Who likes a good debate?

[Jess137]

I always thought I would, since all the men in my family are circumcised (we are not Jewish). I thought it was the normal thing to do. But since I've been with DH, he is not circumcised. I see no health issues or cleanliness issues, and it is very sensitive. I've read that men without foreskins have less sensitivity. I'm not sure though how any research would be done, since men only know what they have, be that circ'd or not.

In any case, we will not be circumcising any male children that we have.

 

[MissMisery]

Well my DH is circumcised... but I don't want our potential LO to be... does that seem like a problem to anyone?

 

[Andypanda6570]

No, we're not Jewish, so why would we?

LOL..You don't have to be Jewish to circumcise your boys I am Italian (Roman Catholic)
My husband is from Europe (Italy) and he is not circumcised but all my boys age 20,17 and 11 are, it was my choice and I don't think it's cruel at all.. I think it is a personal choice and nobody has the right to say it is right or wrong . My husband is a very clean person and when you are not circumcised you need to keep that area very clean, when my kids were born it was the norm to circumcise and now it isn't really necessary to some people and If I had another boy I would probably still do it, but who knows. Why is this even called a debate it is such a personal choice and I don't feel there is any wrong or right choice just an individual one. JMHO

 

[Jess137]

It's only a debate because most people have very strong beliefs on this and think that they need to convert others the same way.... but this is JMO based on all the previous circumcision threads. Usually they end up getting closed.

 

[Andypanda6570]

It's only a debate because most people have very strong beliefs on this and think that they need to convert others the same way.... but this is JMO based on all the previous circumcision threads. Usually they end up getting closed.

LOL, It is fine to have strong beliefs, I mean I have my own too, but that doesn't mean I want to change the worlds mind to have all my beliefs . I don't mean any disrespect to anyone but in my opinion it is childish for people to keep starting these threads when they only turn people against eachother and get people upset, what is the point I mean its over and over this question is being posted. Why can't people just say there is no right or wrong it is just a personal choice. I don't know maybe its me I just don't get it . thanks for trying to answer me though I appreciate it

 

[Jess137]

It's only a debate because most people have very strong beliefs on this and think that they need to convert others the same way.... but this is JMO based on all the previous circumcision threads. Usually they end up getting closed.

LOL, It is fine to have strong beliefs, I mean I have my own too, but that doesn't mean I want to change the worlds mind to have all my beliefs . I don't mean any disrespect to anyone but in my opinion it is childish for people to keep starting these threads when they only turn people against eachother and get people upset, what is the point I mean its over and over this question is being posted. Why can't people just say there is no right or wrong it is just a personal choice. I don't know maybe its me I just don't get it . thanks for trying to answer me though I appreciate it

I 100% agree with you!

 

[kiki04]

I wasn't asking if ppl think its right or wrong... just will you or wont you And so far this thread at 3 pages has been nothing but kind

 

[Jess137]

To be fair, the thread does have the word "debate" in the title. It seems like you thought it would be something people disagree about.

I wasn't attacking you or anything, I was just saying that most of the time these threads get very heated. I'm glad that everyone has been respectful on this thread.

EDIT: Usually the circumcision threads are in the actually pregnancy or baby sections, not the TTC section. I think that's why the thread has not blown up.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I wasn't asking if ppl think its right or wrong... just will you or wont you And so far this thread at 3 pages has been nothing but kind

I know, you are right but most likely it will turn into people fighting about this topic, always does I don't mean any disrespect towards you at all and I am not saying you are wrong or anything I just think there is no right or wrong and though the original question you ask is "will you or wont you" you know it will turn into the "right and wrong" it always does. Hope I am the one wrong though

 

[MissMisery]

To be fair it can't be a 'personal' choice when it directly and intimately effects another person. You're not making a decision to alter your own genitals. You're making a decision to alter the gentiles of a separate individual.

 

[calliebaby]

I left it up to my husband to decide as he was the one that would be doing the majority of the potty training.
My husband is not and my son is.
When my son had it done, they took him to another room. When they brought him back to me, he was sound asleep. He was completely healed in 2 days and never once acted like he was in any pain.
Of course, now if we do have another boy, we will probably do it again.

 

[Andypanda6570]

To be fair it can't be a 'personal' choice when it directly and intimately effects another person. You're not making a decision to alter your own genitals. You're making a decision to alter the gentiles of a separate individual.

but your also making a decision on someone who you will make decisions for , for the next at least 18 years, it's your child and at birth they can't make their own decision. I meant it is a personal choice for each parent to make for their child . Your decision to alter the gentiles of a "separate individual" is your child whom you are responsible for making choices for till they are capable of making their own ... I really doubt any child will hold that choice against their parents..

 

[BeeLT]

Great question.

I highly recommend everyone read "How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life " https://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html and "A Change in How Intercourse Works" https://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/change-in-how-intercourse-works.html

Then read "Intact or Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis" https://www.drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html

And then think about your opinion. It changed mine. No sons of mine will be circumcised.

 

[YoungOptimist]

Me and my mother just had a very long discussion about this and we both agreed that it is indeed a personal decision. 2 of my brothers are circumcised and 1 is not. We are from america though and it is normal to do circumcision at least where we are. I will most likely have my sons circumcised as I think it is still best. People can have their own opinions on it though, everyone choses differently for their kids. Most of the side effects or complications you will hear associated with circumcision are very rare. It is very safe nowadays. But then again, it's not a big deal which way you chose.

 

[kiki04]

Wow... great read! Thanks

 

[FloridaGirl21]

I agree with Andypanda, it's a personal choice

That said, DH is circumcised & we've discussed the topic before, he 100% wants any boys we have to be circumcised.. And I've given the decision to him on this one.. Also, my best friend growing up, her nephew wasn't circumcised & at 5 had to be because he got a nasty infection. He was in so much pain until it healed, I felt so bad for him.. That's probably not the norm, I'm sure most people keep themselves clean, but little boys can be so difficult, I feel it might be better anyway to go that route & not take the chance..

JMO though

 

[Breezy]

Absolutely! Our LO is circ'd and if we have more LO's they will be as well. DH is too. It wasn't even a thought not to.

 

[Smile181c]

I'm kinda on the fence with this one! My DF is and he's glad that he is (he had it done when he was really young for medical reasons), but we've never really discussed whether any future son's of ours would be!

On one hand, I don't think we will, purely because I don't think it would pop into our heads to do it but on the other I don't have anything against NOT doing it if that makes sense? It's cleaner (not saying that boys/men who haven't been circumsised aren't clean ), and as far as DF is concerned, plenty sensitive enough! xx

 

[FloridaGirl21]

and as far as DF is concerned, plenty sensitive enough!

^I agree with that.. It's hard to compare one to the other to know if uncircumsised men truly are more sensitive, but my DH is sensitive enough

 

[BeeLT]

I wasn't asking if ppl think its right or wrong... just will you or wont you And so far this thread at 3 pages has been nothing but kind

You did open the thread with saying "Who likes a good debate? And can keep it clean? Circumcision or not...." I'd say that's asking whether people think it's right or wrong and not at all a simple "will you or won't you".

I do think it's a healthy thread and no one is being mean. And it's not the fault of a thread if someone were to get mean, it's that person (possibly) feeling like they can say whatever they want because it's all in text and they don't have to face anyone. I feel like BnB is one big support group for me. Not everyone has to share my opinions, but it's a great place to bounce ideas off one another and learn something new.