spacecadet
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hello, i need some advice - some good friends have just moved back to new zealand to have their baby, everything went wrong, as soon as they got back she was hospitalised and then had to have a very traumatic due to placent pravia c/s and they both nearly died baby was born at 32 weeks,
well baby is 3 months old now, she has been home a month, thriving putting on weight etc..
my friend is suffering very badly from post natal depression
she crys all day has no interest in anything and wont leave the house (she went from being surrounded by friends in uk to not knowing anyone where they now live and no close family) this is not like her at all!
i have just got a landline phone connected so want to call her tonight and have a proper chat (so far just been communicating with her husband on msn) she doesnt do computers so i cant skype her either.. (if only she could this forum may help her!) she must feel so isolated!
has anyone got any advice? any mums that had bad post natal depression got any advice as to what i can say if anything in a short amount of time to help her at all!! im so worried about her but dont want to say the wrong thing or not say anything helpful, there must be something i can do from here!!! im looking forward to speaking to her but worried incase she wont talk or open up to me shes a very proud happy woman normally.. she wanted to breastfeed but thats not going well apparently and they just switched to formula, husband is doing most of the childcare as well as working full time.. she is on medication apparently for it and social workers there have been visiting, i wish i knew more!
please there must be something i can do to help! i wish they hadnt gone back home selfish i know but at least i could have gone to see her regularly!
thanks in advance for any replies xx
well baby is 3 months old now, she has been home a month, thriving putting on weight etc..
my friend is suffering very badly from post natal depression
she crys all day has no interest in anything and wont leave the house (she went from being surrounded by friends in uk to not knowing anyone where they now live and no close family) this is not like her at all!
i have just got a landline phone connected so want to call her tonight and have a proper chat (so far just been communicating with her husband on msn) she doesnt do computers so i cant skype her either.. (if only she could this forum may help her!) she must feel so isolated!
has anyone got any advice? any mums that had bad post natal depression got any advice as to what i can say if anything in a short amount of time to help her at all!! im so worried about her but dont want to say the wrong thing or not say anything helpful, there must be something i can do from here!!! im looking forward to speaking to her but worried incase she wont talk or open up to me shes a very proud happy woman normally.. she wanted to breastfeed but thats not going well apparently and they just switched to formula, husband is doing most of the childcare as well as working full time.. she is on medication apparently for it and social workers there have been visiting, i wish i knew more!
please there must be something i can do to help! i wish they hadnt gone back home selfish i know but at least i could have gone to see her regularly!
thanks in advance for any replies xx