when the "30 yo ttc#1" ladies get their bfp's

[MgreenM]

So, today was the day of talking to the extended family...Oh, my! These conversations!

First, my MIL insists on asking me if I feel the baby moving EVERY SINGLE TIME we speak! It's one thing to ask about when the next OB appointment is...but, DUH! Maybe it's just me...but what I feel (physically and emotionally) is private and if I want someone to know it, I will share it with them. I just always feel so awkward when she asks. My mom assures me it's a normal question for people to ask, but my MIL is the only person who has asked me and then continued to ask me. I barely talk about this stuff with my mom!

Then, we talked to my husband's grandmother (who also happens to have a brain injury) and she says, "So, are you getting big and fat?" I try to laugh it off and know that it's all said with good intentions...but again...how do you respond to that?

And just so you know it's not just DH's family, my aunt called tonight. She told me she bought me something "to do for the baby" while she was at this Mission/Catholic church/native american reservation this weekend (no clue, that is how she described it). Anyways, she has to find a box for it because it is fragile, it's up to me whether DH is included in it or not, and I have to read the card and then call her before I do anything with it...It's not something Catholic, apparently it is something Native American. I am a bit skeptical and really not sure what to expect from this...

Other than that, I went to a friend's baby shower last night and her parents were there. It was really sweet, she is also having a girl and they insisted on taking pictures with me and the cookie cake that said "It's a girl". They are going to send me the pictures. I had a really nice time even though DH stayed home because he wasn't feeling well. It was the most un-baby shower baby shower ever! No babyshower games, just board games, food and presents. It was really nice, relaxing and enjoyable. I will have a baby shower at work this week, other than that no showers. I finished putting away all the clothes that friends passed on to us . I also put the mattress cover on the mattress and the mattress in the crib. Now we just need sheets for the crib.

How was everyone's weekend?

 

[PDReggie]

Sorry you are having family drama. I live pretty far away from my family so I can just get off the phone when they start to drive me nuts. We had a good weekend. Signed papers to buy a new car. I go pick it up and finish the paperwork tonight. It is the same car I have already exactly but I drive approx 100 miles a day so my car already has 53,000 miles on it in 2 years. So my DH said rather than start doing all the maintenance on it, he would rather pay the negative equity on the current one and basically hit redo. I'm excited. How is everyone else feeling/doing?

 

[MgreenM]

Sorry you are having family drama. I live pretty far away from my family so I can just get off the phone when they start to drive me nuts. We had a good weekend. Signed papers to buy a new car. I go pick it up and finish the paperwork tonight. It is the same car I have already exactly but I drive approx 100 miles a day so my car already has 53,000 miles on it in 2 years. So my DH said rather than start doing all the maintenance on it, he would rather pay the negative equity on the current one and basically hit redo. I'm excited. How is everyone else feeling/doing?

All of the conversations WERE over the phone! That's the sad part! New car is exciting! That's a lot of driving though! We just got home from our breastfeeding class...I am tired, it was a full day but did get some good info!

 

[trumpetbeth]

I plan to take the 3-hr one Thursday next week. If I fail the 3-hr test, then they will diagnose me with gestational diabetes. Which of course sucks in itself, but it also would mean a lot more restrictions for the rest of my pregnancy. I'm hoping it doesn't come to that. I've been reading a lot on google and it seems lots of women fail the 1-hr test and go on to pass the 3-hr test. I'm hoping that's the same for me.

Soontobe... I failed my 1 hr glucose test with a 143 but passed the 3 hour. 142 is really close!

 

[PDReggie]

All of the conversations WERE over the phone! That's the sad part! New car is exciting! That's a lot of driving though! We just got home from our breastfeeding class...I am tired, it was a full day but did get some good info!

Ouch. My sister (giant hippie) told me yesterday that I'm not allowed to be frustrated or annoyed because it will send those vibes and energy to the baby. My response that I started my day off yesterday by spending an hour trying to explain to a paranoid schizophrenic what her case was about at the jail makes not getting frustrated impossible. What it really taught me is that my sister and I live VERY different lives.

Love the new car.

Glad to hear that you got some good info from the breastfeeding class. Our hospital does in room lactation consultants or some such thing. I may still sign up for a class but I'm waiting until the end of this month.

 

[PDReggie]

SO, I have a strange question. Over the weekend I had a bit of a panic attack. Not bad just kind of got a thought in my head and started getting really freaked out. I was thinking about the baby and I realized, maybe for the first time, that really this is going to change my life completely. I mean I will be responsible for this little person for the rest of their lives (hopefully not financially) but I mean this is huge. Not saying I regret it or don't want it, just had this slightly overwhelmed feeling. Now I'm worried that I'm going to be a bad mother because I'm just like holy crap all of a sudden. Am I the only person who has had this freak out?

 

[MrsKChicago]

I've had little freakouts like that. I'm sure they'll only get stronger as the pregnancy feels more real. It's a momentous thing, I think it's natural for it to occasionally scare the crap out of you.

 

[MgreenM]

I think those kind of freakouts/panic attacks are perfectly normal. Some worrying is normal and helps us to be better people. You might find it helpful to pinpoint if there is a particular aspect of parenting you are concerned about and then maybe read up on it, take a class, or talk to other people who have children about it. That way, you are informed and prepared.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

I agree that sometimes it gets very overwhelming. For me, it's especially every time I hit a milestone like when I got to 24 & 28 weeks, or like when I saw her at the 26 wk ultrasound, it was a huge mix of emotions and realization that it is happening whether I'm ready or not... So perfectly normal!!

There's a lot to prepare for and it can hit all at once. I recently started checking out day care centers and some of them are booked until May 2015. That's what's stressing me out now. But it's helpful to remind myself that lots of women have done it before me (e.g. my mom & sis) and I can always ask them for advice. Plus the support of your DH is a huge help and blessing too. At least you're not going through all the new stuff alone.

 

[MgreenM]

I had a mini-freakout at work today...At the end of the day, my boss came and told me that one of my co-workers just got diagnosed with Shingles and while she was told she wasn't contagious, I should still call my doctor. I had chicken pox when I was little. Now, the rational part of my brain knows: I didn't touch her and there were no open sores, so I should be fine. The pregnant irrational part of my brain won and I was all freaked out...so I called my OB office and left a message. They said not to worry and that I am fine. The doctor that called me back was really sweet and nurturing. I don't normally get worked up like that...but I haven't been sick this whole time...I would like to keep it that way! I feel better now after talking to the doctor, but still...a little scary.

 

[lsd2721]

Wow, MgreenM that would scare the crap out oh me!! I'm glad everything is ok though!

I had my doctor visit and had an early sonogram so I got to hear and see my little buba!! Makes me feel so good!!

 

[ladders]

Ah that's brilliant news isd such a relief when you get to see them.
I had a little play with the ultrasound machine at work last night and saw pickle wiggling away and heartbeat it was so so amazing and he's such a wiggle bum!

 

[lsd2721]

How's your bump coming along ladders?

 

[PDReggie]

Wow M that sucks. Glad everything seems to be ok. I know how terrifying it is to wonder if something outside your control could make you sick or hurt the baby.

lsd glad that you got to see the little one. and hear the heart beat. It's always reassuring. Bet it makes you feel much better.

ladders Glad you had a chance to see the little one. Just wait until you can feel him move all the time. My little girl was quite the bouncy little thing too and she still is. It's getting slightly more uncomfortable for her to move as much though.

 

[ladders]

Isd bump is coming along very nicely and quite big for a first or maybe that's just me thinking it is because usually my stomach is the only skinny bit of me. Had to buy some maternity trousers and jeans and man are they comfy! also very excited that I have gone from a b cup to a c cup, first time iv had Boobs! No bras fit anymore but it's a price I'm happy to pay lol.

Pd oh man I just can't wait to feel baby move I'm so excited for that!!

 

[PDReggie]

ladders, I laughed outright at the boobs thing. Mine haven't gone up much but they seem to be getting bigger now. Not sure if that is odd or not. It could just be that I'm fat. And yes, I know it's baby but I have gained more weight than I should have so partly it's fat. But, I'm not overly worried about it.

So when is everyone's next scan? My next ultrasound is Friday, then Saturday. We scheduled the next medical ultrasound for Friday to see where the placenta is at and I had already scheduled a private 3d ultrasound for Saturday because my mom will be in town for my baby shower. I live across the country from my parents so my mom is super excited to be a part of the scan.

My co-worker had her baby via c-section this morning. It was planned as she has a long history of surgeries. She sent the text with pictures. He is so cute but just makes me all the more ready for the little girl to get here. Today is 60 days until due date.

 

[MrsKChicago]

My nuchal tube scan is a week from tomorrow. So excited to see the little duckling again

 

[MgreenM]

I have a growth scan tomorrow.

 

[PDReggie]

So many scans coming up. This is all very fun. I love the scans. I think it's hard to wait for the in between. Especially in the beginning. Then even after you are past the terrified stage then it's still hard to wait until you feel them kicking and moving. At least for me it was. But even now I still love the scans and getting to see her. It's just a little bit comforting to me. I can't imagine what it was like before scans and modern medicine. Just ok, hang out for 9 (10) months and we will see what happens.

 

[ladders]

I have my gender scan booked for Monday, am super excited and a tiny bit scared and have no idea why lol