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Oh! Also, meant to tell you guys that I had a very weird dream last night. In it we found out that this baby was a boy and I was completely crushed. Like heartbroken. It was so strange because I honestly have zero preference. And even in my dream DH said, "I thought you didn't care?" My response was "I guess I did!" Weird.
 
Pregnancy dreams are so weird and random. I had one last night that I drank a glass of tap water and it tasted bad. That's it. What the hell kind of dream is that?
 
I have about 20 dreams a night lately! Oh, and full blown nausea all day long is here. I ordered some ginger chews. They should be here today. Getting excited for my scan this week to see how many are in there! Plus, walking dead starts tomorrow. It's gonna be a good week!
Hope you're feeling better Pd!
 
Your scan is this week? Already? When? I can't wait! I have my 20 week scan Tuesday, but I already know how many are in there. Not as exciting ;)
 
exciting jcm!

A little venting here...so, my college roommate is in town and i get a text tonight from our other roommate asking if we are up for visitors tomorrow, While i appreciate them asking, it seems like i am always an afterthought when this roommate comes to town. Either I dont hear about it until after she has left or she is so busy she doesnt have time for me. When my brother was living in NY, I always made a point of seeing her when I would visit. It's just annoying and we aren't as close as we used to be (which i can accept, i just dont want to be treayed like this).

sorry about the bad typing, i am typing one handed, holding josephone with the other.
 
JCM, when is your scan?! I'm excited to know how many are in there! AHH!! :) I can't wait to hear TWINS! haha

Dreams, man, they are just crazy! :) I've had so many crazy ones and they just seem real. Most recent one I dreamed that I was bleeding watery blood and needed to go to hospital. I've been so scared about bleeding (every time I wipe I check! haha) so this is probably coming from that! haha

Mgreen, I'm sorry that you feel that way! It is upsetting when friends that were so close grow apart! Maybe this time your friend didn't want to intrude on you during this wonderful time in your life. My best friend had a baby this summer but instead of going once Morgan was born I waited about a week when everything calmed down to see her!

So, I have had a bit of an upsetting week. I got an email from a very pissed of SIL. My in laws are of course are on the opposite side of the world in Australia while we're here in the states. Anyways, she pretty much said she was not happy with the way my husband and I were handling things. She was very rude in the email stating that pretty much it is our responsibility to keep them updated on everything going on. She was finding out all information from her parents instead of us (her parents call and skype us once a week which is why the know a lot of things) and that upset her (which I understand, but no need to be rude and send a nasty email). I had originally asked her what her plans were in March (when baby was due) before that email and she pretty much stated that why should she want to come if we weren't making her feel involved. She wasn't sure if she was coming or not because she was mad at us. She said at the end, if you think I am being unreasonable, so be it. We needed to remember that this isn't just an exciting time for us, but we need to factor in that everyone overseas wants to be involved too. This whole thing pisses me off. I wrote back saying I am sorry she felt that way, we weren't trying to make her feel uninvolved, that we were definitely thinking about everyone overseas, but not much was happening right now. That we would love for her to come but understand if she can't make it due to money and getting time off work, etc. I wasn't rude in the email, like she was. I just stated things as matter of factly. That was 3 days ago and she hasn't responded. So my question to y'all is, should I write one more email or just be done with it, pretend nothing happened, and just keep updating her like we do everyone else or write her back again one last time? (because we hadn't said anything differently to her than my own family and the reason some family members know a bit more is because they call/email to FIND out what is going on, this is a two way street, which I mentioned in the first email.)

It's really hard to show you how rude she really was in this email and she kept stating that it was our responsibility to keep her updated. How it was our responsibility to make her feel involved. How everything was our fault. When she hasn't called/skyped/facbooked or just in general try to contact me like everyone else is doing. We emailed her when we had the sonogram. Let her know then everything was good. The past two apointments weren't very exciting so didn't really update people.

Sorry. Just venting a bit. This whole situation just really pisses me off. She's great at finding ways to make everything about her!
 
She sounds like a gem... I wouldn't email again, just keep her in the loop like you do everyone else. I figure that if people really want to know how things are going in any sort of detail, they'll ask.
 
Mrs K, she is a gem. I haven't gotten to personally deal with her yet, until now. ;-) I have your same mentality, if people want to know, they'll ask! Logically I know it's best to deal with it just as you said. Which is what I've told my mother and sister how I plan to deal with it, but part of me wants to just email back and ask her what the HELL her problem is. What was she THINKING pissing off a pregnant lady! haha. But yes, you're right. That is probably the best way to deal with it.
 
My scan is Thursday!!! I will update from the stirrups! Hahaha

Oh M that's no fun. Feeling like an afterthought sucks. Maybe lsd is right. Maybe she didn't want to overstep. Did she end up coming over?

Oh boy gem is right! What a complete jerk! You're supposed to make sure she's involved? Excuse me...you're growing a human! I'm with MrsK don't email her again. She's throwing a tantrum with the pregnant woman? Is she nuts? Well, yes she is nuts obviously. After I told extended family I figured if they wanted to know more they would ask. They don't need me blowing up their phones with how much discharge I have or that I feel nauseated all day...that's you guys. Lol but some family members will check in, ask when I get an ultrasound. Stuff like that. The other ones don't want to know as much I guess. Or, sometimes I think about it like this: I tried to have a baby for two years. Then eventually had to have iuis and ivf. Maybe someone I know is going through the same thing and I don't know about it, so they don't need my constant reminder of what I do or don't like to eat this week. My inlaws don't even know yet. We haven't talked to them in a year. They chose to have a relationship with the ex wife over us. Pretty crappy. But, I'm sure I will be in your boat soon, lsd. When that time comes, I'll tell them exactly where they can stick it!
 
lsd- I am so sorry. It's hard with in-laws especially when they live far away! I agree though, I would just update her like you do everyone else. If she says something again, then I would tell her, "If you want more updates, you can ask. But I don't want to inundate you with information." Honestly, I barely updated my own mother. I would tell her when I went to appointments and that everything was fine (which it was). My mom didn't ask, she knows I am a private person and that I will share what I want to.

As for my friend - it just would have been nice if she had said something along the lines of "I am going to be in town on these dates. I would like to come visit, I will check in with you once I get into town to see if you are up for visitors." If this were the first time this happened, I agree, it would have been that she was trying to respect my space. But this has been going on for a few years now.

So I have to laugh, Josie is screaming/crying while DH is changing her diaper and he holds up the clean diaper and says "Josie, look what I got!" So cute! Of course, I had a first time mom freakout tonight! We went out to dinner for our 1 yr anniversary at a hibachi place. Well, Josie had an episode of projectile vomiting right when they brought out the soup/salad. It was BRIGHT yellow and a large volume! I totally freaked out. Now, I can handle almost any bodily substance - blood, poop, urine...but vomit...yeah, so not my thing! Never has been! Plus I have been overtired today. So I called the pediatrician who reassured me I didn't have to rush her to the ER (yeah, it was that kind of a freak out) and suggested I try to do smaller feedings. The problem is, that is hard to control with breastfeeding! My mom suggested trying to space out feedings a bit more and just monitor. She just ate again, so we will see what happens. Hopefully this was a one time thing!
 
lsd, I'm surprised your SIL vented to you and not to your hubby. Are you guys close? I think you should just keep updating her as things come up, but if you guys were close, maybe you should be honest and tell her if she reached out more, then you'd tell her more...basically that its a two way street like you said.
She does sound pretty unreasonable though. Who yells at a pregnant woman?
 
M, a very similar thing happened to my friend when her son was pretty little. It freaked her out enough too to call their doctor but everything was fine. He's almost 1 now!
 
She threw up again this morning. So I called again to get more information. They are thinking it is reflux or mucus in the back of her throat...I hate vomit. My anxiety has been increasing over the past week...at least I see my therapist on Thursday.
 
Poor Josie. I'm sure she's fine, but I'm also sure I'd freak out in your shoes. I hope you get used to vomit soon, since I'm sure we're all in for plenty of it over the next decade or so...
 
Hey just a quick note. Still here and waiting. Sorry to hear about the problems everyone is having with old friends and in-laws. It is always more stressful to be dealing with such stuff while also trying to be pregnant or having a new born. I would love to offer advice but I tend to be pretty bitchy so my response tends to be more along the go f yourself variety.

My parents are in town and we are all now just waiting on baby girl's arrival. I have had some strange feelings in the belly lately but nothing interesting. More like butterflies than anything. Have a dr. appointment tomorrow so we will see what she says.

Hope everyone is feeling well. Sorry dead tired. Will write more when I am more awake
 
PD I thought your silence meant something was up :)...good luck on these last days.
 
I thought we were getting along well and good friends. I think she only said something to me because I was the one asking her what her plans were. But, she ended up txting my husband to find out if certain dates were ok to come and see the birth of the baby. So she has now booked her tickets. Hopefully this is the end of it. I'm just going to do what was said, to just keep her updated and leave it at that. Im sure everything will be fine!

Mgreen, I'm sorry you're going through the vomit scene! LOL I'd be the same as you. I can't handle vomit. I'll probably have a good tolerance after my first child! I hope everything gets better soon!

PD, thinking about you and wishing you happy and easy labor! :)
 
I have gotten much better, but it makes me so anxious, at least in regards to the baby!

LSD - sounds like your SIL has come around. Glad it is all working out.
 
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