Whole info: 'human' bite marks on face

[lillyttc]

hi,
My 1 year old daughter was bitten by another girl in the day care a little bad. the bite marks look so awful that I feel like crying every time I look at her face . I had taken her to the doctor and he asked me to put antiseptic on it every now and then and to give paracetamol. I asked him if the marks will be permanent, he said its difficult to tell now. Its at a very obvious location on the cheek and chin. Its very hard to look at her face, its pulling me down.

I want to ask if anybody had any similar experience and if the marks go away? probably the small girl who did that might not know what she was doing or so I am trying to tell myself, but I think I can never think positive for her. If wishes had powers than I cant think how bad her life could be, but fortunately I know they don't.

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1. We were not told the identity of the other girl, they said they are not supposed to reveal. Then my husband asked them what the problem was, and if the parents hit the child frequently (this is classified as physical abuse?), he was told 'yes', and also that they are trying all the alternatives to deal with the child (and child's problem).

2. They are teeth marks I am sure because, I had visited the creche immediately after this had happened and there were bad teeth marks all over, it looked much more worse. The image that I posted was taken almost 8 hours later.

3. Thanks a lot for all those who told it wont scare , I am feeling much better today with the healing process. Her face looks much better. She seems to have forgotten everything and back to her full energy

4. the place where I live, its almost impossible to get creche, it takes at least 1 year. So I am planning to take a break from my work for 6-10 months, but its not possible immediately, so I have to hold on for few more months.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Did the bite mark break the skin?

 

[hattiehippo]

Tom got bitten on his arm quite badly at nursery last year. It was really obvious - you could count the teeth! But within 3 days it had faded right down and after 5 days there was no sign of it at all. Might take a bit longer if the skin is broken but it should go completely I would have thought.

I wouldn't waste energy being angry with the other child. It won't have been done in spite like an older child will. It was just an instant reaction and tbh next time it could be your LO doing the biting - all toddlers have it in them to bite when they're annoyed /angry.

 

[lillyttc]

yes there seems to be shallow tears 4-5 long ones here and there in crescent shapes. It did bleed a little but that did not worry the doctor much, though he was very surprised to know when I told him its by another girl. I feel really crappy, I just wish my baby was really sick and I would have kept her at home taking off.

 

[lillyttc]

yes i know that children have that tendency and thats why I kept myself calm and composed though I was burning inside looking at my daughters scarry face. But to-be-honest, to me they(bites) seem too many to feel its just a one time random reaction. And its on the face and at very very obvious locations. Every child is beautiful to its parents, especially to mother. I had dressed her in a new dress and she was looking really cute in the morning, when I had dropped her in the day care all had a second look at her. I dont know how to calm myself. I really feel very depressed right now. She seems so very different with those marks, if they stay permanently, she has to be a strong girl.

 

[catfromaus]

They won't stay. At the moment my youngest is going through a biting phase, she has bitten my two year old 3 times, leaving a mark each time. It always fades, I know what you mean about bite marks making you feel so angry though- it is one thing I struggle to deal with calmly.

 

[upsy daisy1]

ive worked in nurserys in the past and have seen quite a few bite marks. sometimes its hard to stop them no matter how closely you monitor or occupy the kids. but i also know how hard it is to see your child be on the recieving end. my daughter got scratched at nursery the other day down the side of her face.it wasnt really bad but did break the skin at the top and was visable down her cheek. i didnt stress too much over the incident as i know that kids are kids and my daughter has been on the attacking side. but it does break you heart to see it and know your child experienced it. even though its hard to say if it will mark as im not sure exactly what it looks like, when ive seen bite marks that were pretty bad within a week or so they have disapeared. we use to put sudacream to help with the redness and that helped alot. i hope lo is and has forgotten the incident. and im sure she is still just as beautiful

 

[Ozzieshunni]

They won't stay. Children have amazing skin that heals very quickly. I have friends whose children have had pacemakers (not the same thing, I know) but they have almost no scarring from the operations. I'm sure she will heal well

 

[XJessicaX]

Goodness me! Your poor LO! How on earth does a child bite a face anyway? The offending child must have pinned her down to do it so where on earth was his/her key worker who is meant to be supervising them?! I would be extremely cross with the day care.

 

[Mummy2B21]

Yeah I wouldnt be happy with day care either, there only supposed to have 4 kids to each person so for a child to probably pin one down and bite its face long enough to have marks like what your describing where the hell was the assistant....

 

[XJessicaX]

At 12 months it should be 1 adult to 2 children. There really isnt an excuse!

 

[whit.]

Here it's 1 adult to 5 children at 12 months.

It won't stay. When I worked in a daycare we watched the children VERY closely but anything can happen and the little buggers are very fast!

 

[~RedLily~]

Aww bless her

I wouldn't worry too much about scarring. LO cut her face really bad a year ago and had to have it glued, the nurse told me it would scar badly. A year later it's barely visible and tbh if you didn't know it was there you probably wouldn't notice, this time next year I think it will be gone.

 

[XJessicaX]

Here it's 1 adult to 5 children at 12 months.

It won't stay. When I worked in a daycare we watched the children VERY closely but anything can happen and the little buggers are very fast!

One adult to FIVE children??! Blimey! No wonder you guys moan about the day cares!! Tabs last nursery it was never more than 1:2 and sometimes 1:1.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

That's kinda weird Whit. Ours was 1:3 for 18 months to 3 years in Cali.

 

[hattiehippo]

Even 1:2 these things can happen easily and that ratio doesn't mean an adult is literally sat next to each pair of children ready to intervene.

Sounds like the other child I'd a very quick lunge with teeth out and unless the adult was right on top of them they wouldn't be able to stop them making contact.

OP - hope your LO is feeling a bit better today.

 

[Lina]

I'm so sorry this happened. Did you find out which child did it? I would have a word with the mother.

 

[anita665]

Wow, poor you. I don't know what I'd do in that situation but I know I'd feel very upset about it. Tbh I would probably cry.

I agree that the skin will heal quickly but I'm shocked that this happened in the first place. I can understand with older toddlers because there is more of them per person but at your LO's age they should have constant supervision. You're LO would have cried after the first bite (if not before) and that should have allerted someone to the situation.

 

[lillyttc]

I couldn't ask many questions to them, I almost knew they wont tell us who the kid was either, though I have a good guess about it. My husband dropped my child at the day care and asked the assistant a lot of questions. I was told yesterday that the other kid wanted to kiss, but it was very clear from todays response my husband got that the child vented her violent frustration on my daughter. The girls parents are abusive towards her he was told, and also that this is not the first incident of this kind, but I guess the first one on the face and so bad. We are told that the day care is trying legal and counselling alternatives to deal with this child. I think they cant even say no to admitting the child.

By yesterday evening my girl seemed to be in a normal mood, but yesterday afternoon she was really scared and dint leave me for a while. I don't want to feel bad about the other child sincerely but I just feel so insane when I see my daughters face or the thought comes to my mind.

Thank you all for making me feel better, I wish that her scares fade away and she looks normal again, it looks quite unpleasant now. I will attach a photo when I go home, and probably then I can know if this kind of scare had been seen to get better visibly

 

[Dragonfly]

Thats shocking I would be very angry at the nursary! and these parents for being abusive, children sadly take it out on their peers as you can see here. I wouldnt send my child there any more either. . It must be really bad bite if you are worried about it not going away. Post a pic maybe?