This is my second posting and I'm hoping someone out there can give me some advice. I found out on Jan 25 (9w6d) that my baby had died at 6w. This was my first after 4 years of trying naturally and with unsuccessful infertility treatments. So my hubby and I both thought this was our (naturally conceived) miracle baby that we had been praying so hard for.
I just want to feel normal again! My hubby is moving on so much better than I am. He's finding positive in this and letting me grieve how I need to. I cry everyday. I feel so empty inside. I truly believe everything happens for a reason but this one I'm at a total loss. People keep telling me that there was probably something wrong with the baby. And I can accept that. What I can't accept is why did it get that far? I walked around for 4 weeks with a dead baby inside me and had no idea. I truly felt in my heart that everything was fine. I was raised a Christian and I believe that I have a pretty strong faith, but now I'm really afraid that my faith is hanging on by a thread. Why would God do this to us? I feel like He dangled our baby in front of us and took him/her away. That's what I mean by why did He let it get that far? I hate that I feel this way. Nothing anyone says seems to help so far. Does anyone have any advice or at least understand where my feelings are coming from? On top of all my grief I feel like such an awful Christian for being angry at God.
I just want to feel normal again! My hubby is moving on so much better than I am. He's finding positive in this and letting me grieve how I need to. I cry everyday. I feel so empty inside. I truly believe everything happens for a reason but this one I'm at a total loss. People keep telling me that there was probably something wrong with the baby. And I can accept that. What I can't accept is why did it get that far? I walked around for 4 weeks with a dead baby inside me and had no idea. I truly felt in my heart that everything was fine. I was raised a Christian and I believe that I have a pretty strong faith, but now I'm really afraid that my faith is hanging on by a thread. Why would God do this to us? I feel like He dangled our baby in front of us and took him/her away. That's what I mean by why did He let it get that far? I hate that I feel this way. Nothing anyone says seems to help so far. Does anyone have any advice or at least understand where my feelings are coming from? On top of all my grief I feel like such an awful Christian for being angry at God.