when to try again ????

[angelsXmummy]

hi girls just wanted to know when i can start trying again i had to be induced on 20/12/08 and had my lil boy at 21weeks i then got took down to surgery for them to deliver my placenter im still bleeding now but its slowley stopping dont know how long you are supposed to bleed for. when can i start trying again if we are going to yet we havent really spoke about it yet but i want to start asap xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Wishfull]

Firstly im so sorry for your loss sweetie.
The docs usually say wait till you have had 1 or 2 periods, about 2 months after the m/c. And they also say that you can try again when you feel ready. Im not sure how long you will bleed for sweetie i was 10weeks when i lost my little one. And i bled for 2 weeks. But they usually say you can bleed on and off for 6 weeks. Hope i helped a little.
So sorry darling.
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[susan_1981]

So sorry for your loss. As you were a lot further along than I was, I'm not really sure but I have a leaflet from the Miscarriage Association that says if you get pregnant again before you even have a proper period then there is nothing to suggest it will happen again. It also says that most doctors will advise you to wait a month until you've had a proper period for dating purposes. I'd say when you feel ready, go for it xxx

 

[becky77]

so sorry you had to go through this hun, i would say you will probably bleed for a few weeks, but could spot for longer , as for ttc thats up to you for when you feel the time is right.

good luck hun hope 2009 is kinder to you
x

 

[JennTheMomma]

So sorry about your loss. You should wait for atleast 3 months to have a regular cycle again. However, you want to make sure you are ready physically and emotionally. I had a early m/c in April of 2006 and then got pregnant with Hunter in Oct. of 2006. I felt disconnected with him during pregnancy, and also got prenatal depression. I broke down and grieved for the angel baby during my pregnancy and it was very hard.

 

[born2Bmama]

I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy. I lost my daughter at 24 weeks on November 22, 2008. I bled for three weeks but I had lots of help and really tried not to exert myself more than I had to. When I delivered my other children, and really the experience is the same, I bled for four weeks. Just to give you some idea. As far as trying again, I agree with the others that it is best to wait until at least two normal periods because as my dr. explained to me when you get this far along your uterus takes longer to go back to its normal size and it is better not to get pregnant until it has had a chance to recover. You want to give your next baby the best possible start. Don't worry this probably won't take as long as you think. It has been six weeks since my daughter's birth and I am almost done with my first period already. Also make sure you take care of yourself emotionaly. Getting pregnant soon may help but if you avoid your feelings of grief they will come back at a later time. That is what I experienced. I rushed to get pregnant again after I lost my first baby at 13 weeeks and with this recent loss I felt the grief from that first loss come back again and it was like I was grieving for them both at the same time. However, I can understand your feelings. I don't know if you have other children, but I know that when I lost my first it was so much harder because of the uncertainty of whether I would ever have the chance to be a mother, and having my son really did make me feel so much better. I can only share my experiences with you. You will know when it is time for you to try again, trust your instincts. I hope this helps. Take care.

 

[Orange lady]

Hi,
I lost my baby earlier, at 8 weeks so I don't have any good advice for you. Sorry. But am so sorry for your loss and am thinking of you.
Make sure you are physically and emotionally ready for your next one.
Take care
x