Wishing you'd gone with your 'other' choice name...?

[twiggy56]

Well firstly, im in LOVE with abigail's name....was always our first choice and we BOTH loved it which was miraculous...so it was a no-brainer.

However as much as I love the name im still not convinced shes an 'abigail'? People always used to say that whatever you name them, thats all they will ever be known by, so therefore they just suit it?! Its not as bad now shes getting older, even the past week or two iv found she does actually look like an abigail...but.....

I had another name in mind at the time of her birth- one that iv never heard used before and OH really didnt like but some days im finding myself looking at her thinking this name...and maybe she wouldve suited it more? Even though I dont love it as much as 'Abigail' if that makes sense?

 

[luvmyangel]

Picking a name is really hard choice, and a really big one so no wonder you have your doubts but Abigail is a very pretty name! You may not think its perfect now but i bet it will be soon in the future, and she will grow in to fitting it perfectly.

What was the other name you were thinking about?

 

[kiwimama]

We didn't really have another name choice - we found it really tough coming up with girls names we both liked and when we finally decided on Ella, although I liked it, I didn't love it and was really uncertain about it. Even for months after she was born I kept thinking she didn't really suit Ella and wondered if she should have been called something else. It did take awhile but she really is an Ella, and I couldn't imagine ever calling her anything else.
Could you actually imagine changing Abigail's name to the other one you had in mind or this is just something you have going on in your head at the moment? As time goes on, you'll find more and more that she really is an Abigail and after awhile you'll wonder how you ever thought that she wasn't an Abigail, as she is and no other name will ever suit her!

 

[MUMOF5]

Ive been there and done that .
When Maddie was born we named her Daisy. Although I love it this was not my first name choice but was the only one that both me and DH could agree on. I got the choice on middle names - Madeleine May - after both of my nans .

I had the feeling it didnt suit her for a couple of months and would avoid calling her by her name, calling her all manner of cute pet names instead. Then out of the blue DH said to me that he didnt think she looked like a Daisy and I admitted that Id felt the same for a long time, after a week of thinking about it and conferring with other family members (who all agreed with us) we decided to change her names around. So she became Madeleine Daisy May. Madeleine (Maddie) suits her so much more than Daisy and it was almost a relief for me. We decided to do it legally, just to avoid any confusion for her in the future.

It can be done, babies up to the age of 1 year in the UK (as long as they havent been christened/baptised) can have their names changed on their birth certificates.

I personally think that Abigail is a nice name, but if it doesnt feel right then my advice is dont ignore it. . xx

 

[twiggy56]

The other name I had was Ever...well actually Everleigh I loved how id never heard another little girl called Ever and I thought it was beautiful and loved the meaning...


MO5- thats interesting you actually changed her name! I actually think I remember your thread now you say that.

She is suiting it now shes a little older, im thinking of maybe going down the 'Abbie' route to see if thats any better...but I really LOVE the name abigail...people have shortened it to abi and iv always corrected them...its ABIGIAL.

but now im wondering whether the change might actually suit her?

 

[MUMOF5]

The other name I had was Ever...well actually Everleigh I loved how id never heard another little girl called Ever and I thought it was beautiful and loved the meaning...


MO5- thats interesting you actually changed her name! I actually think I remember your thread now you say that.

She is suiting it now shes a little older, im thinking of maybe going down the 'Abbie' route to see if thats any better...but I really LOVE the name abigail...people have shortened it to abi and iv always corrected them...its ABIGIAL.

but now im wondering whether the change might actually suit her?

I like Abbie

 

[happigail]

As an Abigail I love to be called Abbie. I am always so proud of being called Abigail when it's called out but there is a softness to Abbie that feels nice.

 

[RubyRainbows]

I think Ever / Everleigh is a gorgeous name! Maybe someday down the road Abigail will have a little sister named Everleigh!

I love the name Abby... so pretty!

Glad the name is starting to sound right to you.

I changed my son's name the day he was born... and was so unsure & reluctant to commit to one name... but once i did, i never looked back!

 

[peanut56]

I absolutely love the name Everleigh But Abigail is really pretty too. Tough choice!!

 

[purpledahlia]

Did i get this in your head when we were talking about names the other week.... *blush*...

I think you should do what *feels* right...

Maybe test out abbie and see how you get on?

 

[Pyrrhic]

I wanted Niamh to be Elizabeth or Florence, both of which my now ex disliked. For a long time I wish I'd stuck to my guns about it. Especially Elizabeth as it meant something to me. In the last 6 months though I have started to realise I can't imagine her having any other name, as much as I loved the other two

 

[twiggy56]

thanks for all the advice ladies...iv been calling abigail 'abbie' for the past day or two, it feels strange though, I think because 'Abbie' is a name in itself? It feels like im calling her by a totally different name like shes not even her iykwim?...even though its just abigail shortened....

Im still really loving Ever, I look at her when shes in a little dress sitting in the sunshine and think...aww she would've been such a cute 'Everleigh'...its just too far down the line to change it?!

Telling family, friends, loads of stuff already has her name on it...

Claire- iv been thinking about it a while but just never really said anything, now its kinda like a lump stuck in my throat

 

[Blob]

I have to say i LOVE the name Ever and Everleigh its gorgeous and Abs is a little madam (shouting at you and all) i really think that would suit her Sorry hun you prob will hit me for saying it though *hides* Does Jamie feel the same? I do also love Abbie though and its a really nice name...I feel mean saying that
I look at Tabs and i have never wanted to call her something else and i LOVELOVE her name...Just thinking it will be something that will piss you off...esp you Laura

 

[purpledahlia]

Sarah's right is it something that is gonna niggle away at you forever? you have untill shes 1 to decide really.. i dont think 6 months down the line is to far.. a few years is tho.. speak to jamie! x

 

[twiggy56]

Sarah im not going to hit you woman! I think she suits it too...

Id rather you be honest, and if im being honest...I like Everleigh more than 'Abigail' these days....theres no way J would let me change her name...for one I said the other day I didnt think she 'suited' her name and he said 'What you guna do? change it?! Dont be ridiculous'....and two....he really doesnt like the name Ever

Im worried I wont grow out of this and it'l eat away at me and all the 'shoulda dont it when I could've' thoughts...

 

[DottyLottie]

I am slightly different in that I named my daughter Amberley, because it was my most favourite name ever, I had no other names even on the list when she was born.
My middle child did not have a name at all for the first 3 weeks of her life, as OH and I could not agree, and in the end I was co-erced into calling her Hazel (long story), which though I liked, had never been on my list.

10 years on, I love the name Hazel but have gone off the name Amberley a bit! All the family calls my daughter Amber anyway, but as her full name is Amberley lots of people still call her this, especially at school, doctors etc and when I hear it, it makes me cringe a bit... how bad is that?!! I have never admitted that to anyone lol

 

[Blob]

Could you think of another name?? I would also just worry that you will always wonder??

 

[purpledahlia]

What about the other name you mentioned that you'd liked and J mentioned recently he liked it, even altho he said he didnt at the time... T... u know what one i mean?

 

[twiggy56]

DottyLottie- thanks for sharing You're OH obviously knew you better than you knew yourself Which is lovely! Im worried however that even though I ADORE the name 'abigail'....i'l always wonder, like you cringe with hearing Amberly (which is gorgeous btw)? iykwim?

Claire- I dont think thats an option

sarah- im terrified you're right....and I WILL always wonder What do I do though...I think almost everyone iv asked thinks changing her name now would be a bad idea

 

[purpledahlia]

Only you and jamie will know whats the best thing to do you need to just weigh it up..

will you regret it.. will you regret not changing it.. will you regret changing it if you did.. what if the new name isnt 'right' either.. etc.

Ive often wondered because i loved quite a few names, she was an Ava from very early on but i did adore other names, I definately need more girls ha ha ha