Whole info: 'human' bite marks on face

[Ozzieshunni]

While you think you may have a right to know, you actually don't. It's not like they are trying to be devious. They are legally bound to keep confidentiality.

 

[Dragonfly]

Thats shocking I would be very angry at the nursary! and these parents for being abusive, children sadly take it out on their peers as you can see here. I wouldnt send my child there any more either. . It must be really bad bite if you are worried about it not going away. Post a pic maybe?

Are you saying that children bite because they're being abused? If so, that's absurd. There are tons of parents who are mortified their children are the biters.



Jess & Ozzie.
https://daycare.com/indiana/

Op said that the child is abused, whit. Not dragonfly. Now be a good girl and apologise

Didn't see anything about the child being abused.

Sorry if it was Dragonfly, IMO it's still absurd to say a biter is being abused, though.

Well I didnt say that, that would be odd to come out with without knowing any details. The poster said it

no fair. You probably just read skim read

 

[lillyttc]

Yes they are legally bound to keep the identity of the kid confidential and thats perfectly understandable.

But it doesn't make sense as to why they should keep shut about the back-ground about the unknown child. Even if its not due to parental abuse, I have every right to know if its a persistent problem, which means the kid has a problem which needs attention.

To me it is like saying you are not supposed to discuss the reasons behind this consequence as they might be related to some living people though they are anonymous, EVEN if I am the mother of the child who suffered.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

With abuse, it's a touchie subject. I worked in a preschool for abused children. We were not allowed to discuss the home circumstances of any child, whether we named the child or not. Bottom line, they should not have said anything, no matter what you asked. They broke the confidentiality of that child and the parents and can get into BIG trouble for it.

How is your little girl today?

 

[anita665]

Personally I think that whether your LO took a toy off the other child first or not, your feelings are completely understandable. You can understand why children act in the way that they do but it doesn't stop you feeling terrible when you're child is on the recieving end of something like that.

As for the nursery, I don't think they should have given that much away but perhaps they were a bit panicked by the situation and just said too much. I think if it had been my LO and they had refused to say anything at all I would have taken my LO out of the setting.

 

[qpaulina42]

First, to address the bite, make sure to put lots of antibiotic cream on it to avoid infection. Mouths are dirty. I had a human bite on my arm, got infected, I have a scar now but it's very faint. Baby skin is pretty good at healing though!
Also, let's not blame the other child. She's still young and has a lot to learn. Daycare will need to step up in teaching her that's it's not ok to bite. And it's sort of dodgy how they are handling this situation. Can you switch daycares?

 

[whit.]

Thats shocking I would be very angry at the nursary! and these parents for being abusive, children sadly take it out on their peers as you can see here. I wouldnt send my child there any more either. . It must be really bad bite if you are worried about it not going away. Post a pic maybe?

Are you saying that children bite because they're being abused? If so, that's absurd. There are tons of parents who are mortified their children are the biters.



Jess & Ozzie.
https://daycare.com/indiana/

Op said that the child is abused, whit. Not dragonfly. Now be a good girl and apologise

Didn't see anything about the child being abused.

Sorry if it was Dragonfly, IMO it's still absurd to say a biter is being abused, though.

Well I didnt say that, that would be odd to come out with without knowing any details. The poster said it

no fair. You probably just read skim read

That's why I thought it was odd!
I said I was sorry, I did read all of the posts but I didn't see the sentence about abuse.

 

[Dragonfly]

Thats ok , more than guilty of it myself lol

 

[lillyttc]

If anybody had seen this kind of scare fading away please let me know, that will make me feel better. I only need info about whether anybody had a personal experience about this "Healing" without a scar left naturally. There is a tear to the skin in 2-3 places, but except this one, others are under the chin

Please kindly don't reply to give me advises about what I should and shouldn't feel about the other kid, I think I can decide better about that part. And also don't reply without reading my posts completely.

 

[XJessicaX]

If anybody had seen this kind of scare fading away please let me know, that will make me feel better. I only need info about whether anybody had a personal experience about this "Healing" without a scar left naturally. There is a tear to the skin in 2-3 places, but except this one, others are under the chin

Please kindly don't reply to give me advises about what I should and shouldn't feel about the other kid, I think I can decide better about that part. And also don't reply without reading my posts completely.

OMG! Sorry, when you initially said bite mark I just presumed a small bruise. I wasnt expecting that! Your poor LO!!!

 

[~RedLily~]

Aww bless her that looks sore. Once the cut is healed over you could try bio oil that's supposed to help scars heal. I honestly don't think it will scar though, it will probably take quite a long time to go but I don't think it will permanently scar.

I don't know if this helps as it is a different cut but this is LO's cut with 13 months between. It had to be glued and I was told the scarring would be bad.

Edit: oops sorry they were only supposed to be small attachments

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[Ozzieshunni]

Alex tumbled off the bed and cut open his chin. Took a while, but it's barely noticible just now.

And that is a severe bite How did the child get on your daughter long enough to do that much damage? I would be pulling Alex out and finding a new nursery.

 

[lillyttc]

Aww bless her that looks sore. Once the cut is healed over you could try bio oil that's supposed to help scars heal. I honestly don't think it will scar though, it will probably take quite a long time to go but I don't think it will permanently scar.

I don't know if this helps as it is a different cut but this is LO's cut with 13 months between. It had to be glued and I was told the scarring would be bad.

Edit: oops sorry they were only supposed to be small attachments

Thanks a lot, seeing that change for your LO was really made me feel good. probably when my daughter's face becomes a little better without any red marks all over her lower face, I would get to my normal self.

 

[nicki01]

Aww bless that looks sore! Charlie got bitten at nursery for 3 weeks solid everytime she went!! (only tuesday and wednesday mornings). To be honest i didnt grumble too much, they had 2 children in her room at the time that were going through a biting phase and charlie had picked up a habit of snatching toys so she got bitten on the face everytime!!

Obviously it wasnt nice for her but what could i do! It stopped and nursery explained that they were working with the children to prevent this and steer away from bitting!

Charlie may become a biter one day so i try not to judge!

Your little one will heal super well and wont even tell it ever happened!

 

[lillyttc]

Aww bless that looks sore! Charlie got bitten at nursery for 3 weeks solid everytime she went!! (only tuesday and wednesday mornings). To be honest i didnt grumble too much, they had 2 children in her room at the time that were going through a biting phase and charlie had picked up a habit of snatching toys so she got bitten on the face everytime!!

Obviously it wasnt nice for her but what could i do! It stopped and nursery explained that they were working with the children to prevent this and steer away from bitting!

Charlie may become a biter one day so i try not to judge!

Your little one will heal super well and wont even tell it ever happened!

I hadn't spoken anything much in the daycare, I cant change what had happened to her face anyway. But, I think any mother who would experience anything like this would understand how it actually feels, bites and red marks all over her left and lower face. I cant imagine what if it was somebody a little older.

Believe me these kind of behaviors are contagious. Today morning she was experimenting on my skin with her nails trying to scratch which she has never never done before. She is in a stage where she is trying to imitate almost everything that she observes. From day-before-yesterday, she has become a little aggressive which is noticeable. When I say this I am aware that it can go from her to somebody else too.

For now I have to wait for 2 months to make any changes with respect to her day care.

 

[XJessicaX]

Once again I am asking HOW a child manages to bite another child when they are meant to be supervised. That isnt a snap bite, that's a BIG deliberate bite that would have taken some doing!
With Ozzie here, I would be swapping nurseries as obviously they are not in control of the children. I would be......FURIOUS (I am getting cross now!) if my daughter came home with something like that.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

In this circumstance, I would NOT be respecting any of this daycare's "wishes."

 

[Brookey]

That doesnt even look like one bite mark, it looks like this other kid must have had a lot of time before being stopped to make that much damage.

Im not a fan of nurseries either for this reason, the children cant be supervised all the time. Obviously very personal choice though.

I think if you are not happy with you LO being there anymore then you have every right to move her. I wouldnt hesitate xxxx

 

[nicki01]

I completely understand how you feel, its awfull. When charlie had hers it made me want to cry when i looked at her and as it was repeated over 3 weeks it was heart breaking!

I can see how it happens though, my friends little one has bitten charlie twice now and both times we were both there, just busy sorting out another child and again it was a frustration thing, she just lunged at her and the damage was done. Also as charlie isnt one to be knocked over i dont think it helps as if she toppled over then the other child wouldnt be able to get enough contact to bite but as charlie restrains from falling and almost pushes against them the other child can easily get a bite in, in a second.

Obviously im not excusing this as its horrible when it happens but to me its just toddlers being toddlers and sadly some do go through this phase.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Having worked in nursery, both in the US and the UK, I have never seen a bite that bad and I've been bitten as well.