What's the top 5 worst things about being a single parent?

[crossroads]

As the title asks: What's the top 5 worst things about being a single parent?

I salute you guys.

 

[billy2mm]

no lie ins at weekends

no mothers day breakfast in bed

no one to watch the kids so i can have a shower in peace

no one to cook us tea

no one to let me go back to bed when i am ill

 

[moomin_troll]

no chance to get a lie in

its very lonely

no one to help u with meal/bath times

no one to give u a break when u have a screaming toddler and just want to scream urself

no one to help when ur ill

 

[suzanne108]

Why do you ask?

I agree with the suggestions above but really I love being a single parent.

I can actually thing of more negatives to having a partner haha, but then I am a man hater

 

[lou_w34]

How about a 'top 5 great things about being a single parent thread'

I could just as easily ask 'whats the top 5 worst things about having a partner and being a parent' LOL

I love being a single mummy

 

[bloodbinds]

Top worst thing about being a single parent:

Threads like these.



What a negative thread!

 

[Jo]

I'm sorry but I think it is a bit off starting a thread like this if you are NOT or ever have been a single parent.

Surely it should be a best and worst things.

I think the best thing to do with this is ignore it if you don't want to answer, lets not cause a row and it will soon drop off the page.

 

[moomin_troll]

i didnt even notice the poster wasnt a single mum....i really shud read things better lol

im sure billy2mm will agree with me its better being a single mum compared to how hard it is being a army wife parent!

 

[crossroads]

I'm sorry but I think it is a bit off starting a thread like this if you are NOT or ever have been a single parent.

Surely it should be a best and worst things.

I think the best thing to do with this is ignore it if you don't want to answer, lets not cause a row and it will soon drop off the page.

I wanted to see if I could hack being a single parent myself. I'm sure a lot of women have often questioned "should I stay or should I go" when things are tough.

It would be foolish to leap into single parenthood without researching the reality first.

What's your problem? I thought moderators were supposed to be unbiased.

 

[moomin_troll]

if ur a mother already and looking after ur children its really no different unless u make it different.
yes it feels harder but u have to do what u have to do

not all single mums are single mums due to leaving their ohs tho so its not always that simple

 

[crossroads]

if ur a mother already and looking after ur children its really no different unless u make it different.
yes it feels harder but u have to do what u have to do

not all single mums are single mums due to leaving their ohs tho so its not always that simple

Yes. I'm a SAHM so wondering how different being a single mum would be. Do the benefits of a partner outweigh the need to flee drama for the sake of the child? Is staying together despite drama best for the child? I don't know where else to ask these questions.

 

[moomin_troll]

if ur a mother already and looking after ur children its really no different unless u make it different.
yes it feels harder but u have to do what u have to do

not all single mums are single mums due to leaving their ohs tho so its not always that simple

Yes. I'm a SAHM so wondering how different being a single mum would be. Do the benefits of a partner outweigh the need to flee drama for the sake of the child? Is staying together despite drama best for the child? I don't know where else to ask these questions.

my mum had to leave our dad for us and also herself as he was violent, so screw it if she could cope or not she just had to leave.

i cant answer this question persoanly because i didnt leave me oh and he didnt leave me, he died so ive had no choice but to get on with it and be a mother to my son and being pregnant.

life isnt easy.

if its a case of ur unhappy in a relationship id think the father would still be around to be a part time dad.

 

[suzanne108]

Every situation is so different that you can't really go off how we find being a single parent (imo).

If you told us your situation it might be easier for us to tell you how it would differ to the way things are now. For example, Would FOB still be involved? If so, exactly how would he be involved? Would you be able to get on if you were separated? Would you have other support from family/friends?

You can't really generalise things because there are lots of factors which could make things either more difficult or easier. If that makes sense!

 

[Vickie]

I'm sorry but I think it is a bit off starting a thread like this if you are NOT or ever have been a single parent.

Surely it should be a best and worst things.

I think the best thing to do with this is ignore it if you don't want to answer, lets not cause a row and it will soon drop off the page.

I wanted to see if I could hack being a single parent myself. I'm sure a lot of women have often questioned "should I stay or should I go" when things are tough.

It would be foolish to leap into single parenthood without researching the reality first.

What's your problem? I thought moderators were supposed to be unbiased.

Your first post was abrupt without any background or explanation as to why you were asking the question and other members DID take offense, which is why Jo stepped in.

If this tone continues this thread will be closed.

 

[bloodbinds]

I'm sorry but I think it is a bit off starting a thread like this if you are NOT or ever have been a single parent.

Surely it should be a best and worst things.

I think the best thing to do with this is ignore it if you don't want to answer, lets not cause a row and it will soon drop off the page.

I wanted to see if I could hack being a single parent myself. I'm sure a lot of women have often questioned "should I stay or should I go" when things are tough.

It would be foolish to leap into single parenthood without researching the reality first.

What's your problem? I thought moderators were supposed to be unbiased.

Perhaps then you should start a thread saying 'should i leave? What's it like being a single parent?'

And people could tell you the bad things as well as the good things, but the mod/admin are right, this is quite an offensive thread hun - you might not have meant it in that way, but it's how it comes across. In my opinion, there are no bad bits of being a single parent. I get my daughter all to myself and i love doing everything for her and with her and i don't have to share! I feel bad for people in relationships!

I do think this thread should be closed though and you start up a new one explaining your situation and what answers you actually want. The title of this thread alone gets my back up! Lol.

 

[Jo]

I'm sorry but I think it is a bit off starting a thread like this if you are NOT or ever have been a single parent.

Surely it should be a best and worst things.

I think the best thing to do with this is ignore it if you don't want to answer, lets not cause a row and it will soon drop off the page.

I wanted to see if I could hack being a single parent myself. I'm sure a lot of women have often questioned "should I stay or should I go" when things are tough.

It would be foolish to leap into single parenthood without researching the reality first.

What's your problem? I thought moderators were supposed to be unbiased.

Well before this I didn't have a problem but some of our members did.
now I do have a problem and it is you, I am unbiased, very unbiased as I am sure many of our members would agree, If they don't I don't mind

You have a fantastic knack of starting threads that light a touch paper and then backing off ans TBH this seemed like one of them.

I was responding to a reported post.
I was doing my job!

Maybe if you had explained or expanded a little in your OP it wouldn't have got peoples backs up.

People could explain pros and cons, but some girls on here haven't had the choice it has been made for them.

I really don't think a "worst 5 moments" should make up your mind, surely you should just do what is best for you and LO.

 

[BeautifulD]

Haaaaaaaaaaaaang on a minute, you wanted for us SINGLE mums to be the deciding force as to whether or not you should stay in your relationship or not? In a relationship that you a ttc in? WOW!!!

Listen up, if you are in a relationship that you are unhappy in STOP ttc AVOID bring another child into the world if the relationship is no good! if you are un happy LEAVE if you are happy STAY.... Some of us don't have the choice and would give anything to be in a relationship that was happy enough to be ttc..... I find your post shocking if im honest!

 

[justlove]

cc

 

[justlove]

*I meant miracle

 

[billy2mm]

i didnt even notice the poster wasnt a single mum....i really shud read things better lol

im sure billy2mm will agree with me its better being a single mum compared to how hard it is being a army wife parent!

oh yes!!!!!!!!!!! noteven on the same scale!!! lol.