Shri
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If I was in your position, I would simply play it really cool, not take any notice of your BIL's GF's statements about being called Auntie and never refer to her as auntie yourself.
Your child will call her what she calls her, and being called Auntie doesn't mean much unless the person behind the name means something to that child. I had aunties who I adored as a child and aunties who were only 'temporary' and as far as I knew the word 'auntie' was just a politeness and had no relation to whether the person was a relation or married or not. I called my mums friends 'auntie' until I was older. I was never confused about who was related to who and how.
In other words, I would take the power and energy out of the whole situation. If you give it too much importance it will only upset you more, if you know what I mean.
Your child will know who loves him/her and who is a faker. They always do.
Your child will call her what she calls her, and being called Auntie doesn't mean much unless the person behind the name means something to that child. I had aunties who I adored as a child and aunties who were only 'temporary' and as far as I knew the word 'auntie' was just a politeness and had no relation to whether the person was a relation or married or not. I called my mums friends 'auntie' until I was older. I was never confused about who was related to who and how.
In other words, I would take the power and energy out of the whole situation. If you give it too much importance it will only upset you more, if you know what I mean.
Your child will know who loves him/her and who is a faker. They always do.
