Why can't he just let go? sad :(

Discussion in 'Single Parents' started by edinsam, Apr 21, 2009.

  1. edinsam

    edinsam Well-Known Member

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    So a while ago I posted a thread about my current situation. My OH and I have been together about 2 years and I found out I was pregnant in January of this year (currently about 17 weeks) A number of arguements continued the whole month of February with him eventually saying having a termination or I am leaving. I tried to reason with him that its not what I wanted but still he wouldn't budge. A month ago now (to the day) he announces I can't handle this - I'm offski, I'm going back to my ex wife and daughter as I can't live with the guilt of leaving them 2 years ago.

    I was absolutely gutted (still am but hey a month has passed and I am dealing with it now) So we live in this house that we rented together last year which costs an arm and a leg but the lease doesn't run out until end of Sept (days before my due date!!) and he has agreed to pay half until then which I guess is good.

    However the problem lies in that we work together. He is a contractor though and I am a permanent member of staff. The first week he went back to his wife at work he was like oh I want a hug, I want a snog etc etc and the pair of us started back down that route. (dont ask why - must have been a moment of madness for me I guess) she then found out and was like ah its ok don't worry about it.!! Since them him and i have not spoken at work at all and he has actually been moved building to stop any arguements happening at work.

    I do have to be in a fair bit of meetings with him and always at the end he is like I can't believe you are making me have to leave my contract etc and I am like I'm not its nothing to do with me - if you want to leave then leave. All he goes on about everytime I see him is the baby. THe oh I can't stay here and watch you getting bigger etc. I would stay at work if I didnt have to see your stomach every day. Now we have already agreed that when the baby is born that he wont have anything to do with it - he doesnt want to know when its born, what it is, ever want to see it etc which I have finally accepted. Friday I finally exploded at him and was like for god sake if you want no dealings with this baby then why the hell do you go on about it ALL the time I see you. If you are not that fussed why are you letting it get to you??? He was like well I think what you are doing is sick - I think you are sick bringing a baby into this world with just one parent!!

    I think I am close to a breakdown with it all. I'm trying to remain calm and in control and just get on with my life but its getting me down.

    What the hell is his problem?????!!!

    I'm so sorry for the rant but Im just having a bad day!

    He's such a bloody charmer and has charmed me for the last 2 years and in reality I think he always will!

    aaarrrrrggghhh
     
  2. dollygirlie

    dollygirlie Mother

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    Do you have to keep seeing this guy? Am I right to believe that he is staying with you till the lease runs out? Can't he bugger off now, and pay up in front if its so terrible seeing you get bigger, what a tosser, sounds to me he is taking it out on you with his guilt. You really don't need this, perhaps you need to speak to a womens counciller or something to enpower yourself legally in this situation, remember you don't have to put up with this toss pot attall!
     
  3. lhamil88

    lhamil88 jack's mummy

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    i know the feeling hun (see me thread i'm new but need to rant) tell him to balls your the bigger one to not walk away from a situation stick to your guns although you have nothing to prove to him it shows you have the ability and strength to do what you believe is right and not throw a bitch fit when something doesn't go your way...but then again he's prob just trying to give you practice with dealing in temper tantrums lol xx

    behind you 100% chuck xx
     
  4. xarlenex

    xarlenex Well-Known Member

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    What an ass!! Its a shame you work with him, i doubt i'd be strong enough to see his face every single day without going mad! Your clearly a very strong women, don't let his immaturity get to you too much :hugs:
     

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