when to call it quits

[babyanise]

im thinking of giving up trying for a baby as its been 18 months and nothing.im 43 and my doc says im still young and firtile and my oh is 33 and he has been checked and told he has super sperm so why no baby?at what age is to old?i feel so guilty that i cant give my oh his 1st child,but when do you say enough is enough?

 

[sukisam]

Sorry to hear you're having an awful time, when to stop is a difficult one and I guess only you and OH can answer.
there are plenty of ladies that have babies at 43 and if there's nothing wrong hopefully it will happen. I do understand 18 months of ttc is enough to make the sanest of people go mad! I'm 10 months ttc and feel slightly unhinged!!
Personally I've said to my hubby i want to try for another 6 months because I'm finding it hard to cope with not getting pregnant and i want to enjoy the children I'm lucky enough to have. But who knows how I'll feel in when the 6 months is up.
Don't feel guilty honey.
Sending you lots of
Maybe today is just a bad day + you feel more positive tommorrow.xx

 

[FBbaby]

OH and I have been ttc for 20 cycles (one m/c first month ttc) and we have decided to go for one round of ivf next March, if that doesn't work, we will put closure to ttc. We will then have tried everything and it will be time to move on. I won't go back on the pill, so in theory, it could still happen afterwards, but we won't live our lives (or more like I won't live my life!) around it any longer.

 

[babyanise]

thank you for your kind words.its just so hard to know what to do for the best as i dont want to let my oh down, although he says if it happens,he would be over the moon but if not then he will still be happy.im ntnp at the min which i find so much more relaxed but i still worry about o and bding the right time ect.you never know,i may have done it this cycle and im worrying for nothing lol

 

[babyanise]

OH and I have been ttc for 20 cycles (one m/c first month ttc) and we have decided to go for one round of ivf next March, if that doesn't work, we will put closure to ttc. We will then have tried everything and it will be time to move on. I won't go back on the pill, so in theory, it could still happen afterwards, but we won't live our lives (or more like I won't live my life!) around it any longer.

sorry for your loss hun.hope everything works out for you

 

[babyanise]

Sorry to hear you're having an awful time, when to stop is a difficult one and I guess only you and OH can answer.
there are plenty of ladies that have babies at 43 and if there's nothing wrong hopefully it will happen. I do understand 18 months of ttc is enough to make the sanest of people go mad! I'm 10 months ttc and feel slightly unhinged!!
Personally I've said to my hubby i want to try for another 6 months because I'm finding it hard to cope with not getting pregnant and i want to enjoy the children I'm lucky enough to have. But who knows how I'll feel in when the 6 months is up.
Don't feel guilty honey.
Sending you lots of
Maybe today is just a bad day + you feel more positive tommorrow.xx

sorry about your Chemical and for the loss of your baby Emilyfx you get your bfp soon.

 

[KittyKatBabe]

Hi,

I am not technically over 35 I have a couple of weeks left until my birthday. But I have been thinking this also, I know its still young for some but I have had 2 losses and I have also basically put a cap on the next 6 months, we have been trying for 2 years (with breaks) I have said by end of Feb next year - then I want a break as we will be getting married the following year. Not sure how I will feel at trying after then as I would be around 37.

I have got the Clearblue FM this time and thought I would try that until Feb as some friends have had good success with this.

TTC can be very frustrating, but a lot say it happens when you least expect it to do x x

My reasons are numerous but I know I can't

 

[babyanise]

Hi,

I am not technically over 35 I have a couple of weeks left until my birthday. But I have been thinking this also, I know its still young for some but I have had 2 losses and I have also basically put a cap on the next 6 months, we have been trying for 2 years (with breaks) I have said by end of Feb next year - then I want a break as we will be getting married the following year. Not sure how I will feel at trying after then as I would be around 37.

I have got the Clearblue FM this time and thought I would try that until Feb as some friends have had good success with this.

TTC can be very frustrating, but a lot say it happens when you least expect it to do x x

My reasons are numerous but I know I can't

sorry for your losses.its just so hard to know what to dogl with your wedding,hope you have a beautiful day

 

[FutureMommie]

I'm sorry you are feeling so down enough is enough when you say so. Just like your Dr said, you are still young. You have to do whats best for you and your OH. Have you been to a fertility specialist yet?

 

[babyanise]

yes and all is well.

 

[seoj]

If only there was a magic 8 ball to predict when it would happen? lol... we've been TTC for almost a year (found out my hubbies 1st reversal didn't work- after 6 mos of trying - then we had to take 3 mos off- and after a 2nd reversal that worked, we are back at it). Just got my "visitor" and although it was disappointing, I know it can happen now... so it's just a matter of when???

No matter what the reason- when you are excited and TTC it can become very frustrating when it's not working. Maybe relax, enjoy each other, take a vacation... take some time to focus on the two of you... and who knows... ??? They say you can never try to hard to get pregnant... but sometimes it's not about the physical, it's about the mental state we are in and how that affects our entire body. Your still young, your healthy, your fertile... try to focus on what you have and eventually, what you want may just come along

Easier said than done right? lol. Sending you good ju ju and best of luck!!!!

 

[Minno]

HI Babyanise. I know how you feel. I'm about to hit 41 in a few weeks time and we've been tt no 2 for 21 months with not so much as a sniff of anything. On track for AF ina cople of days and am again so dejected and upset. Its so hard to keep going though this every month. I wonder if it will ever happen again. We've had all the tests and everything seems ok, plus I've already been preg once. Why is it taking so long????

 

[babyanise]

hi minno,
im the same,never had anyhing close to a linei guess my body is past its sell by date lol.i think if nothing happens by christmas i will call it a day.i wish you lots of luck and hope that you get your dream come true,bfp asap.

 

[serendippy]

Hi babyanise

Im also 43 and we are on our 14th cycle. We have had one BFP in that time which was the cycle before last but it was a chemical..up until then i was wondering if i cud even get pregnant..it was a relief to know we cud.

Have u had any investigations done? blood tests and to see if ur tubes are clear? I think all that is what helped me to be honest.

good luck hun xx

 

[babyanise]

Hi babyanise

Im also 43 and we are on our 14th cycle. We have had one BFP in that time which was the cycle before last but it was a chemical..up until then i was wondering if i cud even get pregnant..it was a relief to know we cud.

Have u had any investigations done? blood tests and to see if ur tubes are clear? I think all that is what helped me to be honest.

good luck hun xx

sorry about your chemyes had everything checkedfx for you

 

[jonnanne3]

Babyanise, I am sorry you are having such a difficult time. I am 37 (38 in Feb) with 3 children (21, 19, 17) and 1 grandbaby with another due in March. We have been trying since April 2007 following a tubal reversal. We have had 4 losses in 3.5 years and just recently we decided to stop "trying". We have had our hearts broken too many times and too many let downs after a failed round of IUI. We are financially and emotionally spent. With the tubal reversal and all the tests and medications, we have spent at least $15,000 already. We had discussed IVF, but if we spent the $10 to $15 thousand to do that, are we prepared for another let down? We decided that we would stop "trying" and go back to enjoying our lives together and get back to a normal fun sex life. Also enjoy our grandchildren.
It is a completely personal decision. I was just sharing my story. we have had all the tests done and everything is perfectly normal. I have a plethera of egg reserve and my tubes are clear, my hubby's swimmers are 100% fine. All the blood work is 100% normal as well. My FS and GYN told me that the older you get, the older your eggs get.
I wish you the best of luck in any direction you decide to go. Good luck and I am thinking of you!

 

[babyanise]

thankyou so much for sharing your story,im very sorry for your losses.ill wait untill xmas and then ill stop.

 

[jonnanne3]

I wish you all the luck in the world!

 

[jonnanne3]

WOW! I need to correct this..... I am 38 and will be 39 in Feb. WOW! Huge brain fart! I guess I don't want to get any older!

 

[babyanise]

WOW! I need to correct this..... I am 38 and will be 39 in Feb. WOW! Huge brain fart! I guess I don't want to get any older!