smokey
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We where over at OH family last night as normal having dinner and I let MIL give LO his dinner
she gave him a little more then I would have done but I thought at least he seems to be enjoying it for a change and actualy eating it so I let her get on with it.
About hour and half later he was due his bottle so I said we had to hold off leaving untill he had it, OH started moaning about geting home but I put my foot down saying that I dont like messing about with his milk feeds because if he falls asleep in the car I either have to wake him back up at home for it and then risk another 4 hours of him being late for bed or just put him in his cot without it and then he will be 7oz short and wake up just as we are going to bed.
Anyway at that point his gran starts going into one that im forcing milk on him and hes just had his dinner and doesnt need a bottle feed, I tried calmly explaining that he isnt ment to drop any milk yet untill hes at least 9 months just for food.
She starts having a go at me saying I dont know what im talking about and to just let him take the little top ups he needs from his milk now hes eating,
I told her no milk is more important then food as it has somthing like 5x the amount of nutrition and vitamins that any normal food has and its the milk thats most important to him now.
She just wouldnt listen and started going on about the sma advert (the one with the massive bottle of cows milk and iron) saying "well why would there be an advert showing how cows milk and food give alot more iron"
I just lost it at that point and said "try watching it better, the point of the advert is you have to give alot more to to fufill the same needs as a small amount of baby milk, the point is it give alot more nutrition without having to bloat them with too much otherstuff"
I ended up just saying no, I will feed him how I wish and he is not dropping ANY milk for the sake of food yet, thats why I dont like him having too much food at this stage.
She even said id get fat just because I finished the last 1 spoon of his dinner, even MIL piped up at that point and told her to not be so stupid its veg how can I get fat on a spoonfull of veg.
And his aunt stated on about if hes hungery give him more food, I tried saying why when I can give him more milk and id prefer that at this age but I was banging my head aginst a brick wall at that point because it suddenly became like I didnt know what I was doing and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family
Im just concerned now that if he is over with them as MIL takes him over sometime when shes out for a walk with him (I have no problem with MIL with this) that they will end up just giving him a yogurt or somthing and not bothering with his milk.
she gave him a little more then I would have done but I thought at least he seems to be enjoying it for a change and actualy eating it so I let her get on with it.
About hour and half later he was due his bottle so I said we had to hold off leaving untill he had it, OH started moaning about geting home but I put my foot down saying that I dont like messing about with his milk feeds because if he falls asleep in the car I either have to wake him back up at home for it and then risk another 4 hours of him being late for bed or just put him in his cot without it and then he will be 7oz short and wake up just as we are going to bed.
Anyway at that point his gran starts going into one that im forcing milk on him and hes just had his dinner and doesnt need a bottle feed, I tried calmly explaining that he isnt ment to drop any milk yet untill hes at least 9 months just for food.
She starts having a go at me saying I dont know what im talking about and to just let him take the little top ups he needs from his milk now hes eating,
I told her no milk is more important then food as it has somthing like 5x the amount of nutrition and vitamins that any normal food has and its the milk thats most important to him now.
She just wouldnt listen and started going on about the sma advert (the one with the massive bottle of cows milk and iron) saying "well why would there be an advert showing how cows milk and food give alot more iron"
I just lost it at that point and said "try watching it better, the point of the advert is you have to give alot more to to fufill the same needs as a small amount of baby milk, the point is it give alot more nutrition without having to bloat them with too much otherstuff"
I ended up just saying no, I will feed him how I wish and he is not dropping ANY milk for the sake of food yet, thats why I dont like him having too much food at this stage.
She even said id get fat just because I finished the last 1 spoon of his dinner, even MIL piped up at that point and told her to not be so stupid its veg how can I get fat on a spoonfull of veg.
And his aunt stated on about if hes hungery give him more food, I tried saying why when I can give him more milk and id prefer that at this age but I was banging my head aginst a brick wall at that point because it suddenly became like I didnt know what I was doing and they reverted to their normal "go to daddy" "wheres daddy" "do you love daddy" which is what they normaly do when trying to shut me out or make out like he is theres only and doesnt have a mummy or other side of family
Im just concerned now that if he is over with them as MIL takes him over sometime when shes out for a walk with him (I have no problem with MIL with this) that they will end up just giving him a yogurt or somthing and not bothering with his milk.
You did the right thing with not giving in to them, make sure if you leave him with MIL and she's there, you insist to MIL he has his milk because if not you won't feel comfortable leaving him if they disrupt your routine.
