When parents/inlaws hate the name...

[alibaba24]

I would completly ignore the inlaws! The minute hes born they really arent going to care what name you have picked anyway i promise! When i was Naming my daughter my sisters and mum were like mmmmm not keen and oh ill shorten it to rosie. But now shes here they call her Rosalie and havnt made a negative comment since! As for Nicholas ok its not that common here but its definatly not a bully at school name i can pretty much promise there will be another nicholas in his school somewhere!

xx

 

[Abbiekye]

I will say go with the name that makes both yourself and husband happy, ignore in laws. with time they'll come to accept it. It's what makes you happy. I have a surname which is quite common in the area I originate from but the spelling is unique and I get asked all the time whether my name has been spelt wrongly or whether that spelling ever exist! My answer has always been that's my name, and you just have to accept the spelling! I don't have to follow the crowd.

 

[Lucy Lu]

thats a lovely original name. we didn't tell anyone when we'd decided on our names. in passing i'd mentioned the boy's name we eventually decided to go with to my mil early on in the pregnancy and she didn't like it at all... we love it tho so when we def decided to go with it, we kept it a secret as i knew i'd be influenced into not using it if people grimaced! it's quite an old fashioned name that hasn't quite come back in which is why we love it - bit like marmite tho, people love it or hate it when u tell them!

is hard with the pressure but you've got to go with what works for you as the parents. and if you both really like elijah, its definitely worth going with! in laws will have to get used to it - my mil has and now i don't think she could imagine our LO with any other name.

 

[karenmack]

Hi, I think you should call your son whatever you and your hubby love, its your little boy and it frustrates me when everyone has an opinion on names! Can I just add I love the name Elijah think its a gorgeous name xx

 

[faun]

I love the name Elijah but if having a family name is important why not use Nicholas or John as a middle name or even both Elijah Nicholas John has a really nice sound to it. Go with what you and oh want family will come round eventually.

 

[littlelady26]

i would say its totally up to you and your husband, never mind the in laws x

Personally i quite like nicholas (my brother, uncle and papa are called called nicholas) and my sis in law is Nicola so iv chosen the name Cole if my baby is a boy so its kinda short for their names x but as i said never mind the in laws it your wee bundle of fun and you should decide whichever name you like xx

 

[lottie7]

1. Your Mum sounds great.
2. Don't ask the in laws anymore for their opinion!
3. I love all the names you've suggested.
4. You could come up with something totally new and then just keep it between you and your husband and don't tell ANYONE - that way you wont have to listen to your in-laws!

Good luck!
xx

 

[Rei]

Hun....the name of your child is YOUR decision, not your inlaws or your parents. If you and your husband like the name Elijah, then your son should be named Elijah. Are they carrying this child? No! Are they giving birth to this child? No!

 

[SgtMamma]

After reading this thread I resistered for BnB to share my little story that is not unlike many of yours. With my sons the names we chose were loathed among both sides of the family, they went so far as to make fun of our choices. Thus, with much satisfaction we went ahead with the first and are going ahead with the second. Unless the parents ask for an opinion who can say their choice is a bad one. Naming is something for Mom and Dad to decide together and is given as a gift to the new little one. Remember, as another thread author so wisely put it "...hard to hate a name when it is attached to a cute baby." By the way, I get compliments on our choices all the time and my Mom actually apologized after my son was born saying, she could not imagine him being named anything else.

On the other hand, any opinion from your husband should be taken into consideration. My husband is Irish and I am American, he was set on Cillian and I on Patton (can you see the cultural differences), we chose an entirely different name as we could only see locking horns until the birth. As such, we picked a new name and we have been calling our little bumper exactly that--to the dismay of both family's, again.

If it makes sense, go back to the drawing board.

 

[myasmumma]

I would ignore the inlaws opinion. It's your baby and your choice what you want to call him. We aren't telling anyone in our family the name until she's born, so that way they don't have a say

100% agreed

 

[kissikiss]

Thanks again everyone!!

Thanks SgtMamma for registering just to post your story! It sounds very much like mine - so hard to please both sides of the Atlantic eh?? lol! People can be so funny!

Of course, the only opinion that I TRULY care about is my husband. I had always envisioned calling my son (if I ever had one) Nicholas but being he's not overly keen, and we like Elijah, then why not?! It has really reassured me that some of the UK ladies here had said that they like Elijah (or at the least, don't find it too different).

shhhhh don't tell my MIL but someday we'll probably move back to the States anyways

I really do love her and she's been there for me it's just that comment about Elijah really hurt our feelings - other than that, she's been great (didn't want to sound ungrateful)

And lottie7 - yeah - my mom is a star!! (my dad isn't too bad either lol)

 

[trashit]

its not up to anyone else what you call your baby hun, if you like it then go with it. Your parents shouldnt have any say xx