when the "30 yo ttc#1" ladies get their bfp's

[curiousowl]

That's great news, Owl! I hope all goes well for her! I'd love to have a local close friend with a close in age baby.

I wish she was more local! (she's about 4+ hours away) But we still see each other fairly frequently and text/email constantly so it will be fun. I was tearing up looking at a picture of her tests, lol. Pregnancy is silly.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Well, she'll just have to move closer, then, won't she? Still very exciting! One of DH's coworkers has a wee baby boy (I think he's maybe a couple months now), but I'm not too close to her. My SIL and I are pretty close, but there will be a year and a half between my nephew and our little dude. Close enough for them to be close when they're older, I hope, but I'm not sure how much they'll have in common when they're six and eight, you know?

 

[MgreenM]

What a Christmas gift, JCM

This trimester is kind of kicking my butt, but I think I'm adapting. DH got me a Snoogle pregnancy pillow for Christmas, and it's helping a lot with the terrible sleep and back and hip pain. My midwife put me on some pro-biotics that I stopped today after they laid me up with some pretty unpleasant side effects, so between that and Christmas prep, I'm feeling better than I have in a week or so. I see her in a week, so if she wants me back on the pro-biotics and promises the symptoms won't last, I'll go back on them, but for now, I'm done! January's looking to be a very busy month between childbirth classes, appointments almost every week, my shower, and getting the nursery ready, so hopefully I get a little energy back.

Sorry to hear you are having such a rough time! A body pillow helped me a lot. Also, I did prenatal massages and I would highly recommend them! The last couple of months got VERY busy for us as well for the exact same reasons. It's exhausting, but the end result is totally worth it!

Things have been a little crazy here. I have been working on getting ready to go back to work on Thursday. DH's grandfather died so he has been in AZ since Wednesday and Josie and I have been on our own. The good news is that there were no unscheduled doctors visits over the last couple of weeks! And she qualifies for a medication to prevent RSV (it's not a vaccine) so that will be starting soon. Hopefully we can keep her healthy. She is doing great developmentally and I love to see her smiles!

How is everyone else? Did you have a good holiday? Are you doing anythign for New Years?

 

[PDReggie]

Well I hope everyone had a nice holiday. How is everyone feeling? Any fun news to report?

ladders - you are getting close!!! I can't wait!

M - how did going back to work go?

I started back to work today. Abigail seemed to love the daycare. She seemed quite intrigued by all the noise and the other babies. I cried hysterically. Then I went and drowned my sorrows in Starbucks. But I was very ready to be back at work. I realized how lucky I am to truly enjoy my work. I couldn't imagine leaving her if I didn't love it here. Now having said that, I started work, my diet and my period all this morning so it was a pretty rough start to the week/year. I remind myself that it has to get better from here. Hope all of you had a better start to the year!

 

[MrsKChicago]

Oh man, that sounds like a rough day! I hope it improves, and I'm glad Abigail had fun!

I'm starting to get nervous about not having anything ready. My shower is the 18th, so hopefully we'll be in better shape then. Just need a little bit of painting in the baby's room, and we need to buy a crib, and everything else is easy. Once his dresser is moved from our bedroom to his bedroom, it'll clear space for his bassinet, and we're getting my nephew's changing table at some point in the next month or so because he's outgrown it. I can't believe I have less than two months to go!

 

[PDReggie]

MrsK - I started losing my mind that I was never going to be ready about 2 months prior to Abigail being born. But you get there. The last month really flew by as far as getting things done.

 

[curiousowl]

Glad going back went okay PD. It sounds rough but I'm sure she'll do great.

And good luck MrsK. With it being the new year I feel like I have to address all the stuff I put off until "after the holidays". Damn.

Also you guys, question. I have an anterior placenta so up until now I haven't felt any movement. Did anyone's early movement feel like a muscle contraction/twinge? I've been noticing them the last few days but I'm half convinced it's all in my head.

 

[MgreenM]

PD - glad daycare went well for Abigail! The first day back, I cried, but otherwise it has gone well. Daycare closed early today due to staffing/bad roads. So I had to leave work early (DH couldn't leave today). I got extra time with Josie and a nap in! Hailey didn't eat this morning and woke us up at 4am. I think she is having the hardest time with this transition!

 

[PDReggie]

curious - mine didn't feel like that. Mostly mine felt like a rollercoaster feeling. Like my stomach was "swooping." But I think we have all learned that every single pregnancy is different. Hope this is the start of movement for you. While it was a little weird, I did enjoy being able to feel the baby. Plus, it was a fun thing to share with DH.

M - glad that everything is going well for you. Yesterday and today at daycare were better. Of course this morning it was good mostly because I was running late for court so I didn't have time to dwell on anything. Glad you got some extra time with Josie. Even if it is not the best reason.

Stay safe and warm everyone.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Those twinges could be little kicks, but it's hard to say. I think it's a little different for everyone, and my experience is a little odd because of the placenta in the way.

T is head down as of yesterday, which is good news! It's too early to worry if he's breech, but still reassuring. I think he's kind of diagonal head down, though, not properly head down. Our femur followup ultrasound is a week from yesterday, then a week after that is the midwives to talk it over. I love my midwives, but I wish I could get the ultrasounds at their office. I have the wrong insurance and I'm usually there on the wrong day, too

 

[PDReggie]

MrsK - hoping everything goes well with the ultrasound. Keep us posted. I'm sure everything will be great. Sucks that you have to wait though. I will keep you in my thoughts. Well, I will try to keep you in my thoughts but this week I can't remember what I had for lunch while I'm eating it. Lucky for my clients I write everything down!

 

[MrsKChicago]

Haha! Yeah, my memory is shot. I have to make an appointment with the physician who consults with our midwives, just so she knows me. The midwife reminded me yesterday, then at the end of the appointment, maybe twenty minutes later tops, asked us if we remembered what our homework was. Nope! I did write it down, and actually did it, at least.

I'm feeling pretty positive about the femur thing now. Odds are in our favor, so I'm not letting myself dwell now that I'm past that initial panic. The midwives are good about calling when they get my results rather than making me wait, at least.

 

[JCM]

I missed the femur thing...I will have to go back and read! There's my brain for you! I can't believe how close you are MrsK! Wow!

Curious, I feel little bubbles. At first I thought it was gas but it kind of feels like popcorn popping. And it I push down on my belly, it happens more. Like we are in a fight! Or maybe it's gas...haha!

Anatomy scan was good. All parts are there! Still a girl! I know I had a blood test but I was a little nervous I'd be that 1% and a penis would show itself! Lol I already bought purple bedding! And here she is! I can't believe it's not a tiny little heartbeat anymore! Yay!!!

https://i1380.photobucket.com/albums/ah173/jenldomer/imagejpg1_zpse40ba71d.jpg

 

[MrsKChicago]

Aww, how cute! I'm still convinced my little man is going to end up a girl, especially since I think I'm the only boy in this group!

There's not a lot to the femur thing. At my 28 week scan, his femurs were measuring short, which is a soft marker for Down Syndrome and some skeletal issues, so they wanted to keep an eye on it just in case. Since I had great results on my NT testing and first trimester screening and there are no other soft markers, statistics point overwhelmingly towards a measurement error or him just being a short baby. DH and I are both on the short side, so it sounds like he just takes after his papa. But of course I'd like to have some confirmation of that! There's also an increased risk of IUGR, not sure how likely that is and how we'd address it, but the midwife didn't seem worried, so I guess we'll cross that bridge if we come to it. And that's a complication I can handle, even though it's not ideal, you know? My fundal height is actually a week ahead, so I'm thinking plain old fashioned short is more likely than IUGR.

 

[JCM]

Oh I see! I agree. I had the blood test at 10 weeks that tested for downs and a bunch of other chromosomal abnormalities. Maybe they could give you that for peace of kind? It sounds like you are all set though! Short baby, possibly a girl coming right up! Haha would you just die if you popped out a girl!? I don't know anyone having a boy right now. You're the only one! Did you decide on a name yet?

 

[MrsKChicago]

Yeah, it would be just my luck to get everything ready for a boy, get stuff monogrammed and personalized, and bam! Surprise girl! It doesn't help that our regular tech doesn't seem to like gender checks because there's a small chance they can be wrong. I'm glad we had the private scan when she did, the most she would give us at the 20 week scan was "yeah, it looks like it's probably still a boy." He did have his legs crossed, though...

I'll update once I hear the midwife's opinion of the next scan. DH has short legs even for his short height, so I think the short genes theory is the most sensible one.

We decided on a name ages ago. DH really wanted Vincent, after his grandfather, but I didn't. I don't love the name, and he barely knew his grandfather, and if we're going to honor a relative, there are relatives that make a lot more sense. But we'd talked about other names we liked, and I was kind of pushing for Theodore, and one day I randomly threw out Constantine as a middle name, and he came home a day or two later and was so excited about Theodore Constantine that I just ran with it. I offered him Vincent as a middle name and he didn't want to do that, it was Theodore Constantine or nothing. I don't know if it's the name I'd go with if I was naming him all on my own, but I like it a lot, and it's not Vincent, so I'm happy! I really thought he was going to be a girl, so having a name ready when we got the scan a couple days later really helped with that mental adjustment.

What about you? Any name ideas?

 

[JCM]

Oh I love Theodore!!!! That is so cute! We decided on Charli and I think (pretty sure) the middle name will be Michalann. My husbands name is Michael and my grandma (who I really miss and wish was still alive) is Ann. I thought about extending the first name so Charli would be the shortened nickname but I liked Charli best. DH and I actually picked Charli 2 years ago when we started trying. I was set on Henry though because I was sure I was having a boy and then...GIRL! My parents love her name and so do we but I feel like I should start calling her that now. Instead of saying "baby". It's so weird to get used to! I don't even know her or what she really looks like!

 

[MrsKChicago]

Charli is cute! We've been calling him Teddy (and occasionally Theo - we like all the nicknames) since we decided, but I haven't told everybody yet because I don't want to hear (mom's) opinions, you know? I'm still a little torn on formally revealing it before he's born.

 

[JCM]

I am the exact same way!!!

 

[MrsKChicago]

I'm just not convinced that I won't hear some complaint from her, you know? I know she'll keep quiet once he's here and officially named. I've told a handful of people, though, and DH has told his coworkers, so I may be in bigger trouble if it leaks at the shower that she's the only one who doesn't know...