I think over the last few days I've realised what a taboo subject miscarriage is. We hide our pregnancies until 12 weeks when we hit the "safe" time. No one talks about miscarriage, and yet they are incredibly common. It seems everyone in the first trimester worries about it, but I'm guessing most people aren't talking to anyone in real life about it.
To some people the baby was very real from the moment they got two pink lines, but that baby is only grieved for privately. To some people it was a non viable pregnancy and never accepted as a baby, yet the biology of early pregnancies and the chances of miscarriage aren't talked about.
But why? Why don't we talk about it? Is it because it makes us too sad? Is it because people don't know what to say? Is it because we just want the wrong pregnancy to go away? Is it because we don't want to upset someone by talking about it in case they don't know what to say?
I've really feel that the silence needs to stop. We as women need to be able to talk about miscarriage. Its not a dirty word that should be hidden. Its something that many many women go through each year and all experiences are valid.
Yeah, I'm not planning on going up to strangers in the street and talking about it, but I am planning on blogging about my experiences and I won't be shying away from telling people. And next pregnancy I'll be telling people straight away and if things go wrong then I'll be up front about that too.
To some people the baby was very real from the moment they got two pink lines, but that baby is only grieved for privately. To some people it was a non viable pregnancy and never accepted as a baby, yet the biology of early pregnancies and the chances of miscarriage aren't talked about.
But why? Why don't we talk about it? Is it because it makes us too sad? Is it because people don't know what to say? Is it because we just want the wrong pregnancy to go away? Is it because we don't want to upset someone by talking about it in case they don't know what to say?
I've really feel that the silence needs to stop. We as women need to be able to talk about miscarriage. Its not a dirty word that should be hidden. Its something that many many women go through each year and all experiences are valid.
Yeah, I'm not planning on going up to strangers in the street and talking about it, but I am planning on blogging about my experiences and I won't be shying away from telling people. And next pregnancy I'll be telling people straight away and if things go wrong then I'll be up front about that too.