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I want to preface this by saying I'm sorry if something I say is upsetting. I am going to be very honest here, I kind of feel I need to be - as I have no one else to talk to about this.
Will you do anything different at all the next time you get pregnant?
I ask because I think I will... I think it would be involuntary, in some respects. Even now, nearly a year after the M/C (at 9.5 weeks), I still think, "What did I do wrong? Where did I mess up?" Though everyone says it wasn't my fault, it was probably some kind of "defect" or whatnot... I can't just accept that and stop thinking about it.
I wonder if maybe I didn't eat enough/eat the right things. Or maybe it was the artificial sweetener. I wonder about the acetaminophen that I was told (by the doctor) was okay to take for my headaches. Also about the prescriptions I didn't stop (for my asthma), because the risk if I stopped taking them would supposedly be greater. I don't want to have to think this way, but I can't help it.
So I don't know what I'll do - I think I'm going to be really scared of screwing things up again. I know for sure I will not take the acetaminophen. Probably will be more careful to avoid caffeine and artificial sweeteners as well. I don't know, I really don't.
And you know maybe, just MAYBE it was all because of how stressed and worried I was in the first place!! Last time I was worried because it was an unexpected pregnancy, I really didn't feel prepared in any way, I didn't feel like we could make it work (even though obviously we would have, someway). I don't want to be worried about "doing something wrong" so much that I get stressed again! Because stressing like that could be "wrong" itself!
I am rambling on now, so I will stop - but I wondered if anyone else had any thoughts on this?
Will you do anything different at all the next time you get pregnant?
I ask because I think I will... I think it would be involuntary, in some respects. Even now, nearly a year after the M/C (at 9.5 weeks), I still think, "What did I do wrong? Where did I mess up?" Though everyone says it wasn't my fault, it was probably some kind of "defect" or whatnot... I can't just accept that and stop thinking about it.
I wonder if maybe I didn't eat enough/eat the right things. Or maybe it was the artificial sweetener. I wonder about the acetaminophen that I was told (by the doctor) was okay to take for my headaches. Also about the prescriptions I didn't stop (for my asthma), because the risk if I stopped taking them would supposedly be greater. I don't want to have to think this way, but I can't help it.
So I don't know what I'll do - I think I'm going to be really scared of screwing things up again. I know for sure I will not take the acetaminophen. Probably will be more careful to avoid caffeine and artificial sweeteners as well. I don't know, I really don't.
And you know maybe, just MAYBE it was all because of how stressed and worried I was in the first place!! Last time I was worried because it was an unexpected pregnancy, I really didn't feel prepared in any way, I didn't feel like we could make it work (even though obviously we would have, someway). I don't want to be worried about "doing something wrong" so much that I get stressed again! Because stressing like that could be "wrong" itself!
I am rambling on now, so I will stop - but I wondered if anyone else had any thoughts on this?