Torz
Mummy to 2 DS & pregnant
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I'm not sure who I'm going to have this time.
The first time in hospital I had my mum & my partner as we are allowed two birth partners here.
My second birth was a home birth & it got a little hectic. I had my partner, my mum, my two sisters, my niece (who I didn't actually as to come, my sister just brought her) & my brother was here for a short time but not for the actual birth.
My brother came just after baby was born & I then had two paramedics, two ambulance crew & finally two midwives who turned up 45 minutes after baby was born. How my two year old slept through all this I do not know.
Looking back it felt too much, too many people, I felt overwhelmed.
Obviously I want my partner there, I can't do it without my mum there. I can't ask one sister & not the other & if I have a home birth again I really want my oldest sister there who is a nurse. She has had some midwife training when she did her nursing degree & she actually delivered my second son as the midwifed didn't turn up. I'd feel a whole lot better if she was there.
I kinda feel as if I should just go to hospital & have the decision taken away from me, but I really loved my home water birth & there is no guarantee of using the pool in hospital & I really want another water birth.
I have quite a few weeks to decide I suppose.
If I was in your situation I think I would be pretty torn too. I'd probably sit down & have a good talk to your partner about how you feel. Or even better, write it all down & let him read it, that way he can take it all in without arguing back.
If you feel really strongly about having your mum there then go for it. We all want the best support possible when we are our most vulnerable.
The first time in hospital I had my mum & my partner as we are allowed two birth partners here.
My second birth was a home birth & it got a little hectic. I had my partner, my mum, my two sisters, my niece (who I didn't actually as to come, my sister just brought her) & my brother was here for a short time but not for the actual birth.
My brother came just after baby was born & I then had two paramedics, two ambulance crew & finally two midwives who turned up 45 minutes after baby was born. How my two year old slept through all this I do not know.
Looking back it felt too much, too many people, I felt overwhelmed.
Obviously I want my partner there, I can't do it without my mum there. I can't ask one sister & not the other & if I have a home birth again I really want my oldest sister there who is a nurse. She has had some midwife training when she did her nursing degree & she actually delivered my second son as the midwifed didn't turn up. I'd feel a whole lot better if she was there.
I kinda feel as if I should just go to hospital & have the decision taken away from me, but I really loved my home water birth & there is no guarantee of using the pool in hospital & I really want another water birth.
I have quite a few weeks to decide I suppose.
If I was in your situation I think I would be pretty torn too. I'd probably sit down & have a good talk to your partner about how you feel. Or even better, write it all down & let him read it, that way he can take it all in without arguing back.
If you feel really strongly about having your mum there then go for it. We all want the best support possible when we are our most vulnerable.