

Well ladies, the news was not good for immediate TTC. The specialist took a look and said the area he is concerned with is small, but since I have been getting abnormal papa smear results for about five years now he wants it removed. Apparently my body isn't able to fight off the virus. Therefore a LEEP will be done and I will have to WTT. It is unclear as to how long we will be on hold. I am very upset about it. I feel like I have already been waiting for too long.