When to tell

[linzlu0_0]

As the post says ladies who do you intend to tell and when? With Daisy everybody knew by the time I was about 5wks, sadly we lost her at 32 wks. This time I don't want my two kids knowing until at least 12 weeks so will have to keep it from others til then too, might tell the in-laws as I am really close to them and they're the ones that will help if I'm feeling rough.
Just wanted everyone elses opnions

 

[Round2]

Yes, were not telling the kids until after my 12 week scan. We told my 3 year old after my 8 week scan last time , then we had a MMC. She still taps my belly and asks what happened to the baby in my belly. It's heart breaking.

 

[kafs78]

i told my daughter the doctors got it wrong and there was never a baby in mums belly. shes 6 and accepted that no bother.

this time round, i told her about 8 weeks and said " no remember last time the doctors got it wrong, well that might happen again" again it was accepted no bother...

im not 18weeks and everythings looking good

 

[Lucia]

Due to my previous losses, I am super hesitant to tell anyone. If all goes well, I'll wait until probably 16 weeks or so. My mum is the only one that knows right now.

 

[debgreasby]

We told straight away again .. i needed the support

 

[StillWaiting]

With my first everyone knew immediately after the HPT was positive.

After my recent little mishap with the chemical pregnancy, I intend on only telling close relatives in the beginning. Truth be told, I don't even want to tell my DH until my first scan, as that was a devestating moment that I didn't want to share. I knew I had to though. They (whoever they are) say it's best to wait till after you hit the second tri.

Remember one thing. Even though there is a threat of let down, the more that know, will be the more that can support through the good and the bad.

 

[LucyJ]

Last time we told our immediate family and a few close friends. This time we told my mum and dad as soon as we found out for support I have a very close relationship with my mum she wouldnt of worked it out anyway my hubby told his brother and wife as he needed someone to talk to.

We've decided to tell hubby's parents and my brothers next tuesday if our early scan goes well and we will probably tell two close friends of ours for the support.

 

[cgweegee]

When we found out we were expecting last September we told everyone right away and then miscarried at 9 weeks. I always regretted telling everyone so this time around we knew we weren't going to tell anyone until it felt right. My best friend guessed it right away, probably around 7 weeks. My moms (I have two) and coworkers found out at 10 and 11 weeks because we told them. And then we told our two children last week (14 weeks) because it's becoming pretty hard to keep it a secret now. We are waiting to tell anyone else though until Oct. 20th, the date of my next appt. Husband wants to wait until then because though we've heard the heartbeat at home many times, we never have gotten to hear it at the doctors office. I think he just wants that extra security and I can completely respect that.

 

[eclipse_xo]

Both pregnancys everyone knew almost straight away. After my first loss i felt weird having to tell people that i wasnt pregnant anymore, some people even thought i had an abortion .... anyways, i was going to keep it on the DL this time but my MIL spilled the beans so i figured i mine as well tell people. Im 20 weeks and so far so good! I hope it stays that way!

 

[Vickieh1981]

With Isabella the children knew and were devestated but there was not really anyway around that. We told people at 12 weeks with her

This time we told at 16 weeks once we found out it was a girl. You have to do what is right for you xxx

I am really thrilled you are pregnant again.

 

[FierceAngel]

my intial plan was to wait until 16 weeks once our early anomly is done but then with charlie not evryone knew i was pregnant until after he was born... or many had only known for a few weeks - therefore alot of people didnt understand..

so i dont know yet but between 13-16 weeks x

 

[svetayasofiya]

I am not pregnant yet so I don't know if my answer counts or will even remain the same, but when I was first pregnant, our close friends who see us all the time knew right away around 5 weeks. My mom knew right away, like the day I found out, and we waited to tell my dad until 7 weeks. I don't regret who we told or when we did it.
I can't say I would do anything different next time, except not make a big deal about it. We were so excited, so every time we told someone it was an 'announcement.' I think this time we'll keep it on the down low and when my friends notice I am not having a beer or wine with them we'll say why. I will definitely tell my parents immediately for their support.
It was really awkward to tell people that I wasn't pregnant anymore, and no one really knew what to say. But I found a huge part of my grieving process was to talk about it. I think more people know that I miscarried than who knew I was pregnant. I don't go announcing it, but I don't hide that it happened to me.

 

[Rowan75]

we've told close friends and family already as last time we hadnt told all of them and they didnt get to be happy - just sad, and we figure if it goes wrong again we'll need their support even more - but at least theyve got to eb happy this time

fingers crossed for everyone

x

 

[Onika]

I cant keep secrets especially when I am pregnant and I am now 5 weeks so i am super psyched about it . When I miscarriaged last time I was 13 almost 14wks in April this years and everyone knew because I had passed the special mark but it wasnt to be. I am telling everyone close to me again because it was great to have the support around me. Plus I figure babies no matter how far deserve to be loved openly by everyone important in your life. You know when the time is right to tell people you just feel it xoxox fingers cross for everyone xoxox

 

[svetayasofiya]

I cant keep secrets especially when I am pregnant and I am now 5 weeks so i am super psyched about it . When I miscarriaged last time I was 13 almost 14wks in April this years and everyone knew because I had passed the special mark but it wasnt to be. I am telling everyone close to me again because it was great to have the support around me. Plus I figure babies no matter how far deserve to be loved openly by everyone important in your life. You know when the time is right to tell people you just feel it xoxox fingers cross for everyone xoxox

I love that.