Will he ever sttn if i dont do any sleep training that involves crying??!! :(

Yes they do, but you might need to change your expectations too. I personally don't think a 9 month old MUST sttn, so it doesn't bother me, I set age 2 as an expectation personally, but that's just me.

I've had a lot less stress with baby #2 now that I don't even think or worry about it. With my 1st (who was a horrid sleeper), I drove myself nuts aiming for that "sttn goal", when he just wasn't ready. So I just accepted it and life got better.

 

Very good advice from aliss there I think! What you describe sounds pretty standard for a 9-month-old. Mine was like that anyway. It's natural for babies and children to wake up during the night. Of course that doesn't mean it's easy to cope with but it will get better. My LO started sttn most nights around age one but of course there's always teething, cold, busy days etc to throw a spanner in the works. But they will sleep through sooner or later, so I figure I might as well accept that I can't majorly influence when and give us both a break. None of the sleep training methods work. They might seem to work for some people but if you look at the actual long-term outcome, from actual controlled research studies, they don't make babies sleep better at all. So try to get away from the thought that you're not doing things right. You are! Your baby is perfectly normal in his behaviour and will settle into longer periods of sleep when he's ready. Fingers crossed for you that it'll be soon.

 

we never sleep trained and our lo always slept just fine

 

I never ever did any sleep training with my daughter and she always fell asleep whilst feeding and no problem at all.
She didn't start to proper sttn until she was 8 months but then she started waking again and then sttn again etc etc.
At 9 months they're so busy trying to figure out crawling, standing, walking and that can wake them up. It's more likely things will go better once your little one is waking around and it's little head finally gets some peace as it's figured out how to get mobile.
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Yep honey it will get better.

My lo at that age was a horrid sleeper too, not so much at night buts naps were a joke!!!
Just stick to what your doing, if my lo wakes thru the night (which isnt too often now) i only go through if she gets upset for more than a couple of mins then put her dummy back and leave.
I never speak or do anything differently, consistency should bring it all right in the end honey.
I sometimes lie and listen to lo yammer away for half hour or more before she settles again, i still consider those nights as sttn as i havent had to get up!!

It will improve hang in there.

 

I haven't sleep trained and my LO sttn at 16 months. He doesn't do it consistantly but that was the first time. Since then it's been 50/50, although he has gone back to waking 3 or 4 times a night this week since we changed his cotbed to a toddler bed.

 

DD went through a bad spell of sleep between 7-10 months (for us bad was being up 3 times a night). I didn't sleep train and she did improve, then at 12 months she started sttn most nights.

 

Learning to crawl definitely screwed up DDs sleep. It was like having a newborn again zzzzzzz. But it got better when she learnt to crawl and when she learnt to go to sleep on her tummy (she'd always sleep on her back, roll over and get annoyed because she couldnt get back!).

 

I hope so for your sake! It's rough

 

Hi. I just picked up a couple of things from your op that may or may not help

Firstly, when my lo dropped to 2 naps we had to start putting her to bed an hour earlier so she wouldn't get overtired - have you thought about doing that?

Secondly, we used to do the dummy run a lot too. Have you thought about ways to help teach lo to put his own dummy back in? We use a sleepy tot and have a night light on so that she can find a dummy easily. We also started letting her practice putting the dummy back in by herself during the day (she only has one for sleeping too)

Hope that helps x

 

I'm so happy to read this! My lo is about 11 months and still wakes in the night! It's refreshing to read that most babies still wake. I put allot of presure on myself as I read from 6 months baby should be sttn and that you shouldn't give milk. But you know what every baby is different and it doesn't change how they grow up or the decisions they make in life x

 

A little known fact my HV told me, is that a hv/Dr/nurse classes a 6hr stretch as having sttn!!!

My lo's sleep is all over the place atm, but when I look at what he's been up to developmentally its no surprise really, at this age they're becoming mobile, cutting teeth, learning to eat solid foods, learning object permanence, and also separation anxiety can be a factor now,

Continue to reassure and settle your lo how you have been, stay consistent in your approach and it will settle down,

My lo has gone from waking every 2hrs last week to more like 4hrly now that he has cruising established and his 8th tooth has cut,

Hang in there mama, it gets better xx

 

Yup - I'm a MW and I'd class midnight - 6am as sleeping through the night.

 

I got a very short dummy chain at 13 mths Abd it made such a difference! He's slept through from then or least he can find his dummy himself. At 9 mths he was still having a night feed every so often. Don't worry about all those people who have babies sttn even though there seem to be a lot they are in the minority! Honestly 13 mths Abd sth changed for us Abd now at 19 mths he sleeps really well
... Apart from when he's ill like tonight bless him he's for a dodgy tummy so had a really sore bottom and I feel bad as I'm not sure how long he was like thar

 

Yes, my daughter did eventually. Just be patient.