So lo is 9 months today and still doesnt sleep well. I think he can self settle cos often (not all the time) when i put him to bed all i do is sit by the cot not touching him or doing anything and he will just go to sleep and sometimes in the night he will whine a bit then change position and go back to sleep so he can get himself off to sleep but most nights hes still waking up about 4/5 times a night for no reason i mostly just go in a put his dummy back in or just put my hand on him and shh him and then he'll go back to sleep so why is he waking up? Also sometimes he wont go back to sleep he will just stay awake for up to 2 hours just whining, chatty, playing with the cot rails/cot bumper or rolling around the cot and nothing we do will send him off to sleep not feeding him, shhing, rocking, giving the dummy, leaving him to get himself to sleep putting on the projector thing that puts lights on the ceiling and plays music (i think this actually keeps him awake not sends him off!) Nothing! Sometimes i get so frustrated that i just leave him to cry but i cant do it more than 5/10 mins cos i just feel so mean! I dont want to do any sleep training that means i leave him to cry so please dont try and convince me to do this!! I think he is trying to go from 3 naps to 2 cos he fights his naps and will sometimes only nap for 15 mins but if he only has 2 naps then hes tired and grumpy but will go off to sleep easier and sleep longer so i have a big fight and 30/45 mins to get him to sleep or i have a grumpy and tired boy! He goes to bed at 7/7.30 every night after the same routine that hes had since he was tiny and normally goes off to sleep quickly but then 30 mins to 2 hours after hes awake again then up several times in the night after that! I tried taking his dummy away but he cried for 2 and a half hours and wouldnt settle without it then immediately went to sleep when i gave it back! I think I'll just let him keep it until hes 2/3 years old as he only has it when hes sleeping anyway! When will it get better? What can i do to help him sttn? Surely he should be able to do it by now? Any advise please?