when will you start to buy?

[faun]

I have nearly everything i need because Billy is only 14 months so i'm just going to reuse it all and buy some extra bits after 25 weeks. I have been putting money away each week since i found out though so it won't be a shock to my finances.

 

[Sarah&Ady]

I'm not buying anything ever.

I just did it all and had to return it all to pay for her funeral.

Couldn't bear the thought of doing it all again with the same result.

So if this baby actually makes it, who knows what the hell we would do with it. I guess someone would be running up to Walmart to buy some diapers and a carseat so at least we could get it home and change it... Maybe we'd put it to sleep in a dresser drawer... I don't know. But I won't be buying things ever again. And I didn't even start ordering stuff until 17 weeks last time

Firstly.. I totally understand what you are syaing. I bought everything 1st time round too and suffered terrible empty arms syndrome being surrounded by all the things. This time round I have only bought things in the last 2 weeks from 30 weeks and we still have loads to get. Also, everything we have bought is at my Mums and not here. I understand people are excited and want to get shopping right away but sometimes I wish I could hold them off... I wouldnt want anyone to go through the pain I did by just being surrounded by things.. it's just awful.
On the same thread... I wouldnt discourage anyone either , it's just something I would not do again

 

[Sherri81]

Oh no, I couldn't do it again either. I did up 2 registries at 17 weeks, and we had literally just finished painting the nursery at 21 weeks.

And then boom, I'm coming home with her in a box, so I can bury her. And back goes the crib, and the diaper bag, and the car seat. And now I have tons of clothes and blankets, sheets and bibs to deal with as well. And the shoes.... And it was the worst feeling in the world to have to walk into a store with a bag of baby stuff and have to explain that you need to return them after the 30 day return limit because the baby has died. And none of the registries had a way to cancel them online, so I had to call and explain the situation to them. And the change table still came in even though I cancelled it, so I got phone calls from Sears for 10 days letting me know it was in, and I didn't want to deal with them, so I just never answered.

It was the worst thing for me to do. I wouldn't discourage anyone else from buying whenever they feel like it, but for me, not buying anything is the way to go.