Worried about autism again- hand leading

[Shey]

Jayden did point when he was 15months but he has mild high functioning Autism. Being that his dad has ADHD and I have Aspergers. But every child is different.

 

[Amy31]

Does your LOs interact? My LO doesn't really respond to his name, only sometimes and doesn't really interact with other children (unless it is a game of chase) or adults.

What do you mean by "interact"? Mine doesn't really "play" with children, but I think at this age they pretty much are known to just parallel play, where they play near each other and not necessarily with each other. Mine interacts with other children only if they have something she wants. Then she will try and take it. She interacts with adults, but is very slow to warm up to anyone. If it is someone she knows well she likes to play, but if it is a stranger she will stick to me like glue for a bit and then slowly get comfortable. She may play a little with them if they get on the floor or make the effort, but if they are just sitting there talking to me she makes no effort to play with them. If it is someone she knows well, like my mom, then she won't leave her alone and wants to play- even if my mom is just sitting there trying to have a conversation with me. So it really depends on if she knows them or not. Mine responds to her name most of the time, but there are definitely times she ignores me, and many times she ignores only me but not dh or my mom. Are you worried about your lo's hearing at all? I've heard that many times it could be a hearing issue. I know that with mine it is not hearing as she will mostly respond, and when she ignores me it truly feels like she is ignoring me and not deaf. A couple times I even caught her giving me the quick glance with her eyes- so I know she heard me and just is not interested in what I have to say. It's usually when she is busy doing something fun and probably doesn't want me to take her away. Sometimes she even starts to run away- like she realizes I am going to make her do something she doesn't want to. She hasn't quite learned yet that I can run a lot faster!

Our LOs sound similar. I met up at toddler group today and spoke to some of the mums and the toddlers are all so similar just developing differently. I am a worrier to start with but will see the HV next week. I am hoping to get a hearing test done but I don't think they will do it until he is older - but I will try and push for it. But like you I think my LO is just choosing to ignore me - but don't teenagers do that as well xx

 

[Amenmom]

Hey i know you posted this along time ago but my childs going through the same and wanted to get an update from ya

My 19 month is the same and I am going creazy,I will be happy for any updates

 

[DobbyForever]

I know this is an old post, but have you mentioned this to your pediatrician? You can always go through the evaluation and decline services but tbh the earlier you test the more likely you are to get a false diagnosis. But the upside is diagnosis means access to so many more resources.

Try doing the online MCHAT-R to get a baseline risk assessment. My son (diagnosed) has consistently scored moderate risk. I get bored every so often and redo it. Tbh he didn’t even start hand leading until fairly recently.

 

[Amenmom]

My son points and now does handleading les but still does sometime specially if he want to go out,he understand simple commands and respond to his name or he knows what happens around him,he had some word but he doesn't use them a lot..he use to do a lot thing before,now he doesn't do anymore like he wawe and then he stop and now he wawe agen,he use to clap now he does less,what concerns me is because he doesn't iven to touch his little sister, but take from her evrything like dummi etj,nex week will be 19 month and now hi start to spin weels (no all day but he does)HV told she doesn't see anything to worried in his 18 month check,maybe he has 16-17 words but he doesn't use them much...I am very confused

 

[DobbyForever]

Not sure where you are, but you have to trust your gut. Here, the pediatrician puts in a referral to the developmental pediatrician to assess and diagnose and treat developmental delays. My son was behind in some milestones but but enough to worry his pediatrician. He’s also very chatty and loving and comes off as a child without ASD. But there were other big concerns and so I held my ground. Luckily, I interviewed her beforehand and one question I had for her was what would you do if we disagree he has an issue and she said she tends to side with parents because we know our children best. So she referred him. You have to trust your gut.

 

[mummy2lola]

Hi new in this section as was coming in to look for autism posts....my son has just turned 3 but was diagnosed with autism by 30months,I just wanted to say that when our specialist asked about pointing and I said he didn’t she asked if he found another way to communicate like “guiding ur hand” to what he wanted and I said no nothing,she put that down instantly and said the fact that he was not trying to lead my hand was a sign as most toddlers will find some way to communicate their needs,by the sounds of things and with everyone else’s lo on here ur lo sounds right on track xx