Worried about a friend...

[kellysays2u]

So I found out today that my EX- BFs just recently ex-girlfriend is pregnant. Now I dont quite no the whole story but I think they broke up because she is pregnant and I dont think he is happy about it... I thought I was pregnant once when I was with him and he was very excited about having a child only to find out I wasn't. We broke up shortly after that. We talk every once in awhile and he is never happy anymore... I think she just told him yesterday that she was pregnant... even though they broke up about a week or two ago. I just dont know what to do or say. I want to ask him if it was what he wanted but I dont want to make him mad. As of right now I don't even no for sure if the baby is his. He hasn't written back to me on that fact. She is only 15 he is 17... So technically he could go to jail for it to cause it would be considered statatory (or however you spell it) rape over here and I am not sure if maybe that was the reason for the break up and if there is anything I can say to make him feel better.... I just dont know what to do...

 

[nikky0907]

Statutory rape law in New England goes that a person above the age of consent (i.e your ex boyfriend) may have sex with a person below the age of consent ( his ex girlfriend) but above the age of 13 if there is less then 3 years age difference between them.

There is a two year difference between them so thats something you don't have to worry about.

As far as the baby, thats really something they need to work out by themselves, it's very sweet of you to worry and maybe it wouldn't hurt to talk to him and give him an advice from the perspective of an expectant mother but in the end he needs to figure out what to do next.

xxx

 

[kellysays2u]

I know they have to work it out on there own. But just a question since you seem like you know how it works. If it is his kid and its just that she doesn't want him around for the baby and he wants to be does he have the legal right to see his child or can she keep him from seeing his child?

 

[chrissy&marty]

im not sure about the law thing but i didnt want to read and run, its a tricky situation and i would tread carefully, u dont want to upset ether of them...perhaps just letting him know that you are their for him if he wants to talk or what ever is the best thing you can do because they are probly both very scared.
hope it all works out and sowi i couldnt help much xxx

 

[nikky0907]

I know they have to work it out on there own. But just a question since you seem like you know how it works. If it is his kid and its just that she doesn't want him around for the baby and he wants to be does he have the legal right to see his child or can she keep him from seeing his child?

If she keeps him away from the child he can go to court, get a DNA test preformed on the child once he/she is born and if it indeed proves to be his he can get visitation rights.

However he will also be made to pay child support and the DNA analisis + court expenses will cost him a lot. I hope he can afford all this?

 

[kellysays2u]

His family would probably help to afford the court costs and everything. He would be able to handle the child support though once it got to that stage. I guess now its just a matter of him finding out what is going on with her as she wont tell him anything I guess.

 

[sammie18]

Its a 4 year age diff thing in the US It will be diff in england. So Im not to sure if he could get in trouble I think he would if he was 18 but im not to sure. Hopefully they work somthing out.

 

[bbcc55]

She is only 15 he is 17... So technically he could go to jail for it to cause it would be considered statatory (or however you spell it) rape over here

Hey well Im 17 and i live in the US to. I was watcuing the news and they said that if you and your partner are more then 3 years apart than they would consider it rape. Or if the parents and or her reported it as rape then it wouldnt be considered rape. Just thought I would let you know that.