Who likes a good debate?

[kiki04]

I did put debate in the title just because any topic with 2 differing sides willl be classified as a debate. One says yes I will with reasons and one says no I wont with reasons I am not a trouble starter and hope thats not what I came across as.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I did put debate in the title just because any topic with 2 differing sides willl be classified as a debate. One says yes I will with reasons and one says no I wont with reasons I am not a trouble starter and hope thats not what I came across as.

I don't think you are a trouble starter (LOL I Like that term ) at all.

 

[Smile181c]

I don't think you came across as a trouble starter hun. Just from previous threads these things have always turned horrible - this one seems fine at the minute though!

 

[hopeandpray]

Not. Unless there is a family history of having to have it done at a later stage anyway. Complications can be nasty. I think the decision would have to be mainly with the OH as obviously I don't have a penis

 

[everdreaming]

I spoke to my OH about this earlier and he said definitely YES and he also said anyone without a penis has no say in the matter! I'm sure he'll change that opinion once he actually understands the gravity of parenting and how it is actually down to us both. But I still stand by what I said previously, yes in theory, until proven otherwise, as it were

 

[pinkribbon]

Not. It is completely medically unnecessary. Not even recommended by the AMA. It's a surgical procedure on your baby's penis that is purely for aesthetic reasons. It causes nerve damage and can have serious complications. Definitely skip it.

Agree! My son is not circumsised.

 

[Breezy]

I spoke to my OH about this earlier and he said definitely YES and he also said anyone without a penis has no say in the matter! I'm sure he'll change that opinion once he actually understands the gravity of parenting and how it is actually down to us both. But I still stand by what I said previously, yes in theory, until proven otherwise, as it were

Yup my DH said that noone without a penis has any say in the matter as well! I agree with him on that. There is so much I did not know about them and had to ask DH about so I am glad that he had the say in the circ and all other penis related things.

 

[pinkribbon]

Also, I would like to add... if baby boys weren't meant to have a foreskin, and it is in their best interests to remove it... why would they be born with a foreskin in the first place? Surely it is there for a reason? Hope that doesn't offend

 

[FloridaGirl21]

^^I think that's a good point, I was reasoning it to myself with that point in mind also, but in bible times, God had them remove it also, so he must have had a reason back then I'm not Jewish, and it's all a little overwhelming.. so i'm really leaving the decision up to my OH

 

[Breezy]

Also, I would like to add... if baby boys weren't meant to have a foreskin, and it is in their best interests to remove it... why would they be born with a foreskin in the first place? Surely it is there for a reason? Hope that doesn't offend

My DH seems to believe that the foreskin is there to protect the tip as way way back when, when they didn't wear clothes, take regular showers, etc that the tip would be very vulnerable. And now that we are in the time where (most) men shower daily, wear clothes, keep things clean there that it is more beneficial to circ.

Like I said, that;s what DH thinks

 

[dontworry]

I have never really honestly thought about this (because I don't have a penis lol), but I know the decision is pretty much made for our future sons. They will be circumcised.
My OH was not circumcised when he was a baby because he was born extremely premature, and his mother didn't even think about it when he got to a healthier weight. My OH grew up feeling completely isolated and angry at his mom for not doing it (this is actually one of the reasons he hates spending time there as an adult), as all of the other boys in his gym/classes were circumcised. So he had to beg him mom for years and finally got circumcised at 16. The surgery was terrible for him: embarrassing and extremely painful (the healing, anyway). He was afraid to tell his friends why he was home for the weeks afterwards because he couldn't even piss without stifling his crying. I would do anything for my kids to not go through what he had to.
I know it's medically unnecessary but if I can prevent that kind of trauma, I'm going to do so. It's just "to each, their own" and that is fine with me. I don't have any hardcore beliefs on what other people do to their children, we are all just doing what we think is best, in the end.

 

[mrsswaffer]

Ahh, in the UK it's the opposite, dontworry. My DH is circumcised, bit it's more uncommon here, so he was the one feeling inadequate and embarrassed about it as a kid. I've just asked if he'd want our son(s) to have it done and he said no. Because he doesn't want him/them to feel isolated and "different".

I don't have a preference either way, so I'm leaving the decision with DH.

 

[dontworry]

Ahh, in the UK it's the opposite, dontworry. My DH is circumcised, bit it's more uncommon here, so he was the one feeling inadequate and embarrassed about it as a kid. I've just asked if he'd want our son(s) to have it done and he said no. Because he doesn't want him/them to feel isolated and "different".

I don't have a preference either way, so I'm leaving the decision with DH.

It's weird to think how different our cultures are! I think circumcision got really popular here in the past years, but now there are a lot of people voting against it (they're actually trying to make it illegal in some towns here in California). I'm with you, though, as I don't have a preference. I can/will never understand how it feels for them, so it's best that my OH chooses. If I feel it's wrong at the time, I will definitely say no. Maybe it will be different when I'm pregnant? Who knows!

 

[BeeLT]

I did put debate in the title just because any topic with 2 differing sides willl be classified as a debate. One says yes I will with reasons and one says no I wont with reasons I am not a trouble starter and hope thats not what I came across as.

I don't think you are a trouble starter (LOL I Like that term ) at all.

Agreed! Just pointing out the contradiction. I enjoyed reading the thread. No worries!

 

[pinkribbon]

Also, I would like to add... if baby boys weren't meant to have a foreskin, and it is in their best interests to remove it... why would they be born with a foreskin in the first place? Surely it is there for a reason? Hope that doesn't offend

My DH seems to believe that the foreskin is there to protect the tip as way way back when, when they didn't wear clothes, take regular showers, etc that the tip would be very vulnerable. And now that we are in the time where (most) men shower daily, wear clothes, keep things clean there that it is more beneficial to circ.

Like I said, that;s what DH thinks

That would make sense actually. I just think nature has it there for a reason and it doesn't really need altering unless there is a good reason (tight foreskin or whatever) but I would never look down on someone else because they have chosen it for their child. I understand in the US it's wayyy more common than in the UK.

 

[2009Mommy]

we didnt have our son circumsized because its not necessary and he is fine.