when FOB gets a new girlfriend.....

[bump_wanted]

My ex husband is with someone just now the female he was having an affair with, from what I know of her (she's a friend of my brothers who I don't know complicated situation) she is young and immature and in no way ready to be a good influence on my son.. My son and his fathers relationship is quite damaged IMO at this point and it isn't a suitable time to be introducing him to anyone on either side.. When the time comes I would expect him to have been with a suitable female for a respectable amount of time 6months + and I'd expect him to introduce me to her first I would return this respect but absolutely not with the woman who was involved in the break up of our family xx

 

[Boomerslady]

I'm coming at this from the other side, as we've been split up for over 2 years now and I had a partner for 8 months, then was single for a year and have a current partner I've been with for 5 months. I introduced Ben to them after about 2-3 months. I trusted them by this point and felt it was going to be 'long term' rather than just a few months iykwim. I told FOB both times and he flipped out. I offered for him to meet them and he refused (actually he once said they'd have to knock in his door and ask his permission to be around his son!!).

I understand his opinion and he doesn't like it, however I never left Ben alone with either to babysit and just introduced them as friends to begin with. FOB is a huge part in Bens life so they never took on a 'daddy' type role. FOB had however threatened to use it against me if we ever go to court, as I must be a bad mum if I introduced him so fast. I tried explaining I dated men in the year I was single but of I didn't think it was going anywhere they never saw Ben.

I really want FOB to find a girlfriend. Like me I'd expect him to wait a few months, and give me the option of meeting her (which I'd want to do) but it might get him off my case a bit lol! Also I'd expect him not to allow her to take on a 'mummy' role more like an auntie iykwim.

 

[Ceejay123]

I'm coming at this from the other side, as we've been split up for over 2 years now and I had a partner for 8 months, then was single for a year and have a current partner I've been with for 5 months. I introduced Ben to them after about 2-3 months. I trusted them by this point and felt it was going to be 'long term' rather than just a few months iykwim. I told FOB both times and he flipped out. I offered for him to meet them and he refused (actually he once said they'd have to knock in his door and ask his permission to be around his son!!).

I understand his opinion and he doesn't like it, however I never left Ben alone with either to babysit and just introduced them as friends to begin with. FOB is a huge part in Bens life so they never took on a 'daddy' type role. FOB had however threatened to use it against me if we ever go to court, as I must be a bad mum if I introduced him so fast. I tried explaining I dated men in the year I was single but of I didn't think it was going anywhere they never saw Ben.

I really want FOB to find a girlfriend. Like me I'd expect him to wait a few months, and give me the option of meeting her (which I'd want to do) but it might get him off my case a bit lol! Also I'd expect him not to allow her to take on a 'mummy' role more like an auntie iykwim.

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me Hun I also come at it from another side, as my other Half has a son with someone else. I'd expect to meet anyone first, and in fact my other half (nervously) approached me to ask if I'd be willing to meet his ex. Of course I said yes. I think he was more nervous about it than me bless him.

 

[MissRhead]

It was my worst nightmare when we first split up. However it's been 3 years now and as he lives far away I have no issues in my LO going out with fob and his OH when their over here. She however hates me and doesn't allow him near me, but that's their problems I guess lol x

 

[Dream.dream]

I've actually seen more then one judge in court give a mom or dad trouble for introducing SO to soon. I don't know if its because most judges are older and from a different generation but it is a cause for concern with them .