Why does it bother me that....

[emlubu]

It's my birthday on 1st dec an it's really bothering me that my ex won't buy me a card or pressi or just a little something from my daughter?? Not sure why it's bothering me because all I need is my girl but it really is!!! We have his pressi for Christmas day but I have a feeling I won't be getting anything!!! Grrr why is it bothering me!!!

 

[Laura2919]

My birthdays 3rd Jan.. Maybe my mum will buy me something from the girls.

 

[babybambi2011]

2bh hun, it would bother me too! my birthday is 10 days after my daughters so in a way what i do for her bday will be part of my bday too... might take her to the zoo for her 1st bday. but i can understand.... it upsets me that i wont get anything off lily for xmas but i guess i just have to buy it myself and wrap it up n make it look like shes giving it to me lol

 

[emlubu]

That's what I'm doing but just nice to get a gift u didn't buy your self... Weird isn't it!!

 

[Rhio92]

I KNOW WHat you mean I always get dickhead a little card and present for Connor, but he never does the same for me x

 

[tiggercats]

I know what you mean, this year I didn't get a b'day card from LO, I didn't want/need anything so I couldn't care less about a present, I did get some b'day cash from FOB a few weeks after my b'day but no card and i was upset about the no card.

 

[bambinoccino]

Maybe talk to the ex about it... We are both doing presents for eachother from the kids but only a £10 budget so we know its not going to skint either of us...

I never got anything from DD1 Dad but I never sent him anything either. Can your mum or a friend not do it for you?

I don't mind doing it if you want a surprise! xx

 

[emlubu]

Well looks like I won't be getting anything off my daughter for my
Birthday then as least I have my daughter... Best gift ever!!

 

[kirst1805]

Aww hun, I'll sort you out a card from LO if you give me your address. XX

 

[angelpkj]

when i was pregnant i give my ex a birthday and christmas card off "bump"
he didn't return the favour even tho we was still together on my birthday and sorta at xmas

i even got his mum dad etc birthday cards off my son!
and then he had the cheek to jump on the bandwagon and say "thats my boy" pfft didnt see him sorting it for HIS parents

it was my birthday on the 7th of this month and wasnt looking forward to it as i didn't know if i'd get a card or not
but my mum pulled throught and got me one off my son

really didnt expect it

if i was on talking terms with my ex i would ask for a card,cause lets face it as lo grows up your gunna have to help LO do cards for fathers day etc

personally if he didnt get me a card or gift (gift wouldnt bother me really) then i wouldn't go out my way to get him a card or little somethin off LO

see how he likes it

 

[FutureRewind]

My ex's birthday was during my first round of supervised visits. I brought her a simple bunch of flowers and a card from our son. Her dad was supervising ..I had asked for that due to previous relationship arguments after the birth. I gave them to him and they were left on the table. She never acknowledged them during the visit and it was only after I texted her that night feeling guilty that I personally never wished her happy birthday did she say she didnt realise the flowers etc were brought by me.. hmmm.

Contact has soured since we went back to court. Her dad,has been abusive and they have broken the latest contact agreement so we're back in court again soon. She's now ignoring any attempts at contact by me. ..and treating me like dirt.. which is why I went to court in the first place.

Xmas is coming and I dont know if I'm being a doormat if I buy her something from my son. I feel guilty not buying something and this would only give her more ammunition to add to the usual vilification to all and sundry. Nothing is ever her fault you see...!

I pay her 165 a month, been paying since she was 4 months pregnant, I spent a few hundred in the first month after the birth, didnt see him for 3 months and then as soon as contact started again I bought nappies, wipes etc,. She said 165 isnt enough and I almost gave her 100 for her oil bill last week until I wised up.

Do you think I should get anything? It sounds like you all expect something from the FOB.

 

[Laura2919]

Happy Birthday.. hope you have a lovely day

I dont expect anything from FOB and nor should he expect anything from me.

As far as I am concerned we are no longer together. I dont even class him as a friend so if he wants something for his birthday he can get his mum to buy it or he can buy it himself.

Call me a bitch but why would I? He has been as difficult as difficult can be. He thinks its ok to agree something and then change it at the last minute.. He's just not very smart cos he doesnt have an ex who will just let him do what he wants.. I'll fight with all I have so the girls are with him on the days he is supposed to have them. As far as it goes he is just their dad, nothing else

 

[kirst1805]

Happy birthday hun!

XX

 

[MummyJade]

Happy Birthday!

I get Maizies Dad something for xmas but not birthday (only cos i wasn't talking to the twit)...

My Mum buys for Me from Maizie, but i know his Mum buy him from Maizie, so i think i do it cos i feel sorry for him...
x

 

[FutureRewind]

Happy Birthday.. hope you have a lovely day

I dont expect anything from FOB and nor should he expect anything from me.

As far as I am concerned we are no longer together. I dont even class him as a friend so if he wants something for his birthday he can get his mum to buy it or he can buy it himself.

Call me a bitch but why would I? He has been as difficult as difficult can be. He thinks its ok to agree something and then change it at the last minute.. He's just not very smart cos he doesnt have an ex who will just let him do what he wants.. I'll fight with all I have so the girls are with him on the days he is supposed to have them. As far as it goes he is just their dad, nothing else

Well I feel the same. There is no reason why I should have been treated like this and I'm the bad guy for taking her to court. I think she just expects me to give in and leave her with full control of my son and therefore me. You've helped me make my mind up. Thanks. No gift from me.