When you have your next baby....

[redberry3]

have you thought about whether you will FF or BF?

I have this terrible guilt about not BFing Alexander and when I think about BFing our next baby I feel even more guilty about Alexander...sort of like...if I didn't give him that opportunity how is it fair I give the next child. Plus, I just can't imagine giving that child so much one on one time and having A sit off to the side and wait.......

just wondering if there is anyone else out there like me...

 

[Jelly_Tot]

I want too try bf with my next one, i ff with aiden x

 

[mernie]

I BF Brianna for a month and I'll at the very least do it for a month with all the others. Perhaps longer, perhaps I'll become a pumper

 

[claire-lou]

I Bf Jack at first and would like to think that I'd do the same again. However you have to do what you right with hun

 

[embojet]

I will FF, but might express for a couple of weeks at first as I did with Molly.

 

[tasha41]

I might try BF... the main reason being sometimes at night I remember thinking "crap I wish I was breastfeeding so I didn't have to go downstairs and get a bottle ready".. and I'm sick of making up formula and bottles and washing them already

I'm undecided though.

 

[Arcanegirl]

This is something i had been wondering recently. I think i would like to give BF a go again and see how it goes, but not beat myself up if it was only for a couple of weeks.

 

[mrso]

I FF my son and while TTC this one I convinced myself that I would BF/pump the next one. Now that I am pregnant, I have decided to FF this one as well. I felt guilty with my son but this time I dont feel that way at all. My son is very healty and I dont feel as if I have compromised his health or outcome by FF.

 

[Arlandria]

I'll probably try BF again, but if the next one is anything like Olivia then i'll switch to FF...All babies are diff hun, and she much prefered to bottle to the breast

 

[LuluBee]

If we ever had another i would probalby just formula feed. I have inverted nipples though (and for some reason they've got worse since I had Alex) and so getting a baby to latch on is virtually impossible. I'd probably still express some colostrum for them but then I'd stop feeling guilty and go for the formula.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I'll try with my next one, and definitely express for the first month like I did with Ruby. My let down was too slow for Ruby and she got frustrated and kept bobbing off the breast and crying. my next one might be different though. Unlike this time, I will make sure I have everything I need ready for FF'ing, in case!

 

[faille]

I think I'll go straight to FF.

I tried BF with Violet and she hardly fed at all in the first few days and she lost a lot of weight. She also got very dehydrated and would just sleep and sleep, she wouldnt wake for feeding, she wouldn't wake for anything. The only time she was awake and I was holding her, she was crying.

The first few days took such a toll on being able to bond with her. I felt so guilty and felt that she must hate me because she was crying all the time and I couldn't make her happy or give her what she wanted. As soon as we switched to FF, she was like another baby. She was awake, alert and full of energy and sooo content.

I can't put my next baby through that. I still feel guilty about putting Violet through it. I don't feel bad about FF, it's what is best for us both.

 

[helen1234]

hun, alex wont hold it against you, and he isnt going to resent his sibling in anyway when he's older. like hmmmm mum bf you and ff me pfft.

its whats right for you at the time you need to remember that. and alex is gorgeous it doesnt matter how they are fed as long as they are fed.

my mum bf me and not my bro i dont care!!! neither witll alex.

rhys was fed and i expressed for 6 weeks. the next one i'm more prepared i thought it was going to be easy and it wasnt,
dont beat yourself up
your a wonderful wonderful mum
xx

 

[Fossey]

I will do the same well hope to and thats combination. I wanted to exclusively BF but she didnt stay on long enough so we combined and it worked really well.

 

[ryder]

Honestly babies dont really care how they are fed Jaylene... he will be fine.

I want to try bfing again next time for the convenience etc... but I wont beat myself up if I cant do it again.

 

[Tegans Mama]

If I have another I will def. try to BF. Not through guilt, I wanted with all my heart to BF Tegan but I couldn't as my milk didn't come in until she was 14 days old and she was in hospital being tube fed more or less constant until 8 weeks

 

[CeliaM]

I did feel somewhat guilty until I read the thread in the BF'ing board "The Case Against Breastfeeding". It shows that the benefits of breastfeeding really aren't as huge as some of us have been led to believe.

I don't think I'll have another baby, but if I did, I would probably breastfeed for the first 6 weeks or so, then go back to ff. I bf'd my first child until 9months, and honestly, I wish I had ff him. I think we both would have been happier, and healthier for it. He had allergies and I was really having trouble figuring what needed to be eliminated from my diet to help him. Poor squirt suffered a lot, but I felt such pressure to continue to bf (supposedly the most hypoallergenic, ect) that I held out for a long time. So with this baby, when I noticed the same symptoms, I switched to soy formula right away. He's happy, healthy, his mommy is rested because daddy can do one of the night feeds.

My older kids have certainly benefitted from the baby being ff as well. I can spend time with them, taking them places without having to bring baby along. Last week hubby and I took them to a fair for the day, leaving baby with nana. Baby benefitted as he could stay home and nap as he wished, my older kids really enjoyed having us to themselves. I know a person could do ebm to get the same results there, but having tried that with my elder son, it didn't work so wonderfully. He wouldn't take a bottle for love nor money!