Women who had m/c in October

[Wishfull]

Hello ladies i just wondered how everyone was feeling after m/c in october. I had my m/c on the 23rd at 10weeks. I would say the first week and a half was nightmare really was. Then as the days went on everyday got a little easyier. An i mean only a little easier. The crying got less and less and thinking about it all every moment got less an less. But i still think about it everyday. Now nearly 3 weeks on i feel a little more at peace with what happend its still there close to the surfuce waiting to pop out an make me cry but i can say im getting a better with dealing with it.

Just wanted to know how everyone else was feeling?

Take care ladies.

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[Shazzy]

Hi, i M/C early October. Im starting to feel better now. The first two weeks was really bad, i was first in complete denial, thought the doctors were wrong!(in my heart i knew though) then was angry (shame my poor DH) and then sadness. Even today i lurk in the 1st tri section thinking i should be there. It does get better with each day, but i will never forget.
I went to my Doctor for a check up ultra sound last week, he told me i am ovulating, that made me feel allot better, even though i dont want to replace my baby i feel as if its a second chance. I know ill be scared as hell though if i do become pregnant.
One thing about this mc ive learnt is that i will not take anything for granted if i do become pregnant, I want the morning sickness, i want to feel bloated, i dont care if i get strechmarks, labour pain???? bring it on! as long as my baby is safe and sound for nine months and beyond!

Take care,

 

[sam76]

yes me too all i want is a baby to stick, 2 m/c and very scared but im DEFFO not going to give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[moomoo]

Hi, i M/C early October. Im starting to feel better now. The first two weeks was really bad, i was first in complete denial, thought the doctors were wrong!(in my heart i knew though) then was angry (shame my poor DH) and then sadness. Even today i lurk in the 1st tri section thinking i should be there. It does get better with each day, but i will never forget.
I went to my Doctor for a check up ultra sound last week, he told me i am ovulating, that made me feel allot better, even though i dont want to replace my baby i feel as if its a second chance. I know ill be scared as hell though if i do become pregnant.
One thing about this mc ive learnt is that i will not take anything for granted if i do become pregnant, I want the morning sickness, i want to feel bloated, i dont care if i get strechmarks, labour pain???? bring it on! as long as my baby is safe and sound for nine months and beyond!

Take care,

Hi Shazzy, I wrote a post in ttc saying exactly the same!

I have found that ive found it harder to deal with now, its almost like i greive for where i should be in my pregnancy rather than when i lost the baby..if you know what i mean xx

 

[colsy]

I m/c a day or so before you. I went to hospital on the 22nd, but when I look back it all started on the 20th or 21st. I was "only" six weeks. The word "only" is what most people who haven't m/c might use, but to me it was my baby and therefore "only" was not the right word at all. Having said that, I suspect that m/c at six weeks is much easier, both physically and psychologically, than m/c at ten weeks or later.

For the first week I was a mess. I scared myself at the hospital, because I didn't know I could lose control of myself like I did there. It was the middle of the night, and I literally just howled as I sat down at the A&E reception desk. The poor woman on the desk didn't know what to do with me!

Anyway, moving on ... about ten days later, I thought that I was done with crying. I still thought about the m/c every day, and I dreamed about it quite a bit too. Then we went to stay with friends for the weekend. I had to tell my friend, because OH and I had already started TTC again and I needed to explain why my alcohol consumption would be about half a unit over the entire weekend! And just as I started to tell her, I started to cry all over again, which scared me a bit, because like I say I thought my tears were finished with. After that, I felt a huge sense of relief ... she was the only person who knew, and yet just telling one person really took the weight off me.

And now here we are, nearly a month on. OH and I haven't waited for to come along, and we just launched straight into TTC. I had a teensy bit of spotting yesterday (implantation?), and I've had a few AF-like cramps, my BBs are feeling bigger again, and I keep weeing. So guess what I'm hoping?! I am really trying hard not to get my hopes up, as I think we would just be tooooo lucky if this was our month again, and yet, and yet ...

I am refusing to test for at least two more weeks - I want to see first whether AF comes along next week and whether I get any more symptoms. It's quite easy for me not to test, as I have no tests in the house and my nearest pharmacies are both a few miles away, in villages that I have no other need to visit this week.

So that's my story. Here's hoping there's a happy ending to it Likewise, I hope the rest of you on this thread get your as soon as you would like to.

XX

 

[Shazzy]

Darn moomoo now you have me searching for it! well you know what they say about great minds....

 

[colsy]

Darn moomoo now you have me searching for it! well you know what they say about great minds....

I'm searching too ... could you give us the link?

Thanks!

 

[princess_t]

I misscarried last monday still really really down. sorry for your loss hun. xx hugs

 

[1st_baby]

I had a MC towards the end of oct . still sad about it but not too much as the PG was not planned anyway it just happ so im seeing it as it was not meant to be

 

[Rumpskin]

I only found out I miscarried last Wednesday at my 12 week scan. LO had died four weeks previous.

I had last week off of work as I started bleeding/cramping and was told to rest. Have not been home since last Thursday when I was taken by ambulance to hospital - not a nice experience and one that I will never forget.

I have been staying at my parents and will be due to go home soon. I picked up a sickness/diahoerra buggy thing which doctor thinks could be from the hospital or I have an infection in my uterus. He has signed me off for 2 weeks.

I know that when i go home, I can grieve properly.

My midwife phoned today as she followed up my notes from when i phoned the hospital last week for advice on the bleeding. She has told me to have a follow up appointment at the doctors. This is my second miscarriage this year and she feels that perhaps I could get some intervention.

xxxx

 

[JASMAK]

I m/c Oct. 7. Doing OK. I have ups and downs. Life has been busy, so that certainly helps distract. I am not going to go to the calender and count how many weeks I "should have" been...because I have done that before, and it is 40 weeks of torture. I am TTC again with Clomid and Progesterone. I hope that my next pregnancy is a sticky, because I don't think I can stand to lose another.

 

[jenna_rios]

my fiancee and i have been ttc for a while. i just recently had a miscarriage on oct. 5th. i was only about 5 weeks. known for 5 then started bleeding. it is so hard. i just finished and sent the packin. i am fertile this week and hopefully ov friday or saturday. we were hoping to get pregnant before another cycle, but no go. thats ok though, im glad i got one in between and if we get pregnant this month than i wont be so worried (WILL STILL BE WORRIED WITHOUT A DOUBT, but less i hope). good luck to all of us in the running for NOVEMBER

LOTS OF

 

[Wishfull]

Thank you for your posts ladies. Just wanted to know how everyone is getting on. Im glad to hear that some of you are ttc again or at least thinking about it. Im not sure if anyone has follwed my posts but im no longer with my partner. So i wont be ttc again. I am dealing with it better. But i still miss my little baby. I try not to think of at what stage i would be at now. Or how my baby would be doing now. I can only be at peace with myself if i think of my baby up in heaven in an angels tummy still growing.
Glad everyones getting a bit better.
Also so so sorry for everyones losses.
PM me if anyone wants a chat.
Take care
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[colsy]

Oh, Wishfull, I had no idea that you were no longer with your partner. I probably wouldn't have gone on about TTC if I'd known. I'm so sorry - this really must be a difficult time for you. I hope that life gets better and that one day soon you find your dreams.

XX

 

[Wishfull]

Oh, Wishfull, I had no idea that you were no longer with your partner. I probably wouldn't have gone on about TTC if I'd known. I'm so sorry - this really must be a difficult time for you. I hope that life gets better and that one day soon you find your dreams.

XX

No dont worry about it really. Im happy for those who are ttc again. Its a sad but happy and hopefull time for everyone.
Hope all goes well for everyone.
And thanks i hope i find my dreams soon too. This site has been a great help through this difficult time.
Take care
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[morayo]

hi all i m/cd on the 19th oct at 6weeks, it was a very difficult time for me and it shook my marriage a bit too cos i was all tears and nerves, i decided to go back to work after a week and that sorta helped me cos my work is a bit occupying, now my oh an d i are ttc and though i still get those sad twinges of what could have been very often its getting farther and farther apart, i love this site and all the wonderful people in it just reading other peoples experiences and sharing in their joy has a calming effect on me and gives me more hope that my babies will still come and this time too stay. im sorry about ur parther though. i guess it must have been double tuff on ya!hugs

 

[moomoo]

Darn moomoo now you have me searching for it! well you know what they say about great minds....

I'm searching too ... could you give us the link?

Thanks!

https://www.babyandbump.com/trying-...tchmarks-big-sore-boobs-sleepless-nights.html

Here you go girls

 

[Shazzy]

Aww moomoo, there seems to be allot of great minds!
Ok so when we get our ill be watching to see if anyone complains and if you see me complain just give me a big slap

 

[Rumpskin]

Thank you for your posts ladies. Just wanted to know how everyone is getting on. Im glad to hear that some of you are ttc again or at least thinking about it. Im not sure if anyone has follwed my posts but im no longer with my partner. So i wont be ttc again. I am dealing with it better. But i still miss my little baby. I try not to think of at what stage i would be at now. Or how my baby would be doing now. I can only be at peace with myself if i think of my baby up in heaven in an angels tummy still growing.
Glad everyones getting a bit better.
Also so so sorry for everyones losses.
PM me if anyone wants a chat.
Take care
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh sweetheart, I have just read your thread. I am so very very sorry to hear that you are no longer together. You sound so brave to have had to cope with two difficult situations together. I am not a religious person at all but I have a belief that my little angels are happy playing together and being looked until the day that I can be reunited with them xxx

 

[mugzy]

I lost my baby one month ago today and I'm not coping so well. I have good moments, but for the most part I feel miserable. All I can think about is that this time last month I had my precious little bundle in my arms. He was cold and dead and nothing could change that, but he was mine. And I never wanted to let him go. I still miss him